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The Trainable Skill That Separates Good Leaders from Great Ones

Episode 13
8m | Sep 17, 2026

Losing your temper at work costs more than an awkward moment. It changes how your team's body responds to you.

This episode is part of Dr. Gary's solo series on the Seven Steps of Intentional Leadership, covering emotional intelligence as the first component of Step Two: Choice. Using Daniel Goleman's model, Dr. Gary breaks down the biology behind emotional triggers, shares a coaching story about a construction company owner whose anger was read as a threat by his team, and explains the real cost in cortisol, adrenaline, heart rate, and blood pressure. He also draws the line between passion that motivates and passion that damages trust.

There's a version of this skill that doesn't stay at the office. It follows you home, into your marriage, into how your kids experience you on your worst days. Dr. Gary doesn't just name that reality, he leaves you with the question of what your own reaction has been costing the people who can't just leave the room.


Key Takeaways

00:00 Why Guys Only Have Two Feelings

00:46 Step Two, Choice: The Three Parts

01:20 Daniel Goleman's Model Of Emotional Intelligence

02:50 Why Your EQ Score Can Always Improve

03:44 The CEO Who Made His Team Shut Down

05:20 It's About The Problem, Not The Person

06:44 Using Emotion To Connect And Inspire

07:42 Next Up: Decision Making And Longevity


Connect with Dr. Gary McGrath:

🌐 Website: statarius.com 

💼 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drgarymcgrath 


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About the Host

Dr. Gary McGrath is the founder of Statarius, a leadership development firm focused on helping organizations turn good bosses into great leaders through compassionate accountability. Over a 40-year career spanning Fortune 500 companies, technology startups, and leadership consulting, he has trained and coached thousands of leaders across business and nonprofit organizations. His work centers on developing practical leadership frameworks that help organizations build stronger cultures and more effective leaders at every level.


emotional intelligence, leadership development, executive coaching, self awareness, leadership podcast, workplace stress, team dynamics, cortisol response, dr gary mcgrath, intentional leadership

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