Reclaim your personal power by changing your goals - 24.07.19

Set your goals to be big and not dependent on what other people do, but on who you become. For example, don't set your goal to be - I will make $10k next month from my business, but instead set it to be, I will become the person that will inspire people around me and create beautiful relationships.

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If you want to help people, don't help them with advice, love them as they are instead - 24.07.18

Hi everyone, in this video I want to dive deep into the concept of advice giving and its deeper implications. Recently, I've been reflecting on the principles of the Alcoholics Anonymous 12-step program, which emphasizes the importance of love and connection over direct advice. The program suggests that many addictions stem from a lack of love and connection, and addressing these root causes can help us overcome our dependencies.

I want to share some personal reflections on trying to help a friend by giving advice. I realized that my motivation was mixed with ego and a desire for validation. The most effective way to help others is not through unsolicited advice but through non-judgmental love and support.

By removing internal judgments and simply being present with love, I found that people felt more at ease and open. True help comes from being empathetic and loving, rather than trying to fix or advise. I wish for all of you to embody this non-judgmental love in your interactions, fostering genuine connections and personal growth.

Remember, the best way to help someone is to love them, not to try to fix them. Let's be there for each other with open hearts and minds.

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Surrender and be happy - 24.07.17

Hello everyone! In this video, I want to talk to you about the difficult yet essential act of surrender. It's challenging but necessary and incredibly beautifully life-giving.

Rejection as Protection:

• Rejection often serves as protection and can be a hidden blessing.
• Personal experiences: Times when I faced rejection led to much better outcomes than I originally wanted. Have you ever desperately wanted something, only to be thankful later that you didn't get it? I have, and I'm grateful for those moments now.

Stories of Faith:

• A devoted follower was diagnosed with cancer, felt forsaken, but early detection saved his life.
• Another devoted person faced cancer and surrendered completely to her faith, finding peace and gratitude, even in her final days.

Trust and Faith:

• The higher power catches us when we fall to build our faith.
• The higher power gives us what we need, not necessarily what we want.

Gratitude:

• Focus on gratitude daily to shift attention from negatives to positives.
• Practical tips: Write down things you're grateful for, express gratitude when you wake up and before you go to bed. This helps you remember the good things that might otherwise slip through your fingers.

So, as I wrap up, I wish you a day filled with personal growth, gratitude, and powerful surrender. Trust that life is supporting you, and you will find peace and joy in that trust. Thank you for watching, and remember to surrender and be happy.

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Raise your standards and have compassion for those who trigger you - 24.07.16

You have in your life what you decide you are okay with. Whatever you are not okay with, you will let flow away from your life. You do that all the time, but you do not see you are doing that at the edge of who you are. Raise your standards.

Also, have compassion for those who are triggering you. They are going through their own journey and they may be mean to you because they are hurting. Even if you yourself are feeling triggered, wait for yourself to calm down and ask them what they are triggered about with you. Listen to them without justifying, if possible. Let them ask you why you got triggered and then reply. See your relationships completely transform.

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Emotional and addiction healing - 24.07.15

This is a deepening of the previous video about the brilliance of the AA program.

The most basic need of any human being is to be loved and to love. I'm going to be so bold as to say that almost all human problems, fears, traumas, or what I call anarthas, come from this fear that I am not loved, and even more deeper, I am not lovable. Almost all anger, greed, envy, fear, resentment, comes from this fear.

To alleviate our fears, we turn to all kinds of addictions, chasing love where it can not be found. We turn to alcohol addiction, drug addiction, love addiction, food addiction, TV addiction, phone addiction, and so on. To resolve these, here are 4 points to consider.

1. Identify if you're addicted. How do we tell if we're addicted? By being able to walk away from the thing whenever we choose to. Do you have the freedom to walk away whenever you want?

2. Understand that it stems from emotional insecurity. The AA program addresses it - there is no advice, only connection with the Supreme being, as well as with other human beings. There was an experiment on rats who chose morphine water over regular water when alone but regular water when in a community. What then to speak on such emotional beings as humans!

3. Build a community where giving is encouraged. My recommendation is to find the nearest Isckon temple near you so you yourself can be engaged in any of a wide variety of services. Also, finding an appropriate AA program will help you.

4. Advice can be very useful, but set a clear intention to find a way to give advice without being attached to whether the person accepts it or not, otherwise it's about you needing validation, not about them. Like - I think this resource will be useful to you, feel free to take it if and when you need it. And then let it percolate into them so they take it if and when they want to.

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The brilliance of the AA 12 step program - no advice, addresses the root cause! 24.07.12

The most basic need of any human being is to be loved and to love. I'm going to be so bold as to say that almost all human problems, fears, traumas, or what I call anarthas, come from this fear that I am not loved, and even more deeper, I am not lovable. Almost all anger, greed, envy, fear, resentment, comes from this fear.

To alleviate our fears, we turn to all kinds of addictions, chasing love where it can not be found. We turn to alcohol addiction, drug addiction, love addiction, food addiction, TV addiction, phone addiction, and so on.

The 12 step program does not give a single piece of advice along the lines of - don't drive by bars, don't hang out with people who drink, none of it. It addresses the very root cause directly. Build your relationship with God. And take support from other people within the program who are also eager to heal. Build your relationship with other human beings, and ultimately and primarily, with God. While talking to other human beings, refrain from giving advice, just be there for people, make them feel seen and heard, and be seen and heard yourself. Brilliant!

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Dwell on the problem - 24.07.11

Dwell on the problem a lot more time than you may be used to, and admit that you have a problem and that you need help to fix it.

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Give people what they ask for, not what you think they need - 24.07.10

We may feel like jumping in and giving advice because we feel that we know the solution to people's problems. But what works wonders for people is simply being listened to, being heard, and knowing that the person is there for us no matter what. Listen reflectively, mirror back to them what they are saying. Even if they are angry, instead of reacting to it, just say, so what I'm understanding is that you're upset with me because I ask for too much of your time and attention. And leave it at that. So they feel understood in their frustration. Be present - simply being there for someone can be much more powerful than giving advice.

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Feel Loved: Shift Focus from Self to Service - 24.07.09

When you're feeling insecure about something, find deep joy by helping others and thinking of how to help someone else.

Summary of talk:

1. Mindfulness and Positive Thinking:

* Constant self-awareness and thought monitoring

* Redirect negative thoughts to positive affirmations

* Replace negative self-identities with achievable affirmations

2. Practice and Patience:

* Understand changing thought patterns takes time

* Be kind to yourself , practice, and accept the long process

3. Gratitude and Internal Validation:

* Practice daily gratitude to reinforce feeling loved

* Seek self-worth from within or a higher power

* Understand that external validation is unreliable

Unconditional Love and Service:

* Focus on serving and loving others unconditionally

* Reflect daily on how you've helped or thought about others

* Learn from stories like Bhishma’s to emphasize selfless love

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Choosing Depth Over Breadth: The Key to True Mastery - 24.07.08

It is a lot more glamorous to tell people that you listened to so many lectures this month or I read so many books this tear. It is much more humbling to say I only read one book but I read it many times. People might fake humility and say, I am a slow learner so I need to read it many times to understand it. But the person you become when you go deep is a lot more powerful than if you go broad. Go deep. Read that one book a hundred times, learn it, absorb it, make it a part of your DNA. Memorize it. Contemplate on it over and over again. And don't worry about those who may laugh at you for doing that.

1. Learning Styles:- Change your learning style so you go deep into a topic, versus the more common style of covering a lot of information quickly - The importance of going deep and the benefits of this approach.

2. Stages of Learning:- The four stages of learning: unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence, and unconscious competence.- Applying these stages to the you own learning process.

3. Spiritual Perspective on Learning:- The Indian scriptural concepts of Shravana (listening), Manana (contemplation), and Nididhyasana (deep meditation).- Connecting these spiritual concepts to the stages of learning.

4. Practical Advice on Learning:- I encourage you to go deep into your learning, rather than just consuming a lot of information. Don't forget the importance of humility and gratitude in the learning process.

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But hooooow do we raise our standards? 24.07.03

Yes I know that I have limiting identities based on limiting beliefs that don't serve me, I've known that for years and decades, but hoooooow do I raise my standards? What do I dooooooo? :)

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What would xyz do? 24.07.02

When you have an identity that does not serve you, for example, mine has been that I'm not hard working, find a person who embodies the identity you would like, and channel that person all day long. What would this hard working person do? For me it is Arjun, the character in the Bhagvad Gita.

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True vulnerability and meeting of hearts - 24.07.01

Vulnerability is the other side of humility. It is the expression of humility to the other person. When done safely, in a relationship you want to build trust in, it leads to a much deeper and more genuine meeting of the hearts and relationships that are meaningful and fulfilling.

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Achieve freedom from resentment - 24.06.27

Resentment is about wanting the other person to tell us we are worthy and therefore lovable because we ourselves don't feel it. When the other person doesn't come through with that, then we feel resentful. How do we manage it? By building our relationship with God, which is not as impossible as we may think. Also, we can enlist the help of a friend to get the message across to solve the problem without embarrassing or hurting the other person. And we can understand that this may be happening for our benefit. And it helps us question the fundamentals - what do we really and truly want? We can start to work towards what we truly want instead of being a response to our triggers.

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Deep humility leading to deep love - 24.06.26

Exploring the depths of humility that lead to true, deep love for God and for other human beings. What does humility mean in the context of our day to day life in a way that we can protect ourselves?

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Embrace the worst case scenario - 24.06.25

Often it may seem on the surface that you are very deeply willing to fail fast, fail frequently, celebrate failures. But like me, you may be very deeply afraid of failure and therefore may be blocking yourself from truly trying.

One hack to get around that is to think of the worst case scenario, in my case very bad health and a lot of pain. Embrace that, be okay with that, decide that you will be okay, no matter what, that God will take care of you, no matter what, and then try what you're trying. You may find yourself trying much more deeply when the fear of the worst case scenario is no longer driving you.

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Anger - the ego response to someone else's actions - 24.06.24

When we are not convinced of our own self worth, or of the gifts that God has given us, then we want someone else to convince us that we are worthy. When they don't do it, our ego flares up and we become angry as a means to try to force someone else to convince us of our self worth. Because underneath the lack of self worth is the fear that we will not be loved if we are not worthy. In this way, we easily and firmly place our actions, our thoughts, and our emotions, squarely in the hands of someone else.

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Deepening - Be unshakeable like a mountain no matter the season - 24.06.23

This is a deepening of yesterday's video, explaining what being unshakeable means. Does it mean that we are perfect in our consistency and actions? Or does it mean that even if we fall, and even if we fall for years, we keep our faith unshakeable, that we will figure it out at some point? Definitely the latter. Progress over perfection.

Yesterday's talk: Be like a mountain. When it is winter it will become dry and barren and brown and not pretty. When it is the rainy season it will become clean and fresh and lush and green. But the mountain does not budge an inch. It is unshakeable and unmovable. Be like the mountain in your resilience and resolve. Unshakeable. Even if you go through low phases, stick to your consistency and discipline. Keep making progress in whatever you want to make progress in, one step at a time, and don't let the external responses to you shake your determination to keep going on the path you choose for yourself. Be a leader of your life. Pivot when needed based on externals but do not budge with your resolve.

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Be unshakeable like a mountain no matter the season - 24.06.22

Be like a mountain. When it is winter it will become dry and barren and brown and not pretty. When it is the rainy season it will become clean and fresh and lush and green. But the mountain does not budge an inch. It is unshakeable and unmovable. Be like the mountain in your resilience and resolve. Unshakeable. Even if you go through low phases, stick to your consistency and discipline. Keep making progress in whatever you want to make progress in, one step at a time, and don't let the external responses to you shake your determination to keep going on the path you choose for yourself. Be a leader of your life. Pivot when needed based on externals but do not budge with your resolve.

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Take full responsibility - request God for the consequences of your actions - 24.06.21

If our attitude changes from wanting to be forgiven for our mistakes so we don't face the consequences of our actions, then we will be functioning through life in a different way. If, instead, we choose to not only be okay for our consequences, and actually be grateful for them because we are clearing our karmic debt in a fair way, then we can actually open up our hearts to real love where we are in relationships with people because we want to love them rather than always looking for something from them, including forgiveness. Our relationships become much more loving and much less transactional in nature.

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