Join Bre, aka The Self-Care Pusher from Southern California, as she shares life experiences, weighs in on current events, amps up her wellness/health habits and finds clean(ish) products to try all for the sake of taking her physical, spiritual and emotional well-being to the next level and (hopefully) inspiring other women of color to do so as well.  It&#39;s time to become obsessed with our self-care!

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Hey, girl, hey! I have some important decisions to make. Do I pivot, pause or completely end the BGSC podcast? Do I archive all my content on social media and start completely over? I&#39;ve heard that about every seven years, you end up going through major changes in your life. I think I&#39;m at that point right now with BGSC. Let&#39;s talk about where things stand as of now. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

I May Be Ending The Podcast.  Let's Talk About It.

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This epside is for the eldest daughter who had to put her life and joy on hold to carry the weight of adult responsibilities on her shoulders. Ok, so I stand corrected. The writings shared weren&#39;t about &#34;sensuality&#34; per se, but Erotic as Power. I still suggest you read it when you have time to linger this month. Here it is: <a href="https://mundoshabitables.com/media/pages/biblioteca/los-usos-de-lo-erotico/a52dc8c4d7-1754436835/the-uses-of-the-erotic-audre-lorde.pdf" rel="nofollow">The Uses of the Erotic by Audre Lorde</a>Also, join me on substack! Upgrade your free membership for $9/month to unlock private audios as well as the bookclub. We are reading Rest is Resistance this month. Our first meeting on Zoom is October 21st. Jon here: <a href="https://browngirlselfcare.substack.com/" rel="nofollow">Bre&#39;s Substack Page</a> Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Eldest Daughters That Were Parentified Need Sensuality and Things That Are Just For Themselves

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I have a confession to make. A few days ago, my old survival brain started panicking about business metrics, and I frantically sat down to plan a massive, exhausting 90-day challenge. My plan was to force myself to show up on camera at 5:00 AM every single morning until the end of the year to feed the algorithm. That wasn&#39;t how I looked at it initially, but that&#39;s what it was.Let&#39;s talk about the trap of the &#34;unintentional scramble&#34;—how fear tries to trick us into running back to the hustle when we make space to be still/slow down/do less, and why the most radical thing a Black woman in her midlife can do right now is refuse to be a mule for the system. Put your phone on do-not-disturb, grab your tea, and let&#39;s talk about how we are going to unlabor and choose peace for the rest of this year.<a href="https://browngirlselfcare.substack.com/" rel="nofollow">Join my private paid community on Substack for access to the BGSC bookclub</a> Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

My Commitment Was Rooted in Grind Culture and Almost Cost My Peace

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<a href="https://browngirlselfcare.substack.com/" rel="nofollow">I&#39;m writing more about rebuilding my life in my mid-life. Join me on Substack</a>Putting on my auntie/much older sister hat on for this episode. Got a listener question recently from a young mother. She is working, about to go to school, and raising a young daugher on her own. On top of that the father of her child is &#34;not the nicest.&#34; In her question she asks if things will ever get easier.You may be solo parenting, balancing an impossible load, or in the middle of a season where your energy is drained. This conversation is your reminder to remember your value and to also release the guilt you may be experiencing for decisions you made that didn&#39;t go as expected. Let&#39;s talk about protecting your peace around unhelpful co-parents, and practice practical &#34;micro-self-care&#34; when you have zero free time, Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

To the Single Mom Doing It All Alone: You’re Doing Great Sweetie (Listener Question)

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<a href="https://browngirlselfcare.substack.com/" rel="nofollow">Join me on substack rightt here!</a><a href="https://youtu.be/HrLwESe5Y3U" rel="nofollow">Want to watch this episode instead? Click here to watch it on Youtube!</a> if the link isn&#39;t clickable, copy and paste this into your browser: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HrLwESe5Y3U Hey, hey!! The Fall Back Fall Challenge starts today and it&#39;s a call for Black women to intentionally do less during the last quarter of the year. Black women are socialized to over-give, do the emotional lifting, take care of everyone, give 175% on the job and WE ARE TIRED!! I&#39;m talking about unlaboring as a way to pull back from these systems that drain Black women&#39;s energy and instead invest that bandwidth into ourselves, rest, community, creativity, joy and other things we care about. Trees shed/release in this season so let&#39;s be reminded that we can safely release, slow down and reserve as well. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

#FallBackFall Starts Today:  Black Women Are Done Over-Functioning for Everybody

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I&#39;ve been on a bit of a summer break but I&#39;ll be back next Monday with a fresh episode!! In this replay episode I&#39;m giving you a four question exercise you can begin using IMMEDIATELY in times of feeling overwhelmed with responsibilities and challenges straight from the book How To Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

(Replay) 4 Powerful Questions To Ask Yourself During Times of Worry

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Happy Monday. In today&#39;s episode I&#39;m sharing a little revelation I had while shopping at Costco recently. I have done some major healing in the last few years, but I still get disregulated. It&#39;s ok to not be perfect and it&#39;s ok to take a breath, raise your hand and ask for/receive help. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

(Replay) It's ok for Black women to need help and also, yes, there are times I still get disregulated

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Hey Beautiful Brown Girl!Have you experienced moments of feeling...off, but don&#39;t understand why or how you got to that place? I definitely have which is why I do my best to check-in with myself everyday. Today I&#39;m sharing six questions to start asking yourself daily or as needed. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

(Replay) 6 Daily Self-Care Questions You Need

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How can you begin to embody what it means to take up space? As a Black woman who worked in corporate America I can tell you that there were many, many times that I bit my tongue or hid my brilliance and based on conversations I&#39;ve had, I am not the only one.How do we embrace our value and begin to take up the space we rightfully deserve? Today I&#39;m sharing three specific ways:1. Honor your value2. Own your words3. Fill the space with your presenceAlso, a bonus one is that everything we do doesn&#39;t warrant an apology (like I used to believe).Press play on this episode to listen and be sure to share with someone that needs to hear todays message. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

(Replay) 3 Ways To Start Taking Up Space

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Did you know that you can deepen your self-care practice by implementing the 4 S&#39;s? Silence, solitude, surrender and stillness can be used separately or collectively and don&#39;t have to be &#34;perfected&#34; in order to be of benefit. When your spirit feels dry and in need of moisturizing, it&#39;s likely in need of one of the 4 S&#39;s. <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@browngirlselfcare" rel="nofollow">Join Me On Youtube!</a> Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

(Replay) Is Your Spirit In Need Of Silence, Surrender, Solitude Or Stillness?

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Have you ever woken up completely drained, barely could manage work so blamed yourself for not being &#34;productive enough&#34;?In this episode, we’re unpacking the dangerous lie that rest has to be earned and why so many of us confuse emotional and physical exhaustion with laziness. If you’ve been forcing yourself to function through burnout, overstimulation, or stress just to keep up with a routine, this episode is your invitation to drop the guilt, lower the bar, and give yourself grace. Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

You Aren't Lazy.  You Are Exhausted (Which Is Survival Mode).

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Become a private podcast subscriber to unlock new episodes here -&gt; <a href="https://app.redcircle.com/shows/9e0a768b-f0d0-495c-ad53-721ad70f82a7/exclusive-content" rel="nofollow">Click Here To Subscribe </a> Hey sis, welcome back to the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast — the space where we honor our humanity and choose ourselves, unapologetically. This week, we&#39;re talking about these jobs, okay? I saw a post on social media from a young woman who started a new job, and just a week or two in, a better opportunity came out of nowhere — more money, better vibes — and she took it. But then she felt guilty about it. The guilt is not random. It&#39;s rooted in how we&#39;ve been conditioned to be loyal, to people-please, to always make sure they know how grateful we are. Here&#39;s what I want you to remember: <ul><li>These jobs are not loyal to you. They will let you go without a second thought if it serves the bottom line. </li><li>You don&#39;t owe them two weeks, an apology, or an explanation. Giving them that is classy, not required. </li><li>More money = more breathing room. it&#39;s about your peace, safety, and getting out of survival mode. </li><li>Choosing yourself is an act of self-preservation. Full stop. </li></ul> Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

These Jobs Aren't Loyal And You Shouldn't Be Either

In our final day together this month, we’re making a fundamental shift in posture: moving from seeking to allowing. Seeking can be frantic, forced, and rooted in fear (if this is the energy behind it). Allowing can be grounded, peaceful, and rooted in trust. When you stop fighting for the bare minimum, you finally clear the room for what actually belongs to you.Key Takeaways:<ul><li>The difference between frantic seeking and grounded allowing.</li><li>How holding onto unaligned things clogs the space for true abundance.</li><li>Taking your hands off the steering wheel and stepping into your full power.</li></ul><blockquote>Today’s Micro-Action:</blockquote><blockquote>Take your hands off the steering wheel for 10 minutes today. Go for a quiet walk, sit with your tea, or rest in stillness with no phone, no agenda, and no pressure.</blockquote> Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Subscriber Episode: Allowing Alignment (Day 5)

Let&#39;s chat about the deeply rooted belied and story we are taught to buy into, that success or worthiness requires hard labor and constant suffering. When we fall into self-sabotage, we default to overworking because we’ve been conditioned to believe that struggle equals safety. Today is about choosing ease without the guilt.Key Takeaways:<ul><li>Unlearning the myth that exhaustion proves your value.</li><li>Why wanting to work less, earn more, and honor your purpose isn&#39;t lazy—it&#39;s aligned.</li><li>How to stop forcing outcomes out of fear.</li></ul><blockquote>Today’s Micro-Action:</blockquote><blockquote>Look at your to-do list right now. Choose one task and do it with 50% less effort—simplify it, delegate it, or drop the need to overcomplicate it.</blockquote> Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Subscriber Episode: Shifting from Forced Effort to Ease (Day 4)

So many of us were raised to believe that if the basics are covered, we should just be grateful and stay quiet. We start treating rest, abundance, and actual desire like luxury items we haven&#39;t earned. Today, we’re dismantling the &#34;Bare Minimum Trap&#34; and unlearning the habit of settling for crumbs.Key Takeaways:<ul><li>Why meeting basic survival needs isn&#39;t the final goal.</li><li>Recognizing how we treat our true desires as &#34;luxuries&#34; instead of necessities.</li><li>Reclaiming your right to want the full, abundant version of your life.</li></ul><blockquote>Today’s Micro-Action:</blockquote><blockquote>Audit your day. Pick one area—your schedule, your work, or your self-care—where you’ve been settling for the bare minimum, and declare out loud what the full version looks like.</blockquote> Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Subscriber Episode: The "Bare Minimum" Audit (Day 3)

On Day two , we’re looking at the tiny lies we tell ourselves to stay stuck. When a situation, job, or dynamic drains us, we often try to decorate it with excuses (&#34;At least it&#39;s flexible,&#34; &#34;At least it&#39;s close to home&#34;) ,<a href="https://app.redcircle.com/shows/9e0a768b-f0d0-495c-ad53-721ad70f82a7/ep/226108f5-d671-453b-8913-2bb5a94ae561" rel="nofollow">things I said in a recent episode</a>, just to feel safe. But decorating discomfort is how we remain on autopilot for years.Key Takeaways:<ul><li>The difference between true peace and decorated discomfort.</li><li>Why &#34;at least&#34; is the ultimate red flag in your self-talk.</li><li>Releasing the need to make peace with spaces that shrink you.</li></ul><blockquote>Today’s Micro-Action:</blockquote><blockquote>Write down the number one justification you’ve been using to stay in a situation that feels too small for you. Call it what it is, look at it on paper, and cross it out.</blockquote> Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Subscriber Episode: Making the Uncomfortable "Comfortable" (Day 2)

I am no longer available for playing (or living) small, or and my guess is that if you are listening to this, it&#39;s true for you as well. Part of me wants to lean into what my fears say - that there won&#39;t be enough, that the gifts I have don&#39;t matter, that I am destined for struggle mode - when in my heart I know 1000% that those things aren&#39;t true. So here I am, speaking to you, sharing a challenge that many of us have faced at some point in our lives. When big, bold growth scares us, our instinct is to grab onto small, sometimes harmful distractions because sometimes &#34;having this is better than nothing at all.&#34; I created a five day reflection that challenges the narrative that we can only have the bare minimum.Today is day one and we’re unpacking a personal story about me spending 30 minutes chasing down a job in a store. <a href="https://app.redcircle.com/shows/9e0a768b-f0d0-495c-ad53-721ad70f82a7/ep/226108f5-d671-453b-8913-2bb5a94ae561" rel="nofollow">I talked about this in a separate episode which you can listen to here. </a>This was a job I didn&#39;t even want.When big, beautiful visions scare us, our brains often create a distraction, something to cling to, that looks like safety or productivity, but is actually just a way to play ourselves smaller than what we are blooming into.Day one is about catching yourself in the act.Key Takeaways:<ul><li>How self-sabotage disguises itself as productive hustle.</li><li>Why we grab onto small distractions when our true vision feels intimidating.</li><li>How to spot where you&#39;re expending energy on things you don&#39;t actually want.</li></ul><blockquote>Today’s Micro-Action:</blockquote><blockquote>Identify your own &#34;store run.&#34; Name one area in your life where you are frantically pushing for a situation that is too small for you—and give yourself permission to stop fighting for it.</blockquote> Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Subscriber Episode: Stop Fighting For The Bare Minimum (Day 1)

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Ready to take this deeper? Join the private feed on RedCircle to get instant access to the exclusive 5-day audio series, <a href="https://app.redcircle.com/shows/9e0a768b-f0d0-495c-ad53-721ad70f82a7/exclusive-content" rel="nofollow">Stop Fighting for the Bare Minimum</a> &lt;--Nobody warns you about the silence that comes after you decide you’re done settling.When you stop chasing an opportunity, a relationship, or a dynamic that required you to shrink, you&#39;re left with an empty room. And if you aren&#39;t grounded in that quiet, panic sets in—and the bare minimum starts looking real comfortable again.In this episode, we’re unpacking what it actually takes to sit in the space between without rushing to fill the void with the first low-standard thing that comes along.In this episode, we cover:<ul><li>Why the quiet space after walking away feels so uncomfortable and why your mind misinterprets peace as loss.</li><li>How to stop bargaining with your standards when anxiety tells you to settle.</li><li>Reclaiming the buffer zone so your nervous system can adjust to a higher baseline.</li></ul>NEXT STEPS &amp; RESOURCES:<ul><li>Get the 5-Day Subscriber Series: Stop negotiating your worth and hold your ground. Click here to unlock the private feed on RedCircle: <a href="https://app.redcircle.com/shows/9e0a768b-f0d0-495c-ad53-721ad70f82a7/exclusive-content" rel="nofollow">Click Here To Subscribe </a></li><li>Connect &amp; Share: Loved this episode? Take a screenshot, tag me on social media, and share it with someone who needs to protect their space today.</li></ul> Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Nobody Talks About The Emptiness That Hits Once You Stop Settling

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What does your mental health and well-being capacity actually look like right now? In this episode, Bre introduces the concept of the Self-Care Cup: a powerful framework for measuring your capacity for healing, joy, and resilience.Tune in as Bre breaks down the 4 distinct stages of the Self-Care Cup, helps you identify exactly where you currently stand, and shares the practical steps needed to move toward a life of genuine overflow.<h3>The 4 Stages of Your Self-Care Cup: Which One Are You?</h3><ul><li>1. No Cup at All (Survival Mode)</li><li>The Vibe: You’re at rock bottom, completely depleted, and just trying to survive. Whether it’s a mental health crisis, financial strain, or chronic illness, you simply don’t have the capacity to hold onto goodness right now.</li><li>What you need most: Immediate support. Reach out to a therapist, a trusted friend, or look into your company&#39;s EAP resources.</li><li>2. A Cup with Holes (The Leak)</li><li>The Vibe: You’re out of immediate survival mode, but your energy is constantly draining. Energy vampires, poor boundaries, unresolved grief, or financial stressors are secretly bleeding you dry.</li><li>What you need most: Radical honesty. It’s time to audit your life, locate the leaks, and start patching them.</li><li>3. A Small &#34;Baby&#34; Cup (The Limited Reserve)</li><li>The Vibe: The holes are patched and survival mode is behind you, but your capacity is still quite small. If you are a chronic over-giver, you are at high risk of accidentally draining this delicate boundary.</li><li>What you need most: Protection. You can share your energy, but you must protect your baseline fiercely.</li><li>4. A Large, Overflowing Cup (The Sweet Spot)</li><li>The Vibe: This is the ultimate goal. You are thriving, full of vitality, and giving generously to others strictly from your overflow, never from your well.</li><li>What you need most: Maintenance. Keep doing what you&#39;re doing through consistency, boundaries, healthy habits, and deep self-trust.</li></ul><h3>Connect with the Show</h3><ul><li>Subscribe so you never miss an episode!</li></ul> Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

The 4 Stages Of The "Self-Care Cup" You Need To Know

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Our safety matters. Period. This episode is a reminder to protect yourself, know your squad, and stay aware of your surroundings. Inspired by the untimely passing of Nolan, this conversation wasn&#39;t something I could hold back. Then I&#39;m switching gears into something deeply personal - the in-between place of healing. If you&#39;ve been doing the work and wondering why it&#39;s still taking so long, this one is for you. ✨ In this episode:<ul><li>Safety tips every Black woman needs to hear </li><li>Why your healing timeline is valid — even when it feels slow </li></ul>	•		•	The body keeps the score — and what to do about it  Our Sponsors: * Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content'>https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Our Safety + The In-Between Place of Healing

After the Mic is the raw, unfiltered side of Brown Girl Self-Care.  These episodes are recorded on my iPhone, straight from the heart, where I say the things I hold back on the main podcast. Personal reflections, real-time processing, behind-the-scenes moments.  Just me and you.

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Join Bre, aka The Self-Care Pusher from Southern California, as she shares life experiences, weighs in on current events, amps up her wellness/health habits and finds clean(ish) products to try all for the sake of taking her physical, spiritual and emotional well-being to the next level and (hopefully) inspiring other women of color to do so as well.  It's time to become obsessed with our self-care!