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Gay Dads, Foster Care & the Cost of Building a Family Through Surrogacy

Season 23 | Episode 14
46m | Nov 2, 2026

For LGBTQ families, the path to parenthood often comes with a steep learning curve. And sometimes, you have to become your own expert just to navigate it.

James and his husband have navigated foster care, heartbreak, and now independent surrogacy. Along the way, they've faced staggering costs, complicated legal processes, and fertility clinics that claim to be LGBTQ-inclusive but don't know how to serve LGBTQ families.

Rather than keep everything he's learned to himself, James founded First Breath Fertility Consulting, turning his own family-building challenges into education, resources, and community for others navigating the same path.

Because building a queer family is hard enough. We shouldn't have to figure it all out alone.

Topics: LGBTQ parenting, gay dads, queer family building, foster care, independent surrogacy, fertility clinics, egg donation, surrogacy costs, fertility support.


🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)/ Resources Mentioned

James Gaeta is the founder of First Breath Fertility Consulting, where he provides fertility doula support, family-building education, and practical guidance for intended parents, particularly LGBTQ families.


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