Session #1, 08/13/2022
Today, we talked about how you made progress on some of your goals from last week, namely that you opened a high-yield savings account with SoFi, and are getting the 2% APY. We also talked about how you're noticing a major downtick in credit card debt, which is an important goal for you. Keep up the good work.
We talked about how you're struggling to 'break up with the boyfriend'. You mentioned past relationships, where your takeaway was that you need a 'good enough reason' to break up with someone, such as unacceptable, intolerable behavior, (violence and abuse) or when you saw that it wasn't in your partner's best interest to stay in the relationship. We talked about how you feel ready to leave the relationship when you fear for your safety, or when the other person is potentially suffering by being with you, and that your goal is to work towards feeling comfortable to stand up for your own happiness and needs and be willing to break up with someone for that reason alone.
We talked about two alter egos, one being the 'bat girl', the woman who is strong and willing to stand up for what is right and take care of business if the situation demands it, and the other alter being the softer, kinder Eileen, who is thoughtful and considerate of others and their needs. We talked about how both egos are valid, but the ultimate goal in reclaiming your authenticity is finding a way to merge the two together, and that learning how to do so involves giving the soft, kind Eileen practice in being strong and brave for herself.
We also talked about how even small things, like the way you dress, is a part of that process. We talked about how you used to dress in a way that was 'formidable', 'tailored', and 'curated', and some of your current wardrobe reflects this feeling of wanting to hide.
We ended the session with the vision that going into this week, you would continue to marinate on this idea of practicing your authenticity, while also working on the following:
- Continue working towards your financial goals, such as opening a CD.
- Research the immigration requirements for possible European countries to move to, namely, Amsterdam.
