Welcome to the Helping Couples Heal podcast. If you have lost hope around healing your relationship due to infidelity, relational or betrayal trauma you have come to the right place. Helping Couples Heal is an ongoing podcast designed to help couples recover and heal from the impact of betrayal trauma on their relationships. We cumulatively bring over two decades of experience and expertise in the field of betrayal. Throughout this podcast series, we will offer resources and support and teach you the tools and skills necessary to heal your relationship. You will also hear from recovered addicts, partners, and couples who will share their stories, as well as from experts in the field of betrayal. With compassion, love and fierce commitment, we will guide you and walk beside you as you navigate this journey of recovery, hope, and healing. Thank you for inviting us into your world; we are honored to support you.

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane address therapeutic separation in the context of betrayal and relational trauma, a topic often talked about but not often understood. They discuss everything from what it is and what it is not to why a therapeutic separation can feel threatening or scary and why (if used correctly and with professional support and guidance) it can be a practical intervention for couples trying to heal their relationships after betrayal.

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane address therapeutic separation in the context of betrayal and relational trauma, a topic often talked about but not often understood. They discuss everything from what it is and what it is not to why a therapeutic separation can feel threatening or scary and why (if used correctly and with professional support and guidance) it can be a practical intervention for couples trying to heal their relationships after betrayal.

32: Therapeutic Separation

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A note to our listeners:We want you to know how sorry we are that it&#39;s been so long since we released a podcast episode. Please know that you&#39;ve been on our minds and in our hearts; it&#39;s just been a particularly crazy busy time for us and we&#39;re doing our very best to meet the needs of all of our clients, staff, and listeners. Sadly, there just isn&#39;t enough time in the day. Please bear with us, we&#39;re here for you!   Feeling stuck can mean a lot of things. In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss what feeling stuck means in the context of relational healing and betrayal trauma. What does it look like when sobriety has been established but integrity disorder behaviors, abuse, and/or deception continue and trust and safety remain unattainable? How can you as the betrayed partner take care of yourself and get your needs met when the person who has hurt you is incapable or unwilling to take the necessary action to help you heal? This is an important conversation to listen to if you&#39;re feeling stuck in healing your relationship and don&#39;t know how to move forward with or without your partner.

A note to our listeners:

We want you to know how sorry we are that it's been so long since we released a podcast episode. Please know that you've been on our minds and in our hearts; it's just been a particularly crazy busy time for us and we're doing our very best to meet the needs of all of our clients, staff, and listeners. Sadly, there just isn't enough time in the day. Please bear with us, we're here for you!  

Feeling stuck can mean a lot of things. In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss what feeling stuck means in the context of relational healing and betrayal trauma. What does it look like when sobriety has been established but integrity disorder behaviors, abuse, and/or deception continue and trust and safety remain unattainable? How can you as the betrayed partner take care of yourself and get your needs met when the person who has hurt you is incapable or unwilling to take the necessary action to help you heal? This is an important conversation to listen to if you're feeling stuck in healing your relationship and don't know how to move forward with or without your partner.

31: Feeling Stuck

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, author and transformational journalist Neil Strauss joins Marnie and Duane once again to continue their conversation about his personal journey of betrayal and healing and the transformative work that changed his life.  Part 1 https://helpingcouplesheal.com/the-truth-a-conversation-with-neil-strauss/

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, author and transformational journalist Neil Strauss joins Marnie and Duane once again to continue their conversation about his personal journey of betrayal and healing and the transformative work that changed his life. 



Part 1 

https://helpingcouplesheal.com/the-truth-a-conversation-with-neil-strauss/

30: The Truth: A Conversation with Neil Strauss Part 2

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In this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane, explore why betrayed partners often still don&#39;t feel safe even after sexual recovery has been achieved.

In this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane, explore why betrayed partners often still don't feel safe even after sexual recovery has been achieved.

29: When Feeling of Safety Don't Align: Sexual Recovery is Not Enough

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane respond to a listener&#39;s request for guidance about couple therapy, including when it is and isn&#39;t clinically recommended and the indicators that it is too soon or not soon enough. Betrayed partners commonly report that they have been pushed to do therapy as a couple early on in the process before they are ready and while they still feel unsafe. Join Marnie and Duane for this important conversation as they discern early couples work focused on crisis management and safety building from later couple therapy where bonding, connection, repair, and vulnerability are encouraged. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="https://helpingcouplesheal.com/about/" rel="nofollow">helpingcouplesheal.com/about</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop</a>

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane respond to a listener's request for guidance about couple therapy, including when it is and isn't clinically recommended and the indicators that it is too soon or not soon enough. Betrayed partners commonly report that they have been pushed to do therapy as a couple early on in the process before they are ready and while they still feel unsafe. Join Marnie and Duane for this important conversation as they discern early couples work focused on crisis management and safety building from later couple therapy where bonding, connection, repair, and vulnerability are encouraged.

28: Couples Therapy: Too Soon or Not Soon Enough?

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Stan Tatkin - clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of the psychobiological approach to couple therapy (PACT) neuroscience and the role of attachment theory in healing betrayal and relational trauma.   Please listen carefully to every word of this interview if you are someone who has betrayed your partner and can&#39;t understand why she is as traumatized as she is by your betrayal.

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Stan Tatkin - clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of the psychobiological approach to couple therapy (PACT) neuroscience and the role of attachment theory in healing betrayal and relational trauma.  

Please listen carefully to every word of this interview if you are someone who has betrayed your partner and can't understand why she is as traumatized as she is by your betrayal.

27: PACT Therapy, Attachment and Betrayal Trauma with Stan Tatkin

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In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss the unique and often challenging process of finding the &#34;right&#34; help in the aftermath of betrayal. They stress the importance of a collaborative and systems-focused approach to relational helping and address the potential pitfalls of using a non-relational model, including further trauma.

In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss the unique and often challenging process of finding the "right" help in the aftermath of betrayal. They stress the importance of a collaborative and systems-focused approach to relational helping and address the potential pitfalls of using a non-relational model, including further trauma.

26 Finding Professional Support

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In this episode, Marnie and Duane address the topic of grieving during the holidays, when loss and grief are often felt more acutely. The holiday season, which extends from Thanksgiving to the beginning of the new year, is a very long stretch of time when there is an expectation of celebration and joy. This can feel very incongruent for those in recovery from betrayal and relational trauma because the mood of someone who is grieving is very contrary to most others&#39; mood during these festive times.  Marnie and Duane offer some practical suggestions for surviving the holiday season, starting with simply accepting that you are grieving and that it will be different this year. Permitting yourself to make the necessary compromises and adjustments is crucial in making the holidays a bit more tolerable for yourself and your family.

In this episode, Marnie and Duane address the topic of grieving during the holidays, when loss and grief are often felt more acutely. The holiday season, which extends from Thanksgiving to the beginning of the new year, is a very long stretch of time when there is an expectation of celebration and joy. This can feel very incongruent for those in recovery from betrayal and relational trauma because the mood of someone who is grieving is very contrary to most others' mood during these festive times.

25: Grief & Loss During the Holidays

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In this episode, Marnie talks to Ryan Angulo, a Los Angeles based Polygrapher who she has been working with since 2008. With differing opinions amongst treatment professionals and clients alike about the efficacy of polygraphs in the context of sex addiction and betrayal trauma recovery, traumatized couples are often left confused, frustrated, and uncertain about whether or not to include the polygraph as a part of their disclosure and healing process. Marnie and Ryan answer the most commonly asked questions and explore the benefits and risks of using the polygraph as a tool to promote relational healing and rebuild trust post sexual betrayal.  You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="https://helpingcouplesheal.com/about/" rel="nofollow">helpingcouplesheal.com/about</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop</a>

In this episode, Marnie talks to Ryan Angulo, a Los Angeles based Polygrapher who she has been working with since 2008. With differing opinions amongst treatment professionals and clients alike about the efficacy of polygraphs in the context of sex addiction and betrayal trauma recovery, traumatized couples are often left confused, frustrated, and uncertain about whether or not to include the polygraph as a part of their disclosure and healing process. Marnie and Ryan answer the most commonly asked questions and explore the benefits and risks of using the polygraph as a tool to promote relational healing and rebuild trust post sexual betrayal. 



24: Betrayal Trauma & The Polygraph

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This episode of the HCH podcast focuses on the shame many betrayed partners&#39; experiences related to their decision to stay in the relationship with the person who betrayed them. In this conversation, Marnie and Duane conceptualize the shame of staying as another burden partners must bear in the aftermath of the discovery of betrayal.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="https://helpingcouplesheal.com/about/" rel="nofollow">helpingcouplesheal.com/about</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop</a>

This episode of the HCH podcast focuses on the shame many betrayed partners' experiences related to their decision to stay in the relationship with the person who betrayed them. In this conversation, Marnie and Duane conceptualize the shame of staying as another burden partners must bear in the aftermath of the discovery of betrayal.  

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at helpingcouplesheal.com/about

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop

23: The Shame of Staying

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In this episode, Marnie has an uncensored and candid discussion with New York Times bestselling writer and transformational journalist Neil Strauss. Neil talks openly about his sex addiction recovery journey as chronicled in his book &#34;The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships&#34; With humor, humility, and honesty, He shares many of the lessons he learned in treatment, including the moments in therapy that changed his life, healed his relationship, and, most important, brought him home to himself. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, Marnie has an uncensored and candid discussion with New York Times bestselling writer and transformational journalist Neil Strauss. Neil talks openly about his sex addiction recovery journey as chronicled in his book "The Truth: An...

In this episode, Marnie has an uncensored and candid discussion with New York Times bestselling writer and transformational journalist Neil Strauss. Neil talks openly about his sex addiction recovery journey as chronicled in his book "The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships" With humor, humility, and honesty, He shares many of the lessons he learned in treatment, including the moments in therapy that changed his life, healed his relationship, and, most important, brought him home to himself.

22: The Truth: A Conversation with Neil Strauss

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In this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane talk with Dr. Rob Weiss, a clinical sexologist and the Chief Clinical Officer at Seeking Integrity in Los Angeles. In his book &#34;Out of the Doghouse; a Step by Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating,&#34; Rob offers concrete steps men can take to rebuild trust, restore intimacy, and heal relationships traumatized by betrayal. Sex addicts are intimacy-challenged and empathy-challenged. As such, they lack the skills needed to overcome the damage caused by their infidelity and associated patterns of manipulation, deceit, and emotional and psychological abuse. In this episode, we emphasize that identifying and learning about these crucial relational skills and eventually being coached in their practice is a necessary component of recovery for sex addicts to healing relationships traumatized by betrayal. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane talk with Dr. Rob Weiss, a clinical sexologist and the Chief Clinical Officer at Seeking Integrity in Los Angeles. In his book "Out of the Doghouse; a Step by Step Relationship-Saving Guide for...

In this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane talk with Dr. Rob Weiss, a clinical sexologist and the Chief Clinical Officer at Seeking Integrity in Los Angeles. In his book "Out of the Doghouse; a Step by Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating," Rob offers concrete steps men can take to rebuild trust, restore intimacy, and heal relationships traumatized by betrayal. Sex addicts are intimacy-challenged and empathy-challenged.

21: A Conversation With Dr. Rob Weiss

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In this episode, Marnie and Duane share and address a listener&#39;s question about the role of empathy and emotional attunement in healing relationships traumatized by betrayal.  More specifically, they conceptualize shame as a barrier to relational healing and explore the importance of shame reduction in treatment.  You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, Marnie and Duane share and address a listener's question about the role of empathy and emotional attunement in healing relationships traumatized by betrayal.  More specifically, they conceptualize shame as a barrier to relational...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane share and address a listener's question about the role of empathy and emotional attunement in healing relationships traumatized by betrayal.  More specifically, they conceptualize shame as a barrier to relational healing and explore the importance of shame reduction in treatment. 

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

20: Emotional Attunement & Shame

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In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss why emotional attunement is a necessary component for relational healing and why the&#34; right words&#34; without a felt sense of compassion for what your partner is experiencing and feeling just isn&#39;t enough.  They also explore the role of empathy in emotional attunement and why compassionate empathy is crucial to healing partner and relational trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss why emotional attunement is a necessary component for relational healing and why the" right words" without a felt sense of compassion for what your partner is experiencing and feeling just isn't enough. ...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss why emotional attunement is a necessary component for relational healing and why the" right words" without a felt sense of compassion for what your partner is experiencing and feeling just isn't enough.  They also explore the role of empathy in emotional attunement and why compassionate empathy is crucial to healing partner and relational trauma.

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

19: Emotional Attunement & Empathy

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In the final episode of a 3-part interview with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane continue the conversation about integrity abuse disorders and gender pathology in the context of betrayal trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In the final episode of a 3-part interview with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane continue the conversation about integrity abuse disorders and gender pathology in the context of betrayal trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at ...

In the final episode of a 3-part interview with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane continue the conversation about integrity abuse disorders and gender pathology in the context of betrayal trauma.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

18: Understanding Betrayal with Dr. Omar Minwalla Part Three

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In this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak to those impacted by betrayal about the added stress and trauma caused by the current global crisis and the importance of social connection during a time of physical distancing and isolation. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak to those impacted by betrayal about the added stress and trauma caused by the current global crisis and the importance of social connection during a time of physical...

In this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak to those impacted by betrayal about the added stress and trauma caused by the current global crisis and the importance of social connection during a time of physical distancing and isolation.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

17: Coping With The Pandemic

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In the second of a series of three interviews, Marnie and Duane continue their conversation with Dr. Minwalla about integrity abuse disorders; the clinically significant deficits in integrity and patterns of psychological, emotional and relational abuse which cause complex trauma symptoms in betrayed partners.   <div> </div>

In the second of a series of three interviews, Marnie and Duane continue their conversation with Dr. Minwalla about integrity abuse disorders; the clinically significant deficits in integrity and patterns of psychological, emotional and relational...

In the second of a series of three interviews, Marnie and Duane continue their conversation with Dr. Minwalla about integrity abuse disorders; the clinically significant deficits in integrity and patterns of psychological, emotional and relational abuse which cause complex trauma symptoms in betrayed partners.  


16: Understanding Betrayal with Dr. Omar Minwalla Part Two

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In the first of a series of three interviews with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane explore the impact of emotional and psychological abuse in the context of betrayal trauma and explain how this kind of abuse is part of a larger problem that Dr. Minwalla calls an integrity abuse disorder. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In the first of a series of three interviews with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane explore the impact of emotional and psychological abuse in the context of betrayal trauma and explain how this kind of abuse is part of a larger problem that Dr....

In the first of a series of three interviews with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane explore the impact of emotional and psychological abuse in the context of betrayal trauma and explain how this kind of abuse is part of a larger problem that Dr. Minwalla calls an integrity abuse disorder.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/


Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

15: Understanding Betrayal with Dr. Omar Minwalla Part One

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In this episode, Marnie and Duane interview &#34;Marsha and Michael&#34; about their relational recovery journey in the aftermath of sex addiction and betrayal. With incredible vulnerability, they share with us how they survived and healed from relational and betrayal trauma  To protect their anonymity, we have changed their names and used software to disguise their voices.  <div> </div> You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, Marnie and Duane interview "Marsha and Michael" about their relational recovery journey in the aftermath of sex addiction and betrayal. With incredible vulnerability, they share with us how they survived and healed from relational and...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane interview "Marsha and Michael" about their relational recovery journey in the aftermath of sex addiction and betrayal. With incredible vulnerability, they share with us how they survived and healed from relational and betrayal trauma  To protect their anonymity, we have changed their names and used software to disguise their voices. 

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

14: Marsha & Michael's Recovery Story

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Marnie &amp; Duane discuss why it is so difficult to rebuild trust after betrayal. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

Marnie & Duane discuss why it is so difficult to rebuild trust after betrayal. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at  Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at   

Marnie & Duane discuss why it is so difficult to rebuild trust after betrayal.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

13: Trust After Betrayal

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In this interview of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak with our colleague Dan Drake, LMFT, CSAT-S about the process of the formal therapeutic disclosure. We discuss and explore the value of disclosure and its impacts on recovery from betrayal and relational trauma. We address some of the most common questions and discuss the importance of safety and therapeutic support in the disclosure process. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this interview of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak with our colleague Dan Drake, LMFT, CSAT-S about the process of the formal therapeutic disclosure. We discuss and explore the value of disclosure and its impacts on recovery...

In this interview of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak with our colleague Dan Drake, LMFT, CSAT-S about the process of the formal therapeutic disclosure. We discuss and explore the value of disclosure and its impacts on recovery from betrayal and relational trauma. We address some of the most common questions and discuss the importance of safety and therapeutic support in the disclosure process.

12: Understanding Disclosure with Dan Drake

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In this episode, Marnie and Duane speak with Stefanie Carnes about the evolution of the partner trauma model and the necessary shift from the codependency model in treating betrayal trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, Marnie and Duane speak with Stefanie Carnes about the evolution of the partner trauma model and the necessary shift from the codependency model in treating betrayal trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at  Learn...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane speak with Stefanie Carnes about the evolution of the partner trauma model and the necessary shift from the codependency model in treating betrayal trauma.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

11: Evolution of Partner Trauma Treatment with Stefanie Carnes

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In this episode, Duane and Marnie will introduce and explain the fourth (other) circle and explore how it changes the treatment for both partners and promotes relational healing for couples impacted by betrayal trauma. The Three Circle Plan originated from Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) and has been effective for years in helping sex addicts achieve and maintain sobriety. However, in a field that continues to evolve and move from a traditional addiction/codependent model to a partner trauma model, the absence of a fourth circle fails to acknowledge the others impacted by the addict&#39;s recovery plan. Introducing a fourth &#34;other&#34; circle invites the others impacted by an addict&#39;s sobriety into his recovery plan and treatment from the very beginning. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, Duane and Marnie will introduce and explain the fourth (other) circle and explore how it changes the treatment for both partners and promotes relational healing for couples impacted by betrayal trauma. The Three Circle Plan originated...

In this episode, Duane and Marnie will introduce and explain the fourth (other) circle and explore how it changes the treatment for both partners and promotes relational healing for couples impacted by betrayal trauma.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

10: A Partner Sensitive Recovery Plan

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In this episode, we discuss universal partner trauma responses and explore how the discovery of betrayal creates a crisis for the entire family system.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, we discuss universal partner trauma responses and explore how the discovery of betrayal creates a crisis for the entire family system.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at  Learn More About Our Helping...

In this episode, we discuss universal partner trauma responses and explore how the discovery of betrayal creates a crisis for the entire family system.  

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/


09: Discovery: Managing the Crisis

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In this episode, we talk with John &amp; Jane (not their real names) about their recovery journey through betrayal and relational healing and how the trauma model changed the trajectory of their healing.  This episode is filled with hope for those who are still suffering.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, we talk with John & Jane (not their real names) about their recovery journey through betrayal and relational healing and how the trauma model changed the trajectory of their healing.  This episode is filled with hope for...

In this episode, we talk with John & Jane (not their real names) about their recovery journey through betrayal and relational healing and how the trauma model changed the trajectory of their healing.  This episode is filled with hope for those who are still suffering.  

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

 

08: John & Jane's Recovery Story

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In this episode, we interview Dr. Omar Minwalla, Clinical Sexologist, licensed psychologist and founder of The Institute for Sexual Health about his compulsive-abusive-sexual relational disorder model.  Dr. Minwalla explains how his model significantly changes the treatment of betrayal and relational trauma.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, we interview Dr. Omar Minwalla, Clinical Sexologist, licensed psychologist and founder of The Institute for Sexual Health about his compulsive-abusive-sexual relational disorder model.  Dr. Minwalla explains how his model...

In this episode, we interview Dr. Omar Minwalla, Clinical Sexologist, licensed psychologist and founder of The Institute for Sexual Health about his compulsive-abusive-sexual relational disorder model.  Dr. Minwalla explains how his model significantly changes the treatment of betrayal and relational trauma.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href= "http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href= "http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

07: Interview with Dr. Omar Minwalla

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In this episode, we continue to discuss why it’s so crucial to integrate the partner trauma model into the addict/offending partner&#39;s treatment right from the start; abstinence alone is not enough to heal a relationship.  You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a> Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/</a>

In this episode, we continue to discuss why it’s so crucial to integrate the partner trauma model into the addict/offending partner's treatment right from the start; abstinence alone is not enough to heal a relationship.  You can find out more...

In this episode, we continue to discuss why it’s so crucial to integrate the partner trauma model into the addict/offending partner's treatment right from the start; abstinence alone is not enough to heal a relationship. 

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

06: The Sex Addict: Integrating the Partner Trauma Model Part 2

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In this episode, we discuss why it’s so crucial to integrate the partner trauma model into the addict or the offending partner&#39;s treatment right from the start; abstinence alone is not enough to heal a relationship. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a>

In this episode, we discuss why it’s so crucial to integrate the partner trauma model into the addict or the offending partner's treatment right from the start; abstinence alone is not enough to heal a relationship. You can find out more about Duane...

In this episode, we discuss why it’s so crucial to integrate the partner trauma model into the addict or the offending partner's treatment right from the start; abstinence alone is not enough to heal a relationship.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

05: The Sex Addict: Integrating the Partner Trauma Model Part 1

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In this episode, we discuss the two causes of trauma in a betrayed partners experience;  the initial trauma or &#34;discovery&#34; and trauma-induced survival responses and how these responses can cause further trauma to a betrayed partner.     You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a>

In this episode, we discuss the two causes of trauma in a betrayed partners experience;  the initial trauma or "discovery" and trauma-induced survival responses and how these responses can cause further trauma to a betrayed partner....

In this episode, we discuss the two causes of trauma in a betrayed partners experience;  the initial trauma or "discovery" and trauma-induced survival responses and how these responses can cause further trauma to a betrayed partner.    

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/



04: Survival Responses

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In this episode, we discuss the two approaches to the treatment of betrayal trauma; the traditional codependency/co-sex addiction model and the partner trauma model.  We explain why the traditional approach lacks the necessary relational component and why we use this approach to treat partner and betrayal trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a>

In this episode, we discuss the two approaches to the treatment of betrayal trauma; the traditional codependency/co-sex addiction model and the partner trauma model.  We explain why the traditional approach lacks the necessary relational...

In this episode, we discuss the two approaches to the treatment of betrayal trauma; the traditional codependency/co-sex addiction model and the partner trauma model.  We explain why the traditional approach lacks the necessary relational component and why we use this approach to treat partner and betrayal trauma.

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

03: Pathologizing the Partner vs. Partner Trauma Model

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In this episode, we define betrayal and relational trauma, why it is so important to talk about this topic and discuss why it is so difficult to heal.  We also explain why understanding betrayal trauma is crucial to relational healing.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a>

In this episode, we define betrayal and relational trauma, why it is so important to talk about this topic and discuss why it is so difficult to heal.  We also explain why understanding betrayal trauma is crucial to relational healing.   You...

In this episode, we define betrayal and relational trauma, why it is so important to talk about this topic and discuss why it is so difficult to heal.  We also explain why understanding betrayal trauma is crucial to relational healing.  

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

02: Betrayal Trauma & Relational Healing

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In this episode, Marnie and Duane introduce themselves, share their professional experience and explain why they created the Helping Couples Heal Podcast.   They also share powerful quotes from addicts and partners about how they healed from the trauma of betrayal. If you have been traumatized by betrayal, listen to this episode for hope and inspiration. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at: <a href="http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/</a>

In this episode, Marnie and Duane introduce themselves, share their professional experience and explain why they created the Helping Couples Heal Podcast.   They also share powerful quotes from addicts and partners about how they healed from the...

In this episode, Marnie and Duane introduce themselves, share their professional experience and explain why they created the Helping Couples Heal Podcast.  

They also share powerful quotes from addicts and partners about how they healed from the trauma of betrayal.

If you have been traumatized by betrayal, listen to this episode for hope and inspiration. 

You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/

01: Introduction & Hope

Welcome to the Helping Couples Heal podcast. If you have lost hope around healing your relationship due to infidelity, relational or betrayal trauma you have come to the right place.

Helping Couples Heal is an ongoing podcast designed to help couples recover and heal from the impact of betrayal trauma on their relationships. We cumulatively bring over two decades of experience and expertise in the field of betrayal.  Throughout this podcast series, we will offer resources and support and teach you the tools and skills necessary to heal your relationship. You will also hear from recovered addicts, partners, and couples who will share their stories, as well as from experts in the field of betrayal.  

With compassion, love and fierce commitment, we will guide you and walk beside you as you navigate this journey of recovery, hope, and healing. Thank you for inviting us into your world; we are honored to support you.

Helping Couples Heal Podcast

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