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We Didn't Want To, So Why Didn't We Listen?

Season 3 | Episode 3
31m | Feb 28, 2024

Season 3 Episode 3 : We Didn't Want To, So Why Didn't We Listen?

TW: Brief Mention of Sexual Assault

In this episode, Rachelle delves into the complexity of sacrificing our own desires to make others happy through the lens of sexual intimacy.

While both challenging the black-and-white view of cheating and exploring the nuanced motivations that lead to it, she bravely recounts the one time she cheated on a boyfriend, and why it took close to 20 years to process.

Talking everything from societal pressures to shame and guilt, Rachelle vulnerably revisits how cheating led to a long-believed story she's held about herself for decades, and invites listeners to hear her untangle it in real time.

This episode reminds listeners of the importance of checking in with ourselves and prioritizing our own needs, and warns of the pitfalls that come with abandoning that inner voice. Rachelle extends her insights beyond gender, acknowledging that societal pressures affect individuals across the spectrum, emphasizing the universal relevance of the message.


Too Long, Didn’t Listen (TLDL):

  • Cheating is not black and white.
  • Societal Pressures around sex and intimacy effect people of all genders.
  • Personal check-ins are essential!
  • PERSONAL CHECK IN: Am I engaging in sexual behaviors when it's not an enthusiastic yes? Am I doing this FOR someone else's benefit? Where is the pressure coming from?
  • Even if you're in a partnership with somebody that you love very much doing sexual things with them long term when you don't want to does damage.
  • Take inventory of your stories and allow for moments of reflection


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February 28, 2024 || 31 Minutes

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