Stop Asking If He’s the Right Person—Ask THIS Instead (Ep 121)

We spend a lot of time asking whether we chose the right person.

But what if the more important question is:

What happens to us when we’re together?

Two good people can love each other, share values, have chemistry and STILL create an unhealthy relationship dynamic.

In this episode, psychologist Dr. Nicole Monteiro uses relatable relationship scenarios to unpack the patterns couples often can’t see while they’re inside them—from pursuing and withdrawing to criticism and defensiveness to the high-functioning woman who slowly becomes responsible for everything.

You’ll learn why the argument you’re having may not actually be the argument you’re having, how your strengths can sometimes become part of an unhealthy pattern, and why accountability is different from blame.

Most importantly, Dr. Nicole explores a powerful shift:

Instead of asking “Who’s the problem?”

Ask:

“What’s the pattern?”

Because healthy love isn’t only about WHO you choose.

It’s also about what the two of you repeatedly create together.