Episode #4 - "You can leave the church, but you can't leave it alone" (Tackling Clichés series)

Episode 4
54m | Sep 11, 2022

This is our first episode in a limited series called "Tackling Clichés" where we discuss several quips often used in discussions about Mormonism. Usually, these clichés are used as "gotcha" statements and end conversations instead of opening discussions. In this series, we will discuss what is true about the statement and where we may take things too far.

The phrase, "you can leave the church, but you can't leave it alone" is often used by members of the church in reference to ex-members. Ex-Mormons have a complicated relationship with the church and often have some serious issues that they want to discuss. When we try to diminish or downplay these experiences, ex-members may feel like they are not being heard. Though there are times when ex-members really do be overly critical of the church.

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Salt Lake Tribune article: Commentary: Why can’t ex-Mormons just leave the LDS Church alone? Turns out, most do.

Another good article by a nuanced/progressive member Nate Bagley

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