A podcast about recovery and a life free from substance abuse.

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My friend Beth Lafferty was murdered. It is a resentment that stays with me. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Remembering Beth L

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Life is long if we let it be. The longer we live, the more people we have to love. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Keep living. There are people you will love that have not been born yet.

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No matter how long we stay clean and sober, life still happens to us. How do we handle bad things in life when we are working our hardest to be good people? Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Dealing with grief and loss in a healthy way.

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There are several ways through the woods, but the paved path will prove to be the best option. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Stay on the path

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It has been a while since I have recorded one of these shows. I got back in the groove tonight with some discussion about a rush to service for newcomers, sponsorship and the promises of AA Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

The promises of recovery will come true if we work for them.

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With our 4th step now complete, it is now time to put that knowledge to work. It is time to admit to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. Who do we tell? How do we decide? What do we do next? All of that and more on today&#39;s show. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Step Five: Admitting the exact nature of our wrongs.

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The first three steps are basically about establishing a foundation of belief. The fourth step is an action step that can be a stumbling block if not approached in the proper manner. On Today&#39;s show, I will guide you through the process toward a deeper understanding of who you are and who you can become. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Step Four: How to conduct a proper fourth step

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Those of us who struggle with chemical dependency usually have issues with control. AA teaches us to let go of those things that we try to hold and place. What can be gained by simply letting go? Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Step Three: More about the Higher Power concept

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Step two can be a stumbling block for many due to their own thoughts and feelings about religion. On today&#39;s show, I talk about my own experiences with the higher power concept and admitting that some of my old behavior was absolutely insane. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Step Two: You're not crazy, but you still need help

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I struggled mightily with the first step, because I had a hard time admitting that I was whipped. I did not want to say that something was stronger than me. In time, I learned that I had already given my power away and it was time to take it back. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Step One: Powerlessness is not weakness

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When is okay to date again once I get sober? Is it okay to date someone who continues to drink? What if I am married to someone who triggers me to drink? All of that and more on today&#39;s show. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Relationships in early recovery

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When I first got sober, I wasn&#39;t ready to have anyone preach to me. I wasn&#39;t ready to get back into church, but I still needed a connection with a higher power. What does that mean and why is it important to sobriety? Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Establishing a spiritual connection.

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If you are surrounding by dishonest people, it is probably because that is what you attract. What behaviors are we exhibiting that makes people feel it is okay to be dishonest with us? Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Changing the circle of influence begins within.

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It is easy for addicts and alcoholics to blame others for our shortcoming and misfortunes. Real recovery begins when we admit that we are the source of most of our problems. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

A Me Problem

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There are some common themes when it comes to relapse. Perhaps the most common is that people stop doing the things that got them clean and sober in the first place. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Pathology of relapse

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After living a lie for an extended period of time, it takes some time to find the capacity to be honest. It is the most important tenet in recovery. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

A life so dishonest

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The first step towards solving any problem is to first admit there is a problem. On today&#39;s show, I talk about my own realizations that I was an alcoholic and a drug addict and the first steps towards addressing the issue. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

A sobering reality

A podcast about recovery and a life free from substance abuse.