&#34;We don&#39;t see things as they are. We see them as we are.&#34; — Anaïs NinDr. Tricia Rose Stone spent 20 years as an optometrist correcting how people see the world, then she realized the most important lenses we wear aren&#39;t in front of our eyes. They&#39;re the beliefs, stories, and identities we&#39;ve been looking through for a lifetime. And there comes a moment, for many women, it arrives in midlife, when the prescription simply stops working.What if the woman you&#39;re becoming isn&#39;t somewhere in the future?What if she&#39;s already within you, waiting to be seen?See Her Now is a podcast for women who are ready to stop second-guessing themselves and start living in alignment with the life they truly desire. Through inspiring conversations, personal stories, and practical wisdom, host Tricia Rose Stone helps listeners shift their perspective, reconnect with their truth, and embody their vision.Whether you&#39;re navigating a transition, healing from heartbreak, pursuing a dream, seeking a deeper purpose, or calling in a new chapter of love and life, each episode offers a fresh way to see yourself and what&#39;s possible.Drawing on her experience as a life coach, former optometrist, and creator of The True Lens Method™, Tricia explores the powerful connection between perception and transformation—because when you change the way you see, everything begins to change.The future version of you is already waiting.Can you see her now?

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The host interviews Mariana Alvarez about rebuilding her life after a dramatic turning point in December 2020, when she sought a protection order and began divorce proceedings at 43 with two children during the pandemic. She lost access to a business she helped build because it was legally only in her husband’s name, leaving her with no job, no income, few assets, and ongoing custody and legal battles. Mariana describes doing intense internal reflection to overcome bitterness, regain self-trust through small daily decisions, and later pursuing therapy once she felt stable. She rebuilt financially by returning to corporate accounting, then launched and grew a virtual accounting firm and later began coaching women—often in their 40s–50s and empty nesters—who feel unfulfilled and want clarity and meaning. She emphasizes women maintaining identity and financial independence, viewing partnership as shared leadership, and becoming the qualities they seek in future relationships.00:00 When Life Falls Apart01:26 The Breaking Point02:33 Doing the Inner Work05:29 Therapy and Self-Forgiveness07:02 Finding Your North Star08:49 Rebuilding Self-Trust11:57 Career and Business Comeback15:07 Financial Independence Lessons16:54 Partnership and Identity19:58 Dating After Divorce22:54 Coaching Midlife Women24:37 Advice to Her Past Self25:54 Closing Takeaways <a href="https://www.marianaalvarez.com/" rel="nofollow">Learn more about Mariana here.</a>

Starting Over After Divorce: Rebuilding Your Life, Identity & Independence

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The episode reframes “becoming” in personal growth, arguing that the real work isn’t inventing a new self but giving yourself permission to live as the woman you already know you are. The host describes knowing, while working as an optometrist for 20 years, that the career wasn’t her upper limit, and explains how people can carry inner truth for months or years before feeling ready to act. She explores the gap between knowing and action through everyday examples—texts, plans, boundaries, and alignment—and encourages asking “What feels true for me right now?” rather than chasing a constant “high vibe.” Using coaching, imposter syndrome, and self-worth as examples, she emphasizes practicing small, aligned choices—especially in ordinary moments like “2:00 PM on a Tuesday”—creating schedule wiggle room for inspiration, and prioritizing what lights you up, like her daily 20 minutes reading on the porch.00:00 Rethinking Becoming01:31 Permission to Be Her02:53 Optometrist to Seeker04:39 Small Steps Forward06:20 Knowing Versus Doing08:13 Dreams That Pull You09:41 What Feels True11:05 Practice Through Imposter13:18 Tuesday Afternoon Choices15:39 Joyful Micro Habits16:22 Your One Thing17:06 Final Takeaway and Invite Ready to see your life differently—and start creating what comes next?Whether you’re ready to find love again, create a life that feels more like you, or finally move toward the vision you’ve been holding for yourself, the <a href="https://triciarosestone.com/coaching/" rel="nofollow">True Lens Method™</a> can help you get clear on what you really want and begin making it real.Learn more about the True Lens Method™ and book a free <a href="https://calendly.com/tricia-rosecoloredglasses/15-minute-lens-shift" rel="nofollow">Lens Shift Call</a> with Tricia at <a href="https://triciarosestone.com/" rel="nofollow">TriciaRoseStone.com.</a>Connect with Tricia on <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/tricia-rose-stone-505a2638/" rel="nofollow">LinkedIn</a>, <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@TriciaRoseStone" rel="nofollow">YouTube</a>, or <a href="https://www.instagram.com/triciarosestone/" rel="nofollow">Instagram</a> for more conversations about creating a life that feels authentic, aligned, and truly your own.And if you’re enjoying See Her Now, follow or subscribe wherever you listen, and share the show with a woman who might need to hear it today.

The Woman You Already Are

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On See Her Now’s season about authentic integration, the host interviews Lynda Leonce about shifting from a life built on “shoulds” to one guided by inner knowing. After 16 years in a successful IT career, marriage, and raising kids, Lynda felt persistent emptiness—“Is this all there is?”—and, after moving from New York to North Carolina in 2019, realized she’d been following an inherited script. Through life and parenting coaching, retreats, meditation, and teachings from RJ Spina, she learned to parent herself, practice presence, notice triggers, and “delete” limiting conditioning by identifying the mind-made self versus the real self. She describes life now as more efficient and flow-based, with greater honesty in relationships and less concern about others’ opinions. 00:00 Authentic Integration Intro01:13 Meet Lynda Leonce01:59 Living the Should Script04:46 The Quiet Unfulfillment05:48 Moving to North Carolina06:38 Parenting Yourself First08:03 Clearing Conditioning Process10:00 Presence and Spotting Triggers11:56 Life in Flow Today14:33 Relationships Without Approval16:30 How Lynda Helps Others18:45 Turning the Flashlight Inward19:26 Final Reflections and Outro

How to Stop Living for Others & Overcome Lifelong Conditioning

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Expanding the Gap: Choosing New Habits in the 10 Seconds Before You ReactThe episode recaps an “authentic integration” module about bringing a personal vision into daily life, noting that insight alone doesn’t change habits and that emotions like anger, anxiety, and self-doubt are messengers. The focus is the brief gap between trigger and response—“the 10 seconds before”—where choice exists, illustrated by repeatedly picking up a phone and losing time online despite intending to read, relax, or connect with friends. The speaker emphasizes that these actions are decisions and that progress can still occur even if you catch the pattern only after starting. Strategies include noticing sensations driving behavior, observing thoughts without reacting, asking what you’re avoiding, and choosing an alternative aligned with the desired version of yourself. Tools like bullet journaling, walking, gardening, and creative activities help redirect behavior. The episode ends with reflection questions about unhelpful habits, what precedes them, and what to do instead.00:00 Recap &amp; Introduction03:14 The Gap Is Real04:02 Breaking Down the 10 Seconds06:18 Expanding the Gap09:49 Reflection Questions

Expanding the Gap: Choosing New Habits in the 10 Seconds Before You React

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The host interviews author and teacher LiYana Silver about “authentic integration,” described as moving from fragmentation to wholeness by reclaiming parts of ourselves—especially for women—pushed away through socialization.Silver shares her shift from self-judgment as a professional dancer and later a health crash that deepened her inquiry into emotions, using a dialoguing process that treats feelings like messengers with positive intention. They explore anger as signaling that something valued feels threatened, anxiety as powerful energy that can be channeled (including a story of a woman using it to leave an abusive marriage), and the cultural suppression of women’s desire.Silver offers a body-based exercise to identify inner “yes/no” signals and distinguishes inherent worth from conditional worth sought through achievement, relationships, appearance, or approval, noting that inner self-regard shapes what love can “land.”Learn more about <a href="https://liyanasilver.com/book/" rel="nofollow">LiYana Silver here.</a>00:00 Emotions as Messages01:12 What Is Authentic Integration02:45 Dancer Mirror Moment05:38 Feminine Genius Journey07:25 Blame to Anger Inquiry10:36 Inside the Boundary15:00 Sensation vs Story18:00 Reclaiming Desire21:28 Desire vs Expectations23:23 When Desire Means Leaving24:01 Bravery of Desire24:35 Body Yes and No26:25 Sensing Exercise29:32 Finding Your Signature31:06 Low Stakes Practice33:17 Anxiety as Messenger37:51 Worthiness Beyond Approval41:16 Unconditional Self Regard43:26 Books and Resources45:44 Final Reflections

What Your Anger, Anxiety, and Desire Are Trying to Tell You — with LiYana Silver

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Tricia Rose Stone welcomes listeners to a new season of See Her Now focused on “authentic integration,” explaining that many people don’t have an information problem but an integration problem: vision shows where you’re going, but integration determines whether you arrive. She describes the “insight trap,” noting that consuming personal development creates awareness without changing entrenched patterns and systems, illustrated by an ant-trail metaphor and James Clear’s idea that people fall to the level of their systems. Through her True Lens Method, she helps women recognize inherited “lenses” shaping beliefs and choices, referencing Carl Jung on making the unconscious conscious and Bessel van der Kolk on the body’s continued responses. Change requires daily practice, nervous-system-friendly repetition, and small aligned decisions—supported by tools like bullet journaling—to embody a new identity. She closes with reflective questions, a call to follow/review, and an invitation to book a Lens Shift Call.00:00 Why Insight Isn’t Enough01:17 New Season Welcome02:25 Vision to Integration04:22 The Insight Trap06:34 Ant Trail Patterns08:49 True Lens Method10:48 Becoming Future Self13:51 Small Daily Choices15:22 Tools and Examples16:37 Wrap Up and Next Steps17:12 Final Takeaway and Farewell

Beyond the Breakthrough: Why Real Change Happens in the Small Choices

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In the final episode of the Empowered Vision season of See Her Now, the host reframes vision as a present-day lens rather than a future destination, emphasizing that imagining beyond current circumstances is a “superpower” that opens possibility. She recaps key season themes: examining inherited lenses from family that limit belief, understanding self-image and identity as the container for the future, addressing “upper limits” and the inner thermostat that drives self-sabotage, and taking action before clarity arrives. She shares her own relationship vision process—pausing dating, creating a vision book, holding the feelings while releasing details—and meeting her husband within eight months. Favorite episodes highlighted include Brigitta Dao on creativity accessing possibility and Brigid Kennedy on writing for healing and new outcomes. The season closes by inviting reflection and previewing the next season on authentic integration.00:00 Vision as a Lens01:26 Season Recap and Purpose02:23 Dream Beyond Circumstances04:10 Inherited Lenses and Limits05:39 Identity and Worthiness09:20 Raising Your Upper Limit10:36 Move Before Clarity11:46 Relationship Vision Story13:28 Creativity and Writing Forward15:53 Vision as Mirror and Next Season16:59 Closing Questions and Thanks

Now That You See Her

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Host Tricia Rose Stone introduces See Her Now’s focus on “empowered vision” and interviews violinist and author Brigid Kennedy, who says she was awakened at 2:00 AM by a vivid visitation from her deceased grandmother instructing her to “Write our story.” Brigid began documenting her family history of a great-grandfather who went to Peru seeking Inca gold and never returned, then pushed beyond the family’s long-standing grief to “write the chapter” they never had, which she describes as a process of reclamation and healing that also reunited relatives she hadn’t seen in decades. She shares her ability to become very still and hear quiet guidance, suggests voicing buried pain through writing, speaking, drawing, movement, meditation, or a connection to nature, and reflects on discovering unexpected joy in writing after a childhood marked by illness and a life centered on music.<a href="https://www.brigidkennedybooks.com/about" rel="nofollow">Learn more about Brigid Kennedy here.</a>00:00 Empowered Vision Intro01:07 Grandmother’s Midnight Message04:39 Stillness and Inner Hearing06:59 Ocean Signs and Synchronicity09:15 Writing the Missing Chapter11:30 Healing Family Pain Through Story16:14 Opening Creativity for Anyone20:46 What Writing Revealed24:27 Closing Reflections and Next Steps

Beyond What You Can See

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Creativity, Movement, and Reiki: Reconnecting with Intuition with Brigitta DauHost Tricia Rose Stone welcomes life coach, Reiki master, Pilates instructor, author, and creativity guide Brigitta Dau to discuss how creativity and movement can help women reconnect with intuition and self-trust. Brigitta describes creativity—through doodling, coloring, simple art prompts, or noticing color palettes—as a daily practice for becoming more comfortable with uncertainty and quieting the inner critic. She explains how movement practices like Pilates, walking without earbuds, yoga, or Tai Chi ground people in the present and can help them access inner wisdom, using imagery-based cues to engage the body differently. Brigitta also shares how Reiki and guided visualization strengthen awareness of sensations and inner knowing, offering a practical example of a “river” visualization as a tool for navigating different emotional days. She suggests honoring younger parts of oneself (inspired by IFS) to move through transitions such as loneliness or relationship blocks, and shares her offerings, including Synergistic Saturdays and Sundays on Zoom and her book, &#34;Landing on Your North Star.&#34; Learn more about <a href="https://www.brigittadau.com/" rel="nofollow">Brigitta Dau here.</a>00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro01:10 Creativity as Intuition02:20 Getting Comfortable Unknown05:26 Aging and Inner Parts07:32 Creativity Heals Brain09:37 Pilates Imagery Cues10:42 Movement for Intuition14:00 Reiki Meets Creativity16:45 River Visualization Wisdom19:23 Advice for Relationship Blocks23:08 Easy At Home Creativity26:01 Find Brigitta and Book29:33 Closing Takeaways

The Vision Your Hands Already Know

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On Her New Lens, host Dr. Tricia Rose Stone interviews author and traveler Chanoa Inez about losing her 41-year-old boyfriend, Boro, who died unexpectedly in his sleep from a clot the morning after what she called the most perfect day of her life in Montenegro. Chanoa describes the shock, choosing to stay in Europe for Orthodox grieving traditions, and years of unprocessed grief that coincided with chronic health issues, food sensitivities, and tendonitis. Through modalities including yoga, retreats, EFT tapping, and especially Dr. Joe Dispenza meditations and a 2023 Denver retreat, she recognized long-standing victim mindset patterns, low self-love reflected in toxic relationships, and how “shoulds” and martyrdom kept her stuck. She shares tips such as recognizing exhausting situations, advocating for one’s inner child, and reframing self-love as refusing to give away power. Listeners can find her book Dream On at ChanoaInez.com.00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro01:17 Perfect Day Turns Tragic03:14 Shock and Calling for Help04:38 Staying in Europe to Grieve05:36 Health Crashes and Healing Quest07:47 Victim Mindset Revealed11:29 Breaking Toxic Relationship Patterns15:27 Self Love and Deep Meditation Tools19:29 Healing Results and Body Signals20:57 Self Love vs Victim Identity25:10 Practical Tips and Inner Child Work28:17 Where to Find the Book28:57 Final Takeaways and Call to Share

From Grief to Power: How Self-Love Helped Chanoa Inez Reclaim Her Life

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In episode eight of Her New Lens: Empowered Vision, Tricia Stone explains that vision and self-image don’t sustain themselves without a consistent daily practice to counter the ego’s loud narrative, sharing a recent moment in which a small disappointment triggered an old story about being behind. Using ideas from James Clear’s Atomic Habits—especially that “every action is a vote for the person you want to become,” plus habit stacking and the two-minute rule—she outlines three simple touchpoints to keep vision alive: morning visualization, a small creative art practice (plus taking an inspiring photo during the day), and printing images to add to a collage/vision board or digital board. She emphasizes scheduling these practices in Google Calendar for accountability and closes by recapping the season’s earlier episodes and inviting listeners to design three touchpoints, stack them onto existing habits, and add them to the calendar.00:00 Season Recap Setup00:28 Why Vision Slips01:00 Ego Story Spiral02:48 Atomic Habits Framework05:31 Three Daily Touchpoints06:00 Morning Visualization06:48 Creative Art And Photos08:35 Vision Board Collage11:34 Habit Stacking Two Minutes12:32 Calendar Accountability16:34 Your Weekly Challenge18:03 Season Wrap And Goodbye

Anchoring your empowered vision in daily life

One Pearl at a Time: How Daily Habits Create a Beautiful Life

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Stop Waiting and Move Anyway: From Measurement to PossibilityIn episode eight of the Empowered Vision season, host Tricia Rose Stone confesses she began Her New Lens with no audio experience, audience, or plan, and nearly listened to an inner voice urging her to wait until she was ready. Drawing on Rosamund and Benjamin Zander’s The Art of Possibility and Ben Zander’s nursing-home story, she argues that clarity and frameworks often appear only after taking action. She contrasts the “world of measurement” (comparison, scarcity, fear, and waiting for proof) with the “universe of possibility” (openness, contribution, and willingness). Tricia shares personal examples—starting the podcast, envisioning a relationship after an eight-month dating pause, and building a Boston practice—showing how committing to a vision and moving step by step creates momentum and invites outcomes that couldn’t be measured in advance.00:00 Confession And Vision02:08 Book That Shifts Thinking02:52 Nursing Home Lesson04:21 Invented Limitations06:01 Move Before Clarity08:01 Two Worlds Explained09:41 Rock Bottom To Vision12:49 Be A Contribution14:12 You Are The Board16:41 Frameworks Through Movement17:35 Personal Proof And Practice19:28 Final Call To Move

Stop Waiting for Clarity — Move Anyway

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Build the Vision for Love: Naming the Old Pattern and Creating a New Felt SenseIn episode six of the Empowered Vision season of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone shares how she once feared love after repeated dysfunctional relationships that left her feeling unvalued, and how a rock-bottom relationship forced her to confront the “vision” of love she had unconsciously been recreating. She explains that relationship lenses are inherited from early family dynamics and cultural narratives, shaping a self-image that repeats patterns like abandonment, drama, or unworthiness. Tricia describes her own childhood imprint with an alcoholic, unavailable father, and a later emotional breakdown that led her to stop dating and focus on healing, nervous system awareness, and deliberate creation. She outlines building a new relationship vision from the inside out—prioritizing desired feelings like safety, security, and being valued—using journaling, reminders, gratitude, creative visioning, and identity work, then letting go with trust; eight months later, she met her husband, whom she has been with for nine years.00:00 Fear of Love01:53 Inherited Relationship Lenses04:26 Patterns and Self Image06:54 My Father and Abandonment08:27 Name the Old Vision09:38 Rock Bottom Clarity11:45 My Rock Bottom Story17:09 Building a New Vision22:23 Daily Practices to Align26:40 Letting Go and Trust28:48 Weekly Takeaways and Close

The Relationship You Desire Begins as a Vision

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This episode of Her New Lens focuses on “empowered vision,” defined as seeing truthfully when old identities no longer fit, and features guest Kim Korven, who shares her recent decision to end her second marriage after 15 years due to boundarylessness and feeling like her husband’s emotional support person. Kim describes recognizing patterns rooted in childhood programming around earning love, choosing to end relationships without making the other person the enemy, and recalling earlier reinventions, including peacefully divorcing her first husband, raising children, and returning to law school with unexpected support and scholarships after “jumping off the cliff” in faith. She discusses how tension in a home harms kids, practices that build self-love (breathwork, Miracle Morning SAVERS, and alphabet-based gratitude), and her work helping families navigate divorce peacefully and strategically with resources like journal prompts, scripts, and educational modules.00:00 Empowered Vision Intro01:29 Meet Kim Korven02:28 Choosing Yourself Again04:07 Peaceful Divorce Mindset06:27 Law School Leap of Faith09:25 Reframing and Being Caught11:47 Seeing Your Growth Clearly14:14 The Guitar Boundary Wakeup18:40 Ending Without Making Enemies19:44 April Fourth Reveal20:01 Trusting The Leap20:53 Proof From Past23:06 Morning Practices26:27 Alphabet Gratitude28:33 Advice For Mothers34:13 Courage To Stay Or Go35:42 Helping Families Divorce38:38 New Lens Closing

The Courage to See Clearly: Divorce, Reinvention & Self-Trust with Kim Korven

In this heartfelt episode of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone sits down with divorce consultant and former lawyer Kim Korven for a deeply honest conversation about relationships, reinvention, self-worth, and the courage to stop abandoning yourself.

Together, they explore the emotional realities of divorce, identity shifts, motherhood, boundaries, and what it means to rebuild a life rooted in peace and authenticity. Kim shares her own journey through divorce and the moment she realized she could no longer ignore the disconnect between who she was and who she wanted to become.

This episode is not just about ending relationships — it’s about learning to see yourself clearly again.

If you’ve ever struggled with choosing yourself, trusting your inner voice, or navigating a major life transition, this conversation offers compassion, wisdom, and a powerful new lens on what healing can look like.

The Moment You Can No Longer Abandon Yourself

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In episode four of the Empowered Vision season of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone explores self-sabotage through Gay Hendricks’ “upper limit problem” from The Big Leap: an unconscious “internal thermostat” that pulls us back when success, love, joy, or abundance exceed what we believe we can allow. She shares two personal upper limits—fear that visible success will lead to isolation and fear she can’t balance success with wellness, relationships, travel, and interests—then describes common upper-limit behaviors like picking fights, worrying, blame and criticism, procrastination, and mindless scrolling, often appearing right after breakthroughs. She outlines Hendricks’ four underlying barriers (feeling fundamentally flawed; disloyalty/abandonment; burden; capacity) and connects the pattern to staying in the “zone of excellence” instead of the “zone of genius.” She offers steps to dismantle it: name the barrier, catch the pattern in real time, complete the vision (especially for capacity fears), and question isolation fears, including learning from “expanders,” and closes with a weekly challenge and a teaser for next week’s guest episode.00:00 Season Recap Setup01:05 Personal Upper Limits02:21 Inner Thermostat Explained06:21 Upper Limit Behaviors13:04 Four Hidden Barriers17:25 Zone of Genius21:46 Dismantle The Ceiling24:52 Weekly Challenge Wrap25:43 Closing Next Week

Understanding the “Upper Limit” That Quietly Sabotages Love, Success, and the Life You Say You Want

Why do we sometimes pull away just as love, success, intimacy, or momentum begin to arrive? In this episode of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone explores the hidden pattern known as the “Upper Limit Problem” — the unconscious tendency to retreat from the very things we desire most. Blending personal reflection, nervous system insight, and the work of Gay Hendricks, this conversation explores self-sabotage, emotional ceilings, fear of expansion, and what it means to finally allow more joy, visibility, connection, and possibility into your life.

The Stories Blocking Your Vision

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Tricia Rose Stone presents episode three of the Empowered Vision Series, focusing on visualization as a deliberate, trainable, science-backed skill rather than wishful thinking. Inspired by Maya Raichoora’s book Visualize and supported by ideas she cites from Joe Dispenza, she explains that the predictive brain can’t easily distinguish vividly imagined experiences from real ones, making anxiety a form of unconscious negative visualization, and that deliberate visualization can create new mental patterns. She shares personal examples of manifesting her husband after 7 months of focused visualization, and of manifesting an optometry practice in Boston after recognizing the city and finding a practice one block from a park she’d stayed near. She outlines outcome, process, and creative visualization, recommends a daily “ideal day” rehearsal, emphasizes small, consistent practice, self-belief, and writing down bold visions.00:00 Series Setup01:06 Why Visualization Works02:42 Brain Prediction Patterns05:32 Anxiety as Visualization07:30 Athletes Proven Rehearsal08:32 Manifesting True Love13:25 Three Visualization Types18:56 Boston Practice Manifestation24:09 Daily Ideal Day Routine27:34 Self-Belief Matters29:53 Weekly Takeaways Outro

Visualization, Identity, and the Future You’re Becoming

There’s often a quiet moment before life changes externally — a moment where something shifts internally first. In this episode of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone explores the deeper meaning of visualization, identity, and the art of seeing your future before there is evidence for it. Blending neuroscience, personal reflection, and soulful insight, this conversation invites listeners to explore how perception shapes possibility — and why becoming often begins long before life catches up.

The Art of Seeing It First

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On “Her New Lens,” Tricia interviews Xanet, a sex and intimacy educator, coach, and author (and former healthcare lawyer/executive) who spent 26 years in a sexless marriage, left at 50, and then began a 15-year career helping individuals and couples rebuild connection.They discuss how emotional safety underpins desire—especially for women—and how lack of safety, trauma, shame, and disconnection from the body can shut down libido, while men may feel emotionally safe after sex, creating a common mismatch.Xanet explains what safety feels like (being heard without judgment or fixing), emphasizes that intimacy and sex are learnable skills, and highlights conflict repair as key to long-term relationships.They address menopause and libido myths, noting bad or performative sex and “obligation sex,” and describe how new relationship energy can revive desire at any age.Xanet shares guidance for singles on examining patterns and red flags, and introduces her books, “The Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit” and “Living an Orgasmic Life,” offering lenses of pleasure and vulnerability.00:00 Welcome and Setup00:28 Meet Xanet02:13 Her Turning Point06:08 Safety Drives Desire09:03 Men vs Women Safety11:16 What Safety Feels Like13:28 Intimacy Skills Learned16:38 Menopause Desire Myths17:15 Bad Sex and Obligation19:06 Long Term Connection20:21 Attunement Equals Safety21:15 Attachment Wounds Explained22:09 Preparing for New Love25:09 Patterns and Red Flags27:37 Relationships as Healing28:39 Pressure to Pick Right30:15 Healing Takes Time31:43 Inside the New Book34:06 Two Lenses to Try36:37 Final Reflections

Why intimacy changes over time — and how emotional safety, communication, and self-awareness create deeper connection in love.

Intimacy is often misunderstood as something that either exists or doesn’t — something we hope to find in another person.

But what if intimacy is something we learn to experience more fully through awareness, communication, and emotional safety?

In this conversation with intimacy expert Xanet Pailet, we explore how intimacy evolves through the different seasons of life and relationship. Many women navigating transitions find that the way they once understood connection no longer feels aligned. Old expectations may no longer fit, yet new possibilities can feel unfamiliar.

As we examine intimacy through a more compassionate lens, we begin to see that meaningful connection is not about performance or perfection, but about presence. It is about learning to listen more deeply — to ourselves and to others — and allowing honesty to replace pressure.

When we understand intimacy as a dynamic and evolving experience, we create space for connection that feels both grounded and alive.

This conversation invites a more spacious understanding of what it means to feel seen, known, and met — beginning within.

Into Me See: The Art of True Intimacy with Xanet Pailet

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Tricia Rose Stone introduces season three of “Her New Lens,” titled “Empowered Vision,” and explains that the work begins before goals or vision boards with updating self-image—what you believe you deserve and what’s possible for a woman like you—drawing on Maxwell Maltz’s “Psycho-Cybernetics.” She contrasts “I’ll believe it when I see it” with Wayne Dyer’s “you’ll see it when you believe it,” arguing that proof follows an inner decision and that circumstances can’t outpace self-image, illustrated with examples from La La Land, Love Actually, and lottery winners. Stone shares her own journey from divorce and single motherhood to meeting her husband at 44 after years of visualization and identity work, and outlines three practices: an identity audit of inherited beliefs, a future-self letter, and seven days of daily mental rehearsal, drawing on neuroscience that shows vividly imagined experiences shape the nervous system.00:00 Season Premiere Setup00:38 Vision Before Goals03:41 Believe Then See07:15 Movie Proof Lala Land09:32 Self Image Creates Life11:22 Maxwell Maltz Explained12:47 Why We Can&#39;t Hold It15:17 Deposits Into Identity17:10 Visualization Neuroscience19:14 Inherited Beliefs Lens21:51 Self Image Changes23:53 Her Story: Divorce To Love27:24 Decide To See Beyond31:12 No Permission Needed32:02 Three Practical Exercises36:03 Wrap Up And Next Week

The inner work that makes empowered vision possible

Before the vision board, before the goals, before any of the external work — there is you. In this episode, we go deep into the self-image: the invisible ceiling that determines what you allow yourself to have, achieve, and become. Plus three practices to begin shifting it today.

Before the Vision Board — There Is You

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As this season comes to a close, there is a question quietly waiting beneath everything we’ve explored:What lens will you choose now?Throughout this season of Her New Lens, we’ve looked at the beliefs we inherit, the patterns we repeat, and the ways our past experiences shape how we see love, identity, success, and possibility.But awareness alone is not the transformation.Transformation begins the moment you realize that the lens you’ve been looking through is not fixed — and that a different way of seeing has always been available to you.In this season finale, we step back and gather the deeper thread connecting these conversations:how perception shapes emotional experience…how identity shifts when we question old prescriptions…and how choosing a new lens can quietly change the direction of a life.We explore:• why many of the lenses we live through were never consciously chosen• how attachment patterns, past experiences, and unconscious beliefs influence what feels possible• why clarity often arrives gradually, not dramatically• how small internal shifts create meaningful external change• what it means to begin seeing yourself — and your life — through a lens of possibility rather than limitationYou may find that nothing outside of you has changed — and yet everything feels different.Because the moment the lens shifts, the landscape does too.If this season has resonated, this episode offers a space to reflect, integrate, and choose how you want to move forward.The lens you choose now becomes the life you begin to live.

How the beliefs you inherit shape what feels possible — and how choosing a new lens can quietly change everything

As this season of Her New Lens comes to a close, one question remains:

What lens will you choose now?

Across these conversations, we’ve explored the beliefs we inherit, the patterns we repeat, and the subtle ways our past experiences shape how we see love, identity, success, and possibility.

Because often, the way we experience life is not simply a result of circumstance — but of perception.

Many of the lenses we live through were formed long before we were aware of them. Early relationships, cultural expectations, and moments of disappointment can quietly become the filters through which we interpret what is possible for us.

And yet, the lens is not fixed.

In this reflective season finale, we explore how awareness creates choice — and how even small shifts in perspective can create meaningful change in how we feel, how we relate, and how we move forward.

We revisit themes from this season, including:
• the inherited beliefs that shape identity
• why familiar emotional patterns can feel convincing, even when they no longer serve us
• how attachment, expectation, and self-perception influence the relationships we experience
• why clarity often emerges gradually rather than all at once
• how choosing a new lens can open space for a different future

Sometimes nothing outside of us changes — yet everything feels different.

Because when the lens shifts, the landscape does too.

This episode offers a space to reflect on what you may be ready to see differently — and to consider what becomes possible when you begin viewing yourself, your relationships, and your future through a new lens.

The Lens You Choose Now

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The script uses an optometry exam as a metaphor for how people live with “inherited” psychological lenses—beliefs about worth, relationships, and desire formed early in life from the emotional climate of the home and cultural expectations. Drawing on attachment theory (internal working models; Bowlby and Ainsworth), it explains that these prescriptions were absorbed before we could question them and become the default way we interpret life. The speaker shares her own lens shaped by parental addiction, abandonment, fear, instability, and feeling responsible for others’ emotions, and describes how her divorce revealed long-held expectations about marriage. She outlines emotional effects of wrong prescriptions (self-doubt, people-pleasing, fear of visibility, imposter syndrome) and introduces the “New Lens method” to identify beliefs, trace origins, test usefulness, and write a truer lens, ending with five reflection questions.00:00 The Lens Clicks In01:13 The Prescription You Inherited02:04 Where Our Lenses Come From03:33 The Science Behind It05:09 My Inherited Blueprint09:09 When My Lens Broke11:48 Symptoms of Wrong Lenses13:54 The New Lens Method15:52 Five Reflection Questions16:45 Seeing Life Clearly Again17:18 Closing and Next Steps

The Prescription You Inherited: Seeing Yourself Through a New Lens

"We don't see things as they are. We see them as we are." — Anaïs Nin

Dr. Tricia Rose Stone spent 20 years as an optometrist correcting how people see the world, then she realized the most important lenses we wear aren't in front of our eyes. They're the beliefs, stories, and identities we've been looking through for a lifetime. And there comes a moment, for many women, it arrives in midlife, when the prescription simply stops working.

What if the woman you're becoming isn't somewhere in the future?

What if she's already within you, waiting to be seen?

See Her Now is a podcast for women who are ready to stop second-guessing themselves and start living in alignment with the life they truly desire. Through inspiring conversations, personal stories, and practical wisdom, host Tricia Rose Stone helps listeners shift their perspective, reconnect with their truth, and embody their vision.

Whether you're navigating a transition, healing from heartbreak, pursuing a dream, seeking a deeper purpose, or calling in a new chapter of love and life, each episode offers a fresh way to see yourself and what's possible.

Drawing on her experience as a life coach, former optometrist, and creator of The True Lens Method™, Tricia explores the powerful connection between perception and transformation—because when you change the way you see, everything begins to change.

The future version of you is already waiting.

Can you see her now?