How Do We Find Ourselves In Every Stage Of Life? | EP 4

What does it mean to keep becoming yourself?

In this episode of Our Garden, Samone sits down with Sundra for a conversation about the many lives we live within one lifetime, and the versions of ourselves we meet along the way.

Together, they move through motherhood, movement, music, loneliness, curiosity, and the quiet work of learning to truly see ourselves and one another. Sundra reflects on the teachers, rhythms, cultures, and younger versions of herself that shaped the woman she is today, from her Jamaican roots and life as a dancer to becoming a mother, actor, yoga teacher, and cycle breaker.

They talk about the words that stay with us from childhood, what happens when we reclaim the parts of ourselves we once put down, and why being understood sometimes requires the courage to let ourselves be known.

And when finding our way back to ourselves feels complicated, Sundra offers a beautifully simple place to begin:

Go outside.

Touch the grass.

Move your body.

Get quiet enough to remember that you belong here too.

Because maybe becoming isn't about arriving at some final version of ourselves. Maybe, as Sundra reminds us, we are constantly birthing ourselves.

Welcome back to the Garden.

Chapters

00:24 How Yoga Teacher Training Changed Sandra’s Life

01:48 Discovering the Joy of Teaching and Mentorship

02:48 The Power of Making People Feel Seen

03:27 What It Really Means to Show Up for Someone

04:10 Social Media, Capitalism & the Pressure to Appear Okay

06:12 Asking “How Are You?” and Making Room for Vulnerability

07:05 Loneliness in a World That’s Always Connected

07:47 The Highlight Reel & the Pressure to Keep Up

08:42 Reclaiming Human Connection in a Digital World

10:20 Dancing Without Waiting for Permission

11:36 Passing Down Music, Culture & Nostalgia

12:53 Imposter Syndrome & Finding Freedom Through Movement

13:19 Dance as Expression, Processing & Therapy

14:10 Why Our Bodies Are Made to Move

15:38 Healing the Insecurities We Carry From Childhood

17:23 How One Comment Can Shape a Lifetime

18:11 Motherhood, Identity & Finding a Reason to Keep Going

20:04 Breaking Generational Patterns Through Parenting

20:22 The Importance of Apologizing to Your Children

21:12 Normalizing Emotions & Therapy at Home

22:33 Unlearning What We Inherit From Our Parents

23:40 The Ongoing Journey of Birthing Yourself

24:18 Learning to Give Grace Without Abandoning Yourself

25:30 When Forgiveness Becomes a Boundary

26:38 Inner Child Work & Healing the Versions of Ourselves We Left Behind

27:06 Forgiving the Lonely Child You Once Were

28:28 Trust, Loneliness & the Fear of Opening Up

29:04 Is Being Understood a Two-Way Street?

30:17 Learning to Communicate Instead of Expecting Others to Know

31:35 When You Feel Like You Have Nobody to Talk To

32:24 The Stories We Tell Ourselves Before Asking for Help

33:26 Acting, Presence & Letting Go of Expectations

34:09 Why Movement Training Matters for Actors

35:22 Finding Different Kinds of Fulfillment Through Art

37:20 Reconnecting With Yourself Through Nature

38:33 Grounding Yourself in the Present Moment

39:48 Growth Is a Lifelong Process

40:25 Mental Health, Therapy & Cultural Stigma

41:05 Choosing to Break Generational Cycles

42:25 Bob Marley, Self-Acceptance & Giving Yourself Grace

43:36 You Are Exactly Where You Need to Be

44:00 Learning to Treat Yourself With Compassion

44:37 Garden Notes: How Sandra Changed the Direction of the Series

45:04 Carrying Home, Culture & Community With You

46:05 Taking the Lessons of Our Garden Into Everyday Life

46:43 Our Garden Credits & Closing Thoughts

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