WordVomit Wednesdays E7: the misunderstood of the alphabet mafia

in this episode, I'm unpacking the labels and lived realities that get lost somewhere between stereotypes and google searches... from intersex, trans, genderfluid and non-binary identities to aromantic, asexual, pansexual and bisexual experiences.

fun fact: everyone produces testosterone, regardless of sex, though levels typically vary between AMAB and AFAB people. testosterone contributes to motivation, vitality and libido, and low levels can leave you feeling like absolute caca.

speaking of libido, did you know it comes from the latin word for desire? freud later explored it as psychic energy driving human instincts, including sexuality, before psychology and everyday language increasingly narrowed it to sexual desire. somewhere along the way, we lost sight of the pulse of life!

as promised... SOGIESC in full:

Sexual

Orientation

Gender

Identity

Expression

Sex

Characteristics

I forgot to mention how much I love queerplatonic connections! rooted in aromantic and asexual communities, these relationships transcend conventional friendship in their depth of commitment, emotional intimacy and resource-sharing, while generally centring non-sexual connection.

kink has purpose beyond pleasure, you know. when “no” becomes part of your own vocabulary, you begin to understand that it’s less about rejection and more about autonomy. learning to respect boundaries without taking them personally? that’s alchemical.

Note: now, don’t get me wrong. I am a primal lover and I have definitely experienced physical arousal around people I’m sexually involved with. the body remembers and flashbacks are not lost on me, but I typically don’t think about sex much until it’s right in front of me. the desire isn't absent, it just shows up differently. and that's on the ace spectrum.

and to the people constantly accusing bisexuals of being inevitable cheaters, we need to talk. cheating isn’t an orientation, let's be so fvcking fr.

cheaters, boredom isn’t a relationship emergency and chasing thrills at someone else’s expense is not a personality trait. you should learn to sit with boredom and find excitement without betraying someone’s trust ORRR just break it off instead.

remember! non-monogamy isn’t a cure for a struggling relationship or an escape from commitment. approached with care, it’s an expansion of it.

language key: when I say men, I mean cis men... when I say women, read womxn/AFAB people 🌈