Welcome to the Helping Couples Heal podcast. If you have lost hope around healing your relationship due to infidelity, relational or betrayal trauma you have come to the right place. Helping Couples Heal is an ongoing podcast designed to help couples recover and heal from the impact of betrayal trauma on their relationships. We cumulatively bring over two decades of experience and expertise in the field of betrayal. Throughout this podcast series, we will offer resources and support and teach you the tools and skills necessary to heal your relationship. You will also hear from recovered addicts, partners, and couples who will share their stories, as well as from experts in the field of betrayal. With compassion, love and fierce commitment, we will guide you and walk beside you as you navigate this journey of recovery, hope, and healing. Thank you for inviting us into your world; we are honored to support you.

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with a couple about how the HCH couples community has profoundly changed and transformed their relationship. As Corrie and Pat reflect on their experience, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of community and connection in healing from betrayal trauma.

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with a couple about how the HCH couples community has profoundly changed and transformed their relationship. As Corrie and Pat reflect on their experience, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of community and connection in healing from betrayal trauma.

40: Community

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We hope you enjoy this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast. This is a repost of an interview on Sex Help with Carol the Coach where Carol interviewed Marnie about the Helping Couples Heal Online Couples Community and why community is so important for couples recovering from betrayal trauma. To learn more about the community, click the link below.https://helpingcouplesheal.com/helping-couples-heal-online-couples-community/

We hope you enjoy this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast. This is a repost of an interview on Sex Help with Carol the Coach where Carol interviewed Marnie about the Helping Couples Heal Online Couples Community and why community is so important for couples recovering from betrayal trauma.

To learn more about the community, click the link below.

https://helpingcouplesheal.com/helping-couples-heal-online-couples-community/

Special Episode - Carol The Coach interviews Marnie about the HCH Couples Community

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Duane and Marnie answer a listener&#39;s question about what to expect further along the recovery road for a couple recovering from betrayal trauma. What does moving forward look like after early tasks such as disclosure have been achieved? What&#39;s on the other side? Should there be more to compensate for years of acting out and integrity abuse? Marnie and Duane answer some of these questions and explore what life can look like beyond recovery when both partners are very much invested in healing the relationship

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Duane and Marnie answer a listener's question about what to expect further along the recovery road for a couple recovering from betrayal trauma. What does moving forward look like after early tasks such as disclosure have been achieved? What's on the other side? Should there be more to compensate for years of acting out and integrity abuse? Marnie and Duane answer some of these questions and explore what life can look like beyond recovery when both partners are very much invested in healing the relationship

39: Life After Recovery

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of full transparency in a relationship traumatized by betrayal. Often we hear from hopeless partners who are in so much pain because after the discovery of betrayal, there remains a lack of integrity, specifically when it comes to full transparency.  Full transparency allows a partner to move from a place of trauma and despair to a place of security, trust, and healing. To those who have betrayed their partner, helping your partner and your relationship heal from betrayal trauma requires full transparency and the willingness to consistently provide evidence of fidelity and honesty when requested. Recognizing that a partner is seeking safety after discovery and taking action to provide full transparency without resistance, defensiveness, or anger is essential to relational healing.  www.helpingcouplesheal.com

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of full transparency in a relationship traumatized by betrayal. Often we hear from hopeless partners who are in so much pain because, after the discovery of betrayal, there remains a lack of integrity, specifically when it comes to full transparency.  

Full transparency allows a partner to move from a place of trauma and despair to a place of security, trust, and healing. To those who have betrayed their partner, helping your partner and your relationship heal from betrayal trauma requires full transparency and the willingness to consistently provide evidence of fidelity and honesty when requested. Recognizing that a partner is seeking safety after discovery and taking action to provide full transparency without resistance, defensiveness, or anger is essential to relational healing.  

www.helpingcouplesheal.com

38: Transparency After Betrayal

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of managing expectations around the time it takes to heal relationships after the discovery of betrayal.  Learn more about our workshop:https://helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/ Learn more about our online couples community:https://helpingcouplesheal.com/helping-couples-heal-online-couples-community/

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of managing expectations around the time it takes to heal relationships after the discovery of betrayal. 

Learn more about our workshop:
https://helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

Learn more about our online couples community:
https://helpingcouplesheal.com/helping-couples-heal-online-couples-community/



37: Time and Expectations

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the topic of shame, the greatest obstacle/barrier to healing relationships after betrayal. It is crucial that a betraying partner be accountable for their betrayal; shame doesn’t accomplish that. Shame makes healing much harder, perhaps impossible. What accompanies shame most often is the feeling of hopelessness because it tells you that this (what you have done) is who you have always been and always will be. Rather than conceptualizing your betrayal as behavior that caused trauma to your intimate partner (and perhaps others as well), shame frames the betrayal as an integral part of your identity. Most people who feel that, at their core, they are bad will not believe that they are worthy of forgiveness and healing. While humility pushes you to change and become a better person, shame paralyzes and prevents you from growing and healing. It disables you, blocking your capacity to take the necessary steps to heal yourself or your relationship. Relational healing requires the ability to be relational and present. Shame does the opposite; it pushes you away from your spouse at precisely the moment you should be trying to rebuild your connection.If shame is keeping you or your relationship stuck, please listen to this episode. https://helpingcouplesheal.com/

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the topic of shame; the greatest obstacle/barrier to healing relationships after betrayal. 

It is crucial that a betraying partner be accountable for his/her betrayal, shame doesn’t accomplish that. In fact, shame makes healing much harder, perhaps impossible. 

What accompanies shame most often is the feeling of hopelessness, because it tells you that this (what you have done) is who you have always been and always will be. Rather than conceptualizing your betrayal as behavior that caused trauma to your intimate partner (and perhaps others as well), shame frames the betrayal as an integral part of your identity. Most people who feel that at their core they are bad will not believe that they are worthy of forgiveness and healing. 

While humility pushes you to change and become a better person, shame paralyzes and prevents you from growing and healing. It disables you, blocking your capacity to take the necessary steps to heal yourself or your relationship. 

Relational healing requires the ability to be relational and present.  Shame does the opposite; it pushes you away from your spouse at precisely the moment you should be trying to rebuild your connection.

If shame is keeping you or your relationship stuck, please listen to this episode.

36: Shame

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PLEASE READ BEFORE LISTENING:Please be advised that we will be talking about sexuality in this episode and, at times, will be using graphic language that may be triggering or bring up uncomfortable emotions for some. The content of this episode will not be appropriate for those of you who have recently had discovery, are in acute trauma or crisis, and/or have not yet (or have just started) to work on relational healing. This episode is for our listeners who are at a place in their healing and couples recovery where they want to begin to explore sexuality after betrayal. We don&#39;t believe anyone should even consider being sexual with a partner when there is a lack of safety, ongoing abuse, or danger. Sexual Reintegration comes at a later stage of recovery once there has been trauma reduction/resolution and relational stabilization. Episode SynopsisIn this episode, Marnie and Duane talk with sex expert Dr. Emily Morse about sexual health and wellness and how to create the safety necessary for couples recovering from betrayal trauma. By exploring such questions as &#34;What is healthy sexuality?&#34; and &#34;What is not healthy sexuality?&#34; we begin to create a template to guide and assist couples who are ready to take this next step in their relational healing.

PLEASE READ BEFORE LISTENING:

Please be advised that we will be talking about sexuality in this episode and, at times, will be using graphic language that may be triggering or bring up uncomfortable emotions for some. The content of this episode will not be appropriate for those of you who have recently had discovery, are in acute trauma or crisis, and/or have not yet (or have just started) to work on relational healing. This episode is for our listeners who are at a place in their healing and couples recovery where they want to begin to explore sexuality after betrayal. We don't believe anyone should even consider being sexual with a partner when there is a lack of safety, ongoing abuse, or danger. Sexual Reintegration comes at a later stage of recovery once there has been trauma reduction/resolution and relational stabilization. 

Episode Synopsis

In this episode, Marnie and Duane talk with sex expert Dr. Emily Morse about sexual health and wellness and how to create the safety necessary for couples recovering from betrayal trauma. By exploring such questions as "What is healthy sexuality?" and "What is not healthy sexuality?" we begin to create a template to guide and assist couples who are ready to take this next step in their relational healing.

35: Sexual Health with Dr. Emily Morse

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In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss the topic of pornography, specifically in the context of betrayal. This episode isn&#39;t a moral debate about pornography. Instead, it is a candid discussion about the traumatic impact of discovering a secret sexual life on an unknowing partner.&#34;It&#39;s just porn&#34; is often used as a way to minimize the damage or pain experienced by the partner who was left in the dark for years. However, by definition, betrayal in itself (regardless of the nature of the sexual behavior) causes complex trauma to those who had no idea about their partner&#39;s secret sex life.Please listen to understand how a secret pornography life causes betrayal trauma and creates deep and long-lasting wounds in couples who want to heal.  You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a>

In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss the topic of pornography, specifically in the context of betrayal. This episode isn't a moral debate about pornography. Instead, it is a candid discussion about the traumatic impact of discovering a secret sexual life on an unknowing partner.

"It's just porn" is often used as a way to minimize the damage or pain experienced by the partner who was left in the dark for years. However, by definition, betrayal in itself (regardless of the nature of the sexual behavior) causes complex trauma to those who had no idea about their partner's secret sex life.

Please listen to understand how a secret pornography life causes betrayal trauma and creates deep and long-lasting wounds in couples who want to heal.  

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

34: Betrayed By Porn

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Duane and Marnie discuss how the compartmentalization of trust can hinder relational healing and further traumatize a betrayed partner.  While many betrayers are able to understand why their partner can no longer trust them when it comes to sexual and relational fidelity, many do not understand why their partner is no longer able to trust them in other areas &#34;separate from the betrayal.&#34; Marnie and Duane explain why nothing remains &#34;separate&#34; after betrayal and how understanding the danger of distorted thinking in recovery can help prevent further trauma.

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Duane and Marnie discuss how the compartmentalization of trust can hinder relational healing and further traumatize a betrayed partner.  

While many betrayers are able to understand why their partner can no longer trust them when it comes to sexual and relational fidelity, many do not understand why their partner is no longer able to trust them in other areas "separate from the betrayal." Marnie and Duane explain why nothing remains "separate" after betrayal and how understanding the danger of distorted thinking in recovery can help prevent further trauma.

33: The Complexity of Trust

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane address therapeutic separation in the context of betrayal and relational trauma, a topic often talked about but not often understood. They discuss everything from what it is and what it is not to why a therapeutic separation can feel threatening or scary and why (if used correctly and with professional support and guidance) it can be a practical intervention for couples trying to heal their relationships after betrayal.

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane address therapeutic separation in the context of betrayal and relational trauma, a topic often talked about but not often understood. They discuss everything from what it is and what it is not to why a therapeutic separation can feel threatening or scary and why (if used correctly and with professional support and guidance) it can be a practical intervention for couples trying to heal their relationships after betrayal.

32: Therapeutic Separation

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A note to our listeners:We want you to know how sorry we are that it&#39;s been so long since we released a podcast episode. Please know that you&#39;ve been on our minds and in our hearts; it&#39;s just been a particularly crazy busy time for us and we&#39;re doing our very best to meet the needs of all of our clients, staff, and listeners. Sadly, there just isn&#39;t enough time in the day. Please bear with us, we&#39;re here for you!   Feeling stuck can mean a lot of things. In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss what feeling stuck means in the context of relational healing and betrayal trauma. What does it look like when sobriety has been established but integrity disorder behaviors, abuse, and/or deception continue and trust and safety remain unattainable? How can you as the betrayed partner take care of yourself and get your needs met when the person who has hurt you is incapable or unwilling to take the necessary action to help you heal? This is an important conversation to listen to if you&#39;re feeling stuck in healing your relationship and don&#39;t know how to move forward with or without your partner.

A note to our listeners:

We want you to know how sorry we are that it's been so long since we released a podcast episode. Please know that you've been on our minds and in our hearts; it's just been a particularly crazy busy time for us and we're doing our very best to meet the needs of all of our clients, staff, and listeners. Sadly, there just isn't enough time in the day. Please bear with us, we're here for you!  

Feeling stuck can mean a lot of things. In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss what feeling stuck means in the context of relational healing and betrayal trauma. What does it look like when sobriety has been established but integrity disorder behaviors, abuse, and/or deception continue and trust and safety remain unattainable? How can you as the betrayed partner take care of yourself and get your needs met when the person who has hurt you is incapable or unwilling to take the necessary action to help you heal? This is an important conversation to listen to if you're feeling stuck in healing your relationship and don't know how to move forward with or without your partner.

31: Feeling Stuck

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, author and transformational journalist Neil Strauss joins Marnie and Duane once again to continue their conversation about his personal journey of betrayal and healing and the transformative work that changed his life.  Part 1 https://helpingcouplesheal.com/the-truth-a-conversation-with-neil-strauss/

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, author and transformational journalist Neil Strauss joins Marnie and Duane once again to continue their conversation about his personal journey of betrayal and healing and the transformative work that changed his life. 



Part 1 

https://helpingcouplesheal.com/the-truth-a-conversation-with-neil-strauss/

30: The Truth: A Conversation with Neil Strauss Part 2

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In this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane, explore why betrayed partners often still don&#39;t feel safe even after sexual recovery has been achieved.

In this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane, explore why betrayed partners often still don't feel safe even after sexual recovery has been achieved.

29: When Feeling of Safety Don't Align: Sexual Recovery is Not Enough

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane respond to a listener&#39;s request for guidance about couple therapy, including when it is and isn&#39;t clinically recommended and the indicators that it is too soon or not soon enough. Betrayed partners commonly report that they have been pushed to do therapy as a couple early on in the process before they are ready and while they still feel unsafe. Join Marnie and Duane for this important conversation as they discern early couples work focused on crisis management and safety building from later couple therapy where bonding, connection, repair, and vulnerability are encouraged. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="https://helpingcouplesheal.com/about/" rel="nofollow">helpingcouplesheal.com/about</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop</a>

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane respond to a listener's request for guidance about couple therapy, including when it is and isn't clinically recommended and the indicators that it is too soon or not soon enough. Betrayed partners commonly report that they have been pushed to do therapy as a couple early on in the process before they are ready and while they still feel unsafe. Join Marnie and Duane for this important conversation as they discern early couples work focused on crisis management and safety building from later couple therapy where bonding, connection, repair, and vulnerability are encouraged.

28: Couples Therapy: Too Soon or Not Soon Enough?

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Stan Tatkin - clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of the psychobiological approach to couple therapy (PACT) neuroscience and the role of attachment theory in healing betrayal and relational trauma.   Please listen carefully to every word of this interview if you are someone who has betrayed your partner and can&#39;t understand why she is as traumatized as she is by your betrayal.

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Stan Tatkin - clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of the psychobiological approach to couple therapy (PACT) neuroscience and the role of attachment theory in healing betrayal and relational trauma.  

Please listen carefully to every word of this interview if you are someone who has betrayed your partner and can't understand why she is as traumatized as she is by your betrayal.

27: PACT Therapy, Attachment and Betrayal Trauma with Stan Tatkin

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In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss the unique and often challenging process of finding the &#34;right&#34; help in the aftermath of betrayal. They stress the importance of a collaborative and systems-focused approach to relational helping and address the potential pitfalls of using a non-relational model, including further trauma.

In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss the unique and often challenging process of finding the "right" help in the aftermath of betrayal. They stress the importance of a collaborative and systems-focused approach to relational helping and address the potential pitfalls of using a non-relational model, including further trauma.

26 Finding Professional Support

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In this episode, Marnie and Duane address the topic of grieving during the holidays, when loss and grief are often felt more acutely. The holiday season, which extends from Thanksgiving to the beginning of the new year, is a very long stretch of time when there is an expectation of celebration and joy. This can feel very incongruent for those in recovery from betrayal and relational trauma because the mood of someone who is grieving is very contrary to most others&#39; mood during these festive times.  Marnie and Duane offer some practical suggestions for surviving the holiday season, starting with simply accepting that you are grieving and that it will be different this year. Permitting yourself to make the necessary compromises and adjustments is crucial in making the holidays a bit more tolerable for yourself and your family.

In this episode, Marnie and Duane address the topic of grieving during the holidays, when loss and grief are often felt more acutely. The holiday season, which extends from Thanksgiving to the beginning of the new year, is a very long stretch of time when there is an expectation of celebration and joy. This can feel very incongruent for those in recovery from betrayal and relational trauma because the mood of someone who is grieving is very contrary to most others' mood during these festive times.

25: Grief & Loss During the Holidays

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In this episode, Marnie talks to Ryan Angulo, a Los Angeles based Polygrapher who she has been working with since 2008. With differing opinions amongst treatment professionals and clients alike about the efficacy of polygraphs in the context of sex addiction and betrayal trauma recovery, traumatized couples are often left confused, frustrated, and uncertain about whether or not to include the polygraph as a part of their disclosure and healing process. Marnie and Ryan answer the most commonly asked questions and explore the benefits and risks of using the polygraph as a tool to promote relational healing and rebuild trust post sexual betrayal.  You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="https://helpingcouplesheal.com/about/" rel="nofollow">helpingcouplesheal.com/about</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop</a>

In this episode, Marnie talks to Ryan Angulo, a Los Angeles based Polygrapher who she has been working with since 2008. With differing opinions amongst treatment professionals and clients alike about the efficacy of polygraphs in the context of sex addiction and betrayal trauma recovery, traumatized couples are often left confused, frustrated, and uncertain about whether or not to include the polygraph as a part of their disclosure and healing process. Marnie and Ryan answer the most commonly asked questions and explore the benefits and risks of using the polygraph as a tool to promote relational healing and rebuild trust post sexual betrayal. 



24: Betrayal Trauma & The Polygraph

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This episode of the HCH podcast focuses on the shame many betrayed partners&#39; experiences related to their decision to stay in the relationship with the person who betrayed them. In this conversation, Marnie and Duane conceptualize the shame of staying as another burden partners must bear in the aftermath of the discovery of betrayal.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="https://helpingcouplesheal.com/about/" rel="nofollow">helpingcouplesheal.com/about</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop</a>

This episode of the HCH podcast focuses on the shame many betrayed partners' experiences related to their decision to stay in the relationship with the person who betrayed them. In this conversation, Marnie and Duane conceptualize the shame of staying as another burden partners must bear in the aftermath of the discovery of betrayal.  

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at helpingcouplesheal.com/about

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop

23: The Shame of Staying

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In this episode, Marnie has an uncensored and candid discussion with New York Times bestselling writer and transformational journalist Neil Strauss. Neil talks openly about his sex addiction recovery journey as chronicled in his book &#34;The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships&#34; With humor, humility, and honesty, He shares many of the lessons he learned in treatment, including the moments in therapy that changed his life, healed his relationship, and, most important, brought him home to himself. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, Marnie has an uncensored and candid discussion with New York Times bestselling writer and transformational journalist Neil Strauss. Neil talks openly about his sex addiction recovery journey as chronicled in his book "The Truth: An...

In this episode, Marnie has an uncensored and candid discussion with New York Times bestselling writer and transformational journalist Neil Strauss. Neil talks openly about his sex addiction recovery journey as chronicled in his book "The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships" With humor, humility, and honesty, He shares many of the lessons he learned in treatment, including the moments in therapy that changed his life, healed his relationship, and, most important, brought him home to himself.

22: The Truth: A Conversation with Neil Strauss

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In this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane talk with Dr. Rob Weiss, a clinical sexologist and the Chief Clinical Officer at Seeking Integrity in Los Angeles. In his book &#34;Out of the Doghouse; a Step by Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating,&#34; Rob offers concrete steps men can take to rebuild trust, restore intimacy, and heal relationships traumatized by betrayal. Sex addicts are intimacy-challenged and empathy-challenged. As such, they lack the skills needed to overcome the damage caused by their infidelity and associated patterns of manipulation, deceit, and emotional and psychological abuse. In this episode, we emphasize that identifying and learning about these crucial relational skills and eventually being coached in their practice is a necessary component of recovery for sex addicts to healing relationships traumatized by betrayal. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane talk with Dr. Rob Weiss, a clinical sexologist and the Chief Clinical Officer at Seeking Integrity in Los Angeles. In his book "Out of the Doghouse; a Step by Step Relationship-Saving Guide for...

In this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane talk with Dr. Rob Weiss, a clinical sexologist and the Chief Clinical Officer at Seeking Integrity in Los Angeles. In his book "Out of the Doghouse; a Step by Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating," Rob offers concrete steps men can take to rebuild trust, restore intimacy, and heal relationships traumatized by betrayal. Sex addicts are intimacy-challenged and empathy-challenged.

21: A Conversation With Dr. Rob Weiss

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In this episode, Marnie and Duane share and address a listener&#39;s question about the role of empathy and emotional attunement in healing relationships traumatized by betrayal.  More specifically, they conceptualize shame as a barrier to relational healing and explore the importance of shame reduction in treatment.  You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, Marnie and Duane share and address a listener's question about the role of empathy and emotional attunement in healing relationships traumatized by betrayal.  More specifically, they conceptualize shame as a barrier to relational...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane share and address a listener's question about the role of empathy and emotional attunement in healing relationships traumatized by betrayal.  More specifically, they conceptualize shame as a barrier to relational healing and explore the importance of shame reduction in treatment. 

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

20: Emotional Attunement & Shame

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In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss why emotional attunement is a necessary component for relational healing and why the&#34; right words&#34; without a felt sense of compassion for what your partner is experiencing and feeling just isn&#39;t enough.  They also explore the role of empathy in emotional attunement and why compassionate empathy is crucial to healing partner and relational trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss why emotional attunement is a necessary component for relational healing and why the" right words" without a felt sense of compassion for what your partner is experiencing and feeling just isn't enough. ...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss why emotional attunement is a necessary component for relational healing and why the" right words" without a felt sense of compassion for what your partner is experiencing and feeling just isn't enough.  They also explore the role of empathy in emotional attunement and why compassionate empathy is crucial to healing partner and relational trauma.

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

19: Emotional Attunement & Empathy

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In the final episode of a 3-part interview with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane continue the conversation about integrity abuse disorders and gender pathology in the context of betrayal trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In the final episode of a 3-part interview with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane continue the conversation about integrity abuse disorders and gender pathology in the context of betrayal trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at ...

In the final episode of a 3-part interview with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane continue the conversation about integrity abuse disorders and gender pathology in the context of betrayal trauma.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

18: Understanding Betrayal with Dr. Omar Minwalla Part Three

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In this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak to those impacted by betrayal about the added stress and trauma caused by the current global crisis and the importance of social connection during a time of physical distancing and isolation. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak to those impacted by betrayal about the added stress and trauma caused by the current global crisis and the importance of social connection during a time of physical...

In this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak to those impacted by betrayal about the added stress and trauma caused by the current global crisis and the importance of social connection during a time of physical distancing and isolation.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

17: Coping With The Pandemic

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In the second of a series of three interviews, Marnie and Duane continue their conversation with Dr. Minwalla about integrity abuse disorders; the clinically significant deficits in integrity and patterns of psychological, emotional and relational abuse which cause complex trauma symptoms in betrayed partners.   <div> </div>

In the second of a series of three interviews, Marnie and Duane continue their conversation with Dr. Minwalla about integrity abuse disorders; the clinically significant deficits in integrity and patterns of psychological, emotional and relational...

In the second of a series of three interviews, Marnie and Duane continue their conversation with Dr. Minwalla about integrity abuse disorders; the clinically significant deficits in integrity and patterns of psychological, emotional and relational abuse which cause complex trauma symptoms in betrayed partners.  


16: Understanding Betrayal with Dr. Omar Minwalla Part Two

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In the first of a series of three interviews with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane explore the impact of emotional and psychological abuse in the context of betrayal trauma and explain how this kind of abuse is part of a larger problem that Dr. Minwalla calls an integrity abuse disorder. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In the first of a series of three interviews with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane explore the impact of emotional and psychological abuse in the context of betrayal trauma and explain how this kind of abuse is part of a larger problem that Dr....

In the first of a series of three interviews with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane explore the impact of emotional and psychological abuse in the context of betrayal trauma and explain how this kind of abuse is part of a larger problem that Dr. Minwalla calls an integrity abuse disorder.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/


Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

15: Understanding Betrayal with Dr. Omar Minwalla Part One

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In this episode, Marnie and Duane interview &#34;Marsha and Michael&#34; about their relational recovery journey in the aftermath of sex addiction and betrayal. With incredible vulnerability, they share with us how they survived and healed from relational and betrayal trauma  To protect their anonymity, we have changed their names and used software to disguise their voices.  <div> </div> You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, Marnie and Duane interview "Marsha and Michael" about their relational recovery journey in the aftermath of sex addiction and betrayal. With incredible vulnerability, they share with us how they survived and healed from relational and...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane interview "Marsha and Michael" about their relational recovery journey in the aftermath of sex addiction and betrayal. With incredible vulnerability, they share with us how they survived and healed from relational and betrayal trauma  To protect their anonymity, we have changed their names and used software to disguise their voices. 

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

14: Marsha & Michael's Recovery Story

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Marnie &amp; Duane discuss why it is so difficult to rebuild trust after betrayal. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

Marnie & Duane discuss why it is so difficult to rebuild trust after betrayal. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at  Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at   

Marnie & Duane discuss why it is so difficult to rebuild trust after betrayal.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

13: Trust After Betrayal

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In this interview of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak with our colleague Dan Drake, LMFT, CSAT-S about the process of the formal therapeutic disclosure. We discuss and explore the value of disclosure and its impacts on recovery from betrayal and relational trauma. We address some of the most common questions and discuss the importance of safety and therapeutic support in the disclosure process. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this interview of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak with our colleague Dan Drake, LMFT, CSAT-S about the process of the formal therapeutic disclosure. We discuss and explore the value of disclosure and its impacts on recovery...

In this interview of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak with our colleague Dan Drake, LMFT, CSAT-S about the process of the formal therapeutic disclosure. We discuss and explore the value of disclosure and its impacts on recovery from betrayal and relational trauma. We address some of the most common questions and discuss the importance of safety and therapeutic support in the disclosure process.

12: Understanding Disclosure with Dan Drake

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In this episode, Marnie and Duane speak with Stefanie Carnes about the evolution of the partner trauma model and the necessary shift from the codependency model in treating betrayal trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, Marnie and Duane speak with Stefanie Carnes about the evolution of the partner trauma model and the necessary shift from the codependency model in treating betrayal trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at  Learn...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane speak with Stefanie Carnes about the evolution of the partner trauma model and the necessary shift from the codependency model in treating betrayal trauma.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

11: Evolution of Partner Trauma Treatment with Stefanie Carnes

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In this episode, Duane and Marnie will introduce and explain the fourth (other) circle and explore how it changes the treatment for both partners and promotes relational healing for couples impacted by betrayal trauma. The Three Circle Plan originated from Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) and has been effective for years in helping sex addicts achieve and maintain sobriety. However, in a field that continues to evolve and move from a traditional addiction/codependent model to a partner trauma model, the absence of a fourth circle fails to acknowledge the others impacted by the addict&#39;s recovery plan. Introducing a fourth &#34;other&#34; circle invites the others impacted by an addict&#39;s sobriety into his recovery plan and treatment from the very beginning. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, Duane and Marnie will introduce and explain the fourth (other) circle and explore how it changes the treatment for both partners and promotes relational healing for couples impacted by betrayal trauma. The Three Circle Plan originated...

In this episode, Duane and Marnie will introduce and explain the fourth (other) circle and explore how it changes the treatment for both partners and promotes relational healing for couples impacted by betrayal trauma.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

10: A Partner Sensitive Recovery Plan

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In this episode, we discuss universal partner trauma responses and explore how the discovery of betrayal creates a crisis for the entire family system.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, we discuss universal partner trauma responses and explore how the discovery of betrayal creates a crisis for the entire family system.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at  Learn More About Our Helping...

In this episode, we discuss universal partner trauma responses and explore how the discovery of betrayal creates a crisis for the entire family system.  

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/


09: Discovery: Managing the Crisis

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In this episode, we talk with John &amp; Jane (not their real names) about their recovery journey through betrayal and relational healing and how the trauma model changed the trajectory of their healing.  This episode is filled with hope for those who are still suffering.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, we talk with John & Jane (not their real names) about their recovery journey through betrayal and relational healing and how the trauma model changed the trajectory of their healing.  This episode is filled with hope for...

In this episode, we talk with John & Jane (not their real names) about their recovery journey through betrayal and relational healing and how the trauma model changed the trajectory of their healing.  This episode is filled with hope for those who are still suffering.  

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

 

08: John & Jane's Recovery Story

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In this episode, we interview Dr. Omar Minwalla, Clinical Sexologist, licensed psychologist and founder of The Institute for Sexual Health about his compulsive-abusive-sexual relational disorder model.  Dr. Minwalla explains how his model significantly changes the treatment of betrayal and relational trauma.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, we interview Dr. Omar Minwalla, Clinical Sexologist, licensed psychologist and founder of The Institute for Sexual Health about his compulsive-abusive-sexual relational disorder model.  Dr. Minwalla explains how his model...

In this episode, we interview Dr. Omar Minwalla, Clinical Sexologist, licensed psychologist and founder of The Institute for Sexual Health about his compulsive-abusive-sexual relational disorder model.  Dr. Minwalla explains how his model significantly changes the treatment of betrayal and relational trauma.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href= "http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href= "http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

07: Interview with Dr. Omar Minwalla

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In this episode, we continue to discuss why it’s so crucial to integrate the partner trauma model into the addict/offending partner&#39;s treatment right from the start; abstinence alone is not enough to heal a relationship.  You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, we continue to discuss why it’s so crucial to integrate the partner trauma model into the addict/offending partner's treatment right from the start; abstinence alone is not enough to heal a relationship.  You can find out more...

In this episode, we continue to discuss why it’s so crucial to integrate the partner trauma model into the addict/offending partner's treatment right from the start; abstinence alone is not enough to heal a relationship. 

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

06: The Sex Addict: Integrating the Partner Trauma Model Part 2

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In this episode, we discuss why it’s so crucial to integrate the partner trauma model into the addict or the offending partner&#39;s treatment right from the start; abstinence alone is not enough to heal a relationship. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a>

In this episode, we discuss why it’s so crucial to integrate the partner trauma model into the addict or the offending partner's treatment right from the start; abstinence alone is not enough to heal a relationship. You can find out more about Duane...

In this episode, we discuss why it’s so crucial to integrate the partner trauma model into the addict or the offending partner's treatment right from the start; abstinence alone is not enough to heal a relationship.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

05: The Sex Addict: Integrating the Partner Trauma Model Part 1

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In this episode, we discuss the two causes of trauma in a betrayed partner&#39;s experience; the initial trauma or &#34;discovery&#34; and trauma-induced survival responses and how these responses can cause further trauma to a betrayed partner.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a>

In this episode, we discuss the two causes of trauma in a betrayed partners experience;  the initial trauma or "discovery" and trauma-induced survival responses and how these responses can cause further trauma to a betrayed partner....

In this episode, we discuss the two causes of trauma in a betrayed partners experience;  the initial trauma or "discovery" and trauma-induced survival responses and how these responses can cause further trauma to a betrayed partner.    

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/



04: Survival Responses

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In this episode, we discuss the two approaches to the treatment of betrayal trauma; the traditional codependency/co-sex addiction model and the partner trauma model.  We explain why the traditional approach lacks the necessary relational component and why we use this approach to treat partner and betrayal trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a>

In this episode, we discuss the two approaches to the treatment of betrayal trauma; the traditional codependency/co-sex addiction model and the partner trauma model.  We explain why the traditional approach lacks the necessary relational...

In this episode, we discuss the two approaches to the treatment of betrayal trauma; the traditional codependency/co-sex addiction model and the partner trauma model.  We explain why the traditional approach lacks the necessary relational component and why we use this approach to treat partner and betrayal trauma.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

03: Pathologizing the Partner vs. Partner Trauma Model

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In this episode, we define betrayal and relational trauma, why it is so important to talk about this topic and discuss why it is so difficult to heal.  We also explain why understanding betrayal trauma is crucial to relational healing.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a>

In this episode, we define betrayal and relational trauma, why it is so important to talk about this topic and discuss why it is so difficult to heal.  We also explain why understanding betrayal trauma is crucial to relational healing.   You...

In this episode, we define betrayal and relational trauma, why it is so important to talk about this topic and discuss why it is so difficult to heal.  We also explain why understanding betrayal trauma is crucial to relational healing.  

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

02: Betrayal Trauma & Relational Healing

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In this episode, Marnie and Duane introduce themselves, share their professional experience and explain why they created the Helping Couples Heal Podcast.   They also share powerful quotes from addicts and partners about how they healed from the trauma of betrayal. If you have been traumatized by betrayal, listen to this episode for hope and inspiration. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at: <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a>

In this episode, Marnie and Duane introduce themselves, share their professional experience and explain why they created the Helping Couples Heal Podcast.   They also share powerful quotes from addicts and partners about how they healed from the...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane introduce themselves, share their professional experience and explain why they created the Helping Couples Heal Podcast.  

They also share powerful quotes from addicts and partners about how they healed from the trauma of betrayal.

If you have been traumatized by betrayal, listen to this episode for hope and inspiration. 

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

01: Introduction & Hope

Welcome to the Helping Couples Heal podcast. If you have lost hope around healing your relationship due to infidelity, relational or betrayal trauma you have come to the right place.

Helping Couples Heal is an ongoing podcast designed to help couples recover and heal from the impact of betrayal trauma on their relationships. We cumulatively bring over two decades of experience and expertise in the field of betrayal.  Throughout this podcast series, we will offer resources and support and teach you the tools and skills necessary to heal your relationship. You will also hear from recovered addicts, partners, and couples who will share their stories, as well as from experts in the field of betrayal.  

With compassion, love and fierce commitment, we will guide you and walk beside you as you navigate this journey of recovery, hope, and healing. Thank you for inviting us into your world; we are honored to support you.

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