She Feels Your Tension Before She Feels Your Hands
In this episode I get into touch, why it lands or falls flat with a woman, and what her body is already reading in you before your hands ever move. I break down the physiology behind it, your breath, your nervous system, and the different kinds of tension that decide whether she melts into you or just tolerates you. I also get into my own history with touch, which wasn't pretty, and the frame I now use with the men I coach around all of this.
This Monday: the breath workshop
If this episode landed and you want to go further into it, Elizabeth Anneka and I are teaching a live workshop on Zoom this Monday, August 10th. Ninety minutes, 5:30 Pacific. Today's episode was about your breath. This workshop one is about hers, how to read it, and use it as a compass toward deeper connection and better sex. That's Elizabeth's teaching and it's very good. Ninety-seven dollars, and everyone who signs up gets the replay whether you make it live or not.
Labor Day weekend: the retreat
September 3rd through the 7th, out at Bell Valley in Anderson Valley, Northern California. Four days. The ground, the breath, the capacity to stay in contact with another human being without bracing. Everything in this episode, trained at depth, with a crew of men doing the same work. We cap it at 26 men and there are three spots left. If this one has been tugging at you, this is the window.
August 24: Rage & Anger, with Dr. Luke Adler
Most of us never had healthy anger modeled for us. We watched men explode, or we watched men go numb, and somewhere in there we swore off the whole thing and called the shutdown maturity. But the anger you never let yourself feel doesn't leave. It comes out sideways, or it turns inward and your body carries it.
Luke and I are running a free live session on Monday, August 24th. We'll break down the difference between clean anger and aggression, show you how to build a container for that energy so it fuels you instead of leaking onto the people you love, and then lead you through a guided practice so you leave having actually felt it move. Come with a private space where you can make some noise. A car works. A garage works.
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