for now.

It's such a weird feeling to type this out because the confidantes have been a part of my life every week for the last 6 (!!!!!!!!) years!!! For now, Confidently Insecure is going on hiatus...the truth is that podcasting is REALLY hard as an independent podcaster. Most of the market is traditional celebs and huge companies producing amazing work and series and it's hard to keep up! The great podcast wave of 2021/2022 made it feel like EVERYONE you knew had a podcast and I am lucky to say that out of the 4.5 MILLION podcasts, I have been lucky enough to be in the .5% of the top listened to podcasts in the world. Crazy. I'll never forget seeing our pod on the top charts all the way back in 2019 when I first launched con pod. We've had the most INCREDIBLE guests including scientists, sex workers, activists, comedians, and friends. I've felt SO LUCKY to be the one holding that space for your ears every week and feel genuinely connected to each of you, confidantes. I read all the comments...I read all the messages...I feel so so so lucky to have had you all as an audience for the last 6 years. I am so grateful. I am so lucky. I feel so loved.

Stay tuned on this channel for more videos that aren't podcasts soon....and if you're not already following on IG & TT get more content there!!!!

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HAPPY WINTER YALL!! this episode has it all...including a brutally honest and absolutely unserious exploration of being a “bad feminist” in 2025. I confess all the little things I like — romantic tropes, protective behavior, fictional toxic men, and feminine indulgences — that technically shouldn’t align with feminist ideals but totally do because I contain multitude mmkay?!??!! Listener confessions join the party, and we talk about the real difference between desire and dependency, and why personal wants don’t cancel political beliefs. This one’s all about self-acceptance, laughing at ourselves, and remembering feminism has room for complexity (and a little trash taste).

✨ Chapter Timestamps

00:00 — Introduction + holiday updates + doc premiere panic

15:55 — Confessions of a “Bad Feminist” (the jar-opening discourse)

20:50 — The Allure of Fictional Men (Pedro Pascal, Joe Goldberg, help)

25:41 — The Pillow Princess Revelation (don’t @ me)

32:25 — Guilty Pleasures & Feminine Indulgences (yes, the Stanley Cup makes me feel safe)

37:07 — Listener Confessions: Feminism vs. Personal Desire (we’re all the same)

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Going home for Thanksgiving and already bracing for the political landmines your family is absolutely going to drop? Same.

This week’s episode is your official survival guide to dealing with conservative relatives, culture-war ambushes, and that one uncle who thinks Facebook memes count as primary sources.

I walk you through exactly what to say when someone at the table hits you with:

• “Your generation ruined the family.”
• “These elections are going to be rigged.”
• “Drag queens shouldn’t be around kids.”

AND MORE!!!!!!

🎥 ALSO MY DOCUMENTARY IS ALMOST HERE

Be the first to see THE LIMITS OF FORGIVENESS, my new feature documentary about restorative justice and survivors rewriting what justice looks like.

Tickets are available NOW:

👉 www.moment.co/forgiveness

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Thats right! YOU CONFIDANTS get to hear it here first - the early bird tickets are now on sale at moment.co/forgiveness for the next 7 days get your tickets to stream our documentary for only $10! sign up for our live premiere and join us for the q&a after! heres the episode that started it all....

www.moment.co/forgiveness

$10 streaming 12/17/2025

Live Q&A to follow ($10 add on!)

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THIS WEEK is an INTENSE QUICKIE...just the way we like it ;) hehehe we talk about migraines, addiction, and moving! Don't forget to mark your calendars for DEC17th! for the premiere of The Limits Of Forgiveness on moment.co !

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How do you hold people accountable without being labeled “toxic”? What if the person you need to call out… is your ex, your boss, or that one guy who still doesn’t know what emotional labor is?

In today’s episode, we’re diving into the deliciously complicated world of call out culture—and specifically how to do it with humor, honesty, and just the right amount of “how can we make men look dumb as f*ck.

SAVE THE DATE: DECEMBER 17 2025!!!!!!!!! IF YOU KNOW, YOU LISTENED TO THE EPISODE!!!!!!!!!!

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The war over skinny jeans, side parts, and the 😂 emoji rages on — but what’s really behind the Millennial vs. Gen Z feud?

In this episode we break down the cultural clash between two generations raised on Wi-Fi, caffeine, and emotional damage. From the evolution of humor to the rise of ironic detachment, we hilariously dissects why Gen Z thinks Millennials are “cringe,” why Millennials can’t stop oversharing, and how social media keeps us pitted against each other.

But beneath the memes and middle parts lies a deeper truth: both generations are just trying to survive late-stage capitalism, mental health crises, and the algorithm — in their own weird ways.

🧠 Chapters:

00:00 – Intro: The Generational Feud Nobody Asked For

02:02 – Millennials: The Analog-to-Digital Transition

05:07 – Gen Z: Digital Natives & Social Awareness

07:38 – Cultural Cringe: The Divide Gets Petty

10:17 – Social Media: The Algorithm Loves Drama

13:16 – The Evolution of Humor Online

15:51 – Finding Common Ground & Collaboration

18:28 – Why We Actually Need Each Other

20:55 – Conclusion: Embrace the Cringe

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In this episode of Hoes Throughout History, we dive deep into the unhinged, unstoppable, and undeniably iconic life of Empress Wu Zetian — the first and only female emperor of China. From concubine to supreme ruler of the Tang dynasty, Wu played the political game like a damn chess master while rewriting what it meant to be a woman in power...and the brutal rumors spread by salty men who couldn’t handle her crown. Was she ruthless? Sure. Revolutionary? Absolutely.

🎧 Chapters:

00:00 — Introduction to Empress Wu Zetian

03:08 — The Rise of Wu Zhao: From Concubine to Empress

11:55 — Wu Zetian’s Reign: Power, Politics, and Reform

15:59 — The Fall of Wu Zetian: Abdication and Legacy

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Breakups used to end when you gave back the hoodie and blocked their AIM screen name. But now? Your ex is still in your group chat, haunting your Spotify playlists, and popping up in your “On This Day” memories like a digital poltergeist. 💀

In this episode of Confidently Insecure, I’m unpacking the new hellscape of digital breakups — from the psychology of why we hold onto those tiny online connections, to the emotional chaos of navigating shared group chats, and the art of a full-on digital exorcism (delete, block, cleanse, repeat).

We’ll talk about what it actually takes to move on in the age of social media, how to reclaim your digital space, and why closure isn’t something they give you — it’s something you create.

If you’ve ever said “I’m totally over them” while still checking their Venmo feed... this one’s for you

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What happens when you go from corporate burnout to facilitating psychedelic healing in a church? Bobby Lennox, founder of Jaguar House Ministries, joins me to talk about his wild transformation — from miserable suit-and-tie life to deep spiritual work through Bufo (aka the mystical toad medicine 🐸).

We get real about:

💫 The power of psychedelics for mental health and trauma healing

🌀 What actually happens during a Bufo ceremony

💬 The crucial role of integration (because tripping is the easy part)

🏛️ How Bobby legally created a psychedelic church to help others heal

🌿 And why community + compassion matter more than “perfect enlightenment”

This one’s part therapy session, part cosmic sermon, and fully life-changing. Whether you’ve done plant medicine before or are just curious what all the “toad talk” is about — this episode will open your mind and maybe even your heart.

🧘‍♀️ Listen wherever you get your podcasts

📱 Follow Bobby & Jaguar House Ministries:

https://jaguarhouse.org/

https://www.instagram.com/_bobbylennox_/

https://www.instagram.com/jaguarhousechurch/

💌 Connect with me on IG/TikTok: @kelseydarragh

If you love deep convos about healing, spirituality, and what it means to actually grow — subscribe and join the Confidant fam 💖

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A VLOG POD?! What is this?! it's a new thing i just made up!! its a vlog its a podcast! its a VLOG POD okay?! In this week’s episode of Confidently Insecure, I’m giving you the unfiltered scoop on everything from my latest documentary chaos to why my skincare routine is basically my church right now. We’ll talk stress, organization (or lack thereof), the makeup and nail hacks I swear by, and why I keep daydreaming about moving to Europe. Consider this part beauty vlog, part therapy session, and part behind-the-scenes peek at the wild ride my little life has become.

Grab your serums, a fresh coat of polish, and let’s get into it. 💅

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates

02:33 Documentary Insights and Creative Process

05:26 Beauty Routine and Product Recommendations

10:33 Skincare and Makeup Essentials

15:59 Nail Care and DIY Techniques

26:24 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

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In this episode, I’m diving into the brain chemical that rules our lives: dopamine. Pulling from Dr. Anna Lembke’s Dopamine Nation, Andrew Huberman’s research on addiction, and the book The Molecule of More, we’ll cover:

✨ Why dopamine isn’t about happiness—it’s about wanting more

✨ How love, sex, drugs, and TikTok all hijack the same system

✨ Why the honeymoon phase feels like a drug… and why long-term love feels different

✨ The dark side of dopamine: addiction, tolerance, anxiety

✨ How to reclaim dopamine for creativity, ambition & joy

Whether you’re addicted to your phone, chasing love like it’s cocaine, or just trying to understand why Oreos are impossible to eat “in moderation,” this episode will make you laugh and maybe change how you live.

👀 Watch, subscribe, and share your weirdest dopamine spiral in the comments.

🎧 Full audio podcast on all platforms: Confidently Insecure with Kelsey Darragh

📖 My books: Don’t Fcking Panic* + Screaming, Crying, Throwing Up (breakup survival guide, coming soon!)

🐶 Dog videos because serotonin @hippothebaby

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Pack your bags, babe—we’re taking Confidently Insecure to Munich! 🎙️ This week I’m recording from the English Garden with my boyfriend (yes,THE ATHLETE). We’re talking alllll about what it’s really like seeing each other again after two months apart, the weird/funny/adorable cultural differences I’ve noticed in Germany (spoiler: everyone here is way cleaner than us), and debunking some wild dating myths about German men.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Setting the Scene

02:38 Cultural Reflections: Comparing Germany and America

05:22 Exploring Munich: Personal Experiences and Impressions

08:13 German Cuisine: A Taste of Bavaria

11:05 Language Games: Understanding German Words

19:59 Dating Myths in Germany: A Fun Exploration

21:25 Dating Dynamics in Germany

32:14 Navigating Long-Distance Relationships

46:19 Reflections on Munich and Future Plans

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In this week’s Hoes Throughout History, Kelsey dives into the scandalous, petty, and downright iconic life of Theodora of Byzantium - the actress-turned-courtesan who flipped the script and became Empress of the Byzantine Empire.

From slut-shaming gossip in the history books to changing laws for women, Theodora’s story is messy, powerful, and oh-so-relevant. We’ll cover:

• Her rise from stage girl to co-ruler 👑
• The social reforms that gave hoes rights in 500 CE ✨
• The infamous “Purple is a fine color for a burial shroud” speech that saved Constantinople from burning 🔥

Get comfy, grab your coffee, and let’s talk about how a “hoe” became the woman who held an empire together.

👉 Don’t forget to rate, review, and tell me: what’s YOUR purple shroud hill?

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✨ mental health • feminism • community living • relationships ✨

In today’s episode we’re diving headfirst into the big messy questions: what does it mean to build a life outside of men and outside of society’s “timeline”?

I break down the Bird’s Nest community (a women-only living space where companionship > coupledom), the rise of the 4B movement in South Korea (spoiler: no men, no marriage, no babies, no problem?), and how timeline grief sneaks up on us when we realize we’re not living the script we were handed.

We’ll talk money (aka financial independence = freedom), self-discovery, and why reinvention at literally ANY age is not only allowed, it’s necessary. Plus: I got featured in the Wall Street Journal (!!) so yeah, we’re celebrating that too.

🔑 takeaways:

• Community living is changing the way women think about love + support
• The 4B movement is feminism… turned up to 11
• “Timeline grief” is real, but it doesn’t have to own you
• Financial independence = the sexiest thing you can give yourself
• Reinvention is always on the table

🕒 chapters:

00:00 Intro

04:34 Bird’s Nest Community

12:50 The Dynamics of Male Relationships

17:40 4B Movement: A Feminist Stance

25:10 Timeline Grief + Personal Reflection

32:48 Financial Independence + Future Planning

💬 Drop me a comment if you’ve ever felt timeline grief, if you’d move into a Bird’s Nest house, or if you’re secretly (or not so secretly) 4B curious.

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In this week’s episode, we are officially 35 — which means we'reold enough to know better but still young enough to make terrible choices...INSERT JADE EGG LITERALLY. We reflect on what this birthday actually feels like (spoiler: it’s not the crisis we thought it would be), gush about foster dog Fred... Plus, BOOK CLUB IS BACK as we dive into some recent books with badass female leads and why representation isn’t just a buzzword — it’s literally shaping how we see ourselves. Come for the birthday tea, stay for the vagina jokes and unsolicited life advice.

Chapters

00:00 Celebrating 35: A Birthday Reflection

03:14 Viral Moments and Social Media Fame

05:51 Family Dynamics and Expectations

09:17 Adventures in Self-Care and New Experiences

13:06 T-Swift and Celebrity Culture

16:21 Book Club: Exploring New Reads

25:34 Closing Thoughts and Listener Engagement

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This week on Confidently Insecure, I sit down with returning friend of the pod, author, and cosmic hype queen Madi Murphy to talk about her brand-new book In the Cosmic Zone: Embodying the 12 Astro Archetypes to Unleash Your Genius & Activate Your Authentic Self.

We get into:

🌟 Why astrology should ALIGN you, not define you

🦁 The Leo Season mantra: “I need to be seen” — and why that’s not narcissism, it’s power

📅 How to actually use each zodiac season to fuel your goals

⚖️ What it means to create harmony, reclaim your power, and trust your damn self

💼 The Capricorn reminder that your life is your legacy

💥 Madi’s David vs. Goliath court case against Starbucks (yes, she won)

💡 How to turn cosmic wisdom into daily, doable action

Whether you’re astrology-curious, a chart-reading pro, or a total skeptic, this episode is your permission slip to step into your cosmic zone and start living like the main character.

🎧 Grab your notebook, your birth chart, and maybe a sequin jacket — the stars (and Madi) have some things to say to you.

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A CONTROVERSY!!!! or is it all that controversial when you hear the facts? Child-free living has never looked more desirable, but countries all over the world are SO DESPERATE to make people BONE!!! What do you think, confidantes? Lets explore the societal, financial, and personal implications of choosing not to have children.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Child-Free Movement

01:46 Understanding Child-Free vs. Childless

07:15 Personal Reflections on Being Child-Free

09:30 Financial Considerations of Parenthood

13:19 The Role of Partners in Parenting Decisions

14:41 Concerns About the State of the World

15:59 The Village Concept in Modern Parenting

18:18 The Pressure of Family Expectations

20:24 The Risks of Pregnancy and Childbirth

21:24 Declining Birth Rates and Societal Implications

23:57 Global Trends in Birth Rates

26:58 Incentives for Childbirth Around the World

30:34 Critique of Societal Pressures on Women

31:48 Community Perspectives on Being Child-Free

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Is love supposed to travel this far?? This week, we break down the chaos, science, and comedy of long-distance relationships.

From sexting over glitchy WiFi and jealousy spirals in different time zones, to real success stories that prove LDRs can work—this episode is your ultimate guide to emotionally surviving (or walking away from) long-distance love.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: A Week in the Life

02:32 Leo Season: Embracing Confidence and Creativity

05:29 Fostering Fred: A Journey of Love and Care

11:09 Long-Distance Relationships: A Personal Reflection

18:40 The Science of Long-Distance Love

28:51 Pros and Cons of Long-Distance Relationships

37:19 Final Thoughts and Community Engagement

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THE BABY GOES WHERE??!!! BREASTMILK CAN DO WHAT?!?! Yeah. prepare to have your mind absolutely BLOWN by these facts about BIRTHING A HUMAN CHILD! But first up...updates on trump, weird packages, and screaming. yep.

Chapters

00:00 Emerging from a Funk

02:26 Navigating Bisexual Dilemmas

05:47 Exciting New Ventures and Merchandise

08:01 Exploring the New Show: Building the Band

15:19 Diving into Childbirth Education

29:17 Reflections and Giveaways

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