Life doesn't come with an operating manual and we're all trying to do the best we can, so cut yourself some slack and know that it's okay to not be okay and it's okay to share that with others!

Vulnerability is truly a superpower and we're all a little broken somehow! Really!

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Read the book I mentioned: Anxious People by Frederik Backman (it's a great read!)

If you like what you hear here, I think you're going to love my new course on the Listenable app. It's called Your Self-Love Toolkit and contains 10 short lessons to help you love yourself and your life!

Check out the first lesson FREE *here* and you can also find a link there to try Listenable FREE for 7 days!

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Are you consumed by the need for love, approval, and appreciation?

Has it ever occurred to you that you might not need any of those three things?

Newsflash! Your life can change for the better when you stop looking for things you don't really need! And, guess what else, the only person you need to get these things from is YOU!

Yes, it's true... the search for love, approval, and appreciation is a fast track to an unhappy life and reminds me of what author Byron Katie says: "If I had a prayer, it... If I had a prayer, it would be this: "God, spare me from the desire for love, approval, or appreciation. Amen."

When you stop searching, you can find... yourself! Check out today's episode to learn more!

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Today's episode is an encore episode from February 2021.

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Are you hard on yourself?

Do you constantly push yourself to be better, do better, know better?

Do you wish you could accomplish more than you get done in a day?

Are you a taskmaster?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, then my advice for you today is to PLEASE cut yourself some slack!

Yes, it's time to ease up on yourself and go easy on yourself. Life is not a race to the grave, it's meant to be enjoyed, explored, and filled with ease. Really!

Plus cutting yourself some slack is a great first step to honoring yourself, your rhythms, your pace, your needs, and your desires... have you ever considered that?

Hopefully, today's episode will help you slow down, chill out, and give yourself the grace you deserve in your life!

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Today's episode is an encore episode and originally aired in December 2020.

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Saying NO is hard for people. You get so caught up worrying about hurting someone’s feelings or anticipating their reactions, that you compromise yourself over and over again.

How many times have you gone along with something that was not a YES for you just to keep the peace or keep a friend or family member happy?

News flash! You’re not really keeping the peace (and the peace I’m referring to is your own) and I’d also say you’re also being a dishonest friend and/or family member.

 

Saying an honest no (or yes) ultimately means being TRUE TO YOU without worrying about what the other person may think or how they might respond. It’s about saying what’s true for you at any given moment.

Be sure to check out the freebies on my website, including a downloadable copy of the blog post which inspired today's episode!

Today's episode is an encore episode and originally aired in November 2020.

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Have you ever considered how your life could change if you stopped taking things personally?

Have ever even considered not taking things personally?

If you've read Don Miguel Ruiz’s classic book, “The Four Agreements. perhaps you remember this as the second agreement, if not let me remind you with this excerpt:

"Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally. Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own minds; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world."

When you stop taking things personally, you can literally stop wars (the ones that happen in your mind and in your life when you see everything as personal to you!) It's a pretty amazing shift!

Tune in to find out more!

Today's episode is an encore episode and originally aired in February 2021.

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Do you ever feel like you can't be you? If so, today's episode is for you because you'll hear all the reasons why not being you is not helpful to you in any area of your life and why being you is the best way to go!

The bottom line is you're not being you, how can we know you, really? We can't and also if you're afraid to be you, you're robbing us of you! Take a chance, embrace your beautiful self and JUST BE YOU!

Consider this episode as giving you that permission and see what happens!

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Today's episode is an encore episode and originally aired in December 2020.

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In today’s episode, I share my story of being in chronic pain for over 20 years and how it slowly took over my life no matter how many practitioners, teachers, healers, and doctors I tried or how much money I spent on things like cold packs, heating pads, new mattresses, supplements, classes, ointments, and more.

For me, it got so bad that I believed the next logical step was to start using a wheelchair! It was the only thing left I could think of to deal with debilitating sciatica which made walking and standing extremely painful.

Somehow when I was at the end of all hope, I found the work of Dr. John Sarno. That was the beginning of the end of my chronic pain and I know it can work the same way for you.

You'll hear how finding Dr. Sarno's work completely changed my life and what I did following that to help me become completely pain-free, which was a true miracle.

You can find the books I've mentioned, along with other books that helped me in my bookshop.

And, if you feel you need more, don't hesitate to reach out... I offer Chronic Pain Coaching sessions and am here to help. Book a session today.

Find freebies at wisewomanofthewoods.com

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Have you ever considered that your life is a mirror?

Today I share all about why that is true and how you can work with that knowledge to improve your life.

Today's topic was sparked by one of Louise Hay's Affirmation cards, which is just one of the oracle card decks I use regularly.

Reach out to me and find the freebies at my website, wisewomanofthewoods.com

Here's a link to the book I mentioned: Your Body's Telling You: Love Yourself!: The most complete book on metaphysical causes of illnesses & diseases.

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How you see your future is way more important than how you see your past!

Did you know that how you see your future is much more important than how you see your past? It's true!

For one thing, the past is over... there's no going back and changing anything, while your future is wide open and filled with your potential and possibility, so that's definitely where you want to put your focus!

Today I help you understand the importance of setting yourself up for a bright future by knowing what you want and asking for it! You don't go into a restaurant and tell them to bring just any old thing... you know what you want and place a specific order, which is generally what you get, right? This works the same way. Tune in and find out more!

Don't forget, you'll find great freebies on my website!

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Today we're talking about The Work of Byron Katie -- what it is, who Katie is, and why The Work is so effective in helping you let go of all sorts of stressful thoughts!

I walk you through an example of how The Work works, so you can get an idea for yourself what's going on and how using just 4 simple questions and turning the thought around can make a huge difference in your life and bring about peace, freedom, clarity, happiness, and sometimes even laughter!

Thanks for tuning in!

Speaking of Katie and The Work, don't forget! you're invited to the upcoming Book Club!

We're reading "I Need Your Love - Is That True?" by Byron Katie starting on July 15 and if you join now, you'll be automatically entered for a chance to win a 90-minute Facilitated Session of The Work of Byron Katie with me, which is a $150 value.

This book and The Work of Byron Katie changed my life and I want the same for you! Come read with us and learn how to let go of the stressful thoughts that are hurting you!

NOTE: You can enter the contest without joining the Book Club. Find info and great freebies here!

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Have you ever really thought about this? The past is over! You cannot go back no matter how much you might wish you could and any thoughts you have about it, will not change what happened. But you can have peace about the path when you change the way you think and that's what Katie is reminding us of with this quote.

NOTE: Sorry about the poor sound quality on this one!

Also, a reminder that the next book for the Book Club is "I Need Your Love - Is That True?" by Byron Katie. We're starting on July 15 and if you join now, you'll be automatically entered for a chance to win a 90-minute Facilitated Session of The Work of Byron Katie with me, which is a $150 value.

This book examines a universal, age-old source of anxiety: our relationships with others and Katie helps you question everything you've been taught about love and approval.

NOTE: You can enter the contest without joining the Book Club. For more info and great freebies, click here.

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Guess what? It's up to you to choose what is heaven or hell for you! It's all in how you're looking at your life and thinking about the moment you're in!

Also, a reminder that the next book for the Book Club is "I Need Your Love - Is That True?" by Byron Katie. We're starting on July 15 and if you join now, you'll be automatically entered for a chance to win a 90-minute Facilitated Session of The Work of Byron Katie with me, which is a $150 value.

This book examines a universal, age-old source of anxiety: our relationships with others and Katie helps you question everything you've been taught about love and approval.

NOTE: You can enter the contest without joining the Book Club. For more info and great freebies, click here.

Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/fall-in-love-with-yourself-toolkit/donations

This week's podcast clues you into some good news! You don't have to worry about that anymore! (Hint, it's all in how you're looking at it!)

FOMO is a real thing and it's definitely ramping up again as we start to become more social now that things are opening up more, but do you really need to have FOMO? Is it necessary? Is there a different way to approach it and alleviate the feeling?

You bet there is! Listen now and find out how to let FOMO go once and for all.

Also, a reminder that the next book for the Book Club is "I Need Your Love - Is That True?" by Byron Katie. We're starting on July 15 and if you join now, you'll be automatically entered for a chance to win a 90-minute Facilitated Session of The Work of Byron Katie with me, which is a $150 value.

This book examines a universal, age-old source of anxiety: our relationships with others and Katie helps you question everything you've been taught about love and approval.

NOTE: You can enter the contest without joining the Book Club. For more info and some great freebies, click here.

Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/fall-in-love-with-yourself-toolkit/donations

It's time to stop complaining!

Yep, you heard me, no more complaining, and actually your challenge this week is to stop complaining and instead start focusing on what's going right! You might be surprised at the difference that can make in your life!

Complaining makes nothing better and generally makes things a lot worse. Why? Because like attracts like! When we complain, we pull in more things to complain about, which is why I'm suggesting that there's no better time than the present to stop complaining!

If you want to learn more about the benefits of making this change, tune into this week’s podcast where I tell you all about why this is one of the smartest things you can do right now to improve your life.

I also want to remind you that you're invited to join me for my upcoming Book Club! We'll be reading and discussing the book "I Need Your Love - Is That True?" by Byron Katie and we're starting on July 15.

Plus, if you join now, you'll be automatically entered for a chance to win a 90-minute Facilitated Session of The Work of Byron Katie with me, which is a $150 value.

This book examines a universal, age-old source of anxiety: our relationships with others and Katie helps you question everything you've been taught about love and approval.

NOTE: You can enter the contest without joining the Book Club, hit the link here for all the details, and be sure to check out the freebies there, too!

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When you fight with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time!

That's a paraphrase of a quote from Byron Katie and it's true. All the pain, angst, anxiety, worry, frustration, sadness, madness in our lives comes from us fighting with what is... the reality of what is actually happening!

In today's podcast, I talk about what happened to me when my beliefs and perceptions lifted off me and I could see reality, and honestly, there's NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT... God, the Universe, Reality has got this and we can trust it!

I get that this is a BIG MESSAGE, and I really want for you to get it! LIfe is truly happening for us, not to us and there are bigger forces at play than we can ever (or need to) know.

Also, The Book Club where we're reading Katie's book "I Need Your Life - Is That True?" will start now in July, not in June. You can sign up here.

Don't miss out on some great freebies right here!

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The only difference between heaven and hell is believing a thought. - Byron Katie

We've all been there, believing those pesky thoughts that aren't true and are torturing us and putting us in hell, right?

The good news is that you don't have to stay there! Katie's method of inquiry is one quick way to find your way out and I talk about that here and why it's not helpful to always believe what you think!

If this intrigues you, you're invited to get out of hell and back to heaven by joining my Book Club starting in June where we're reading Katie's book "I Need Your Love - Is It True?: How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead."

Come join us! Space is limited, you can check it all out here: https://bit.ly/3grwvG8

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Relax! Nothing is Under Control!

Guess what?

You can relax because nothing under control!

When you realize that absolutely nothing is truly under control, you'll have reached a dangerously awesome level of freedom in your life!

It's all explained right here and why it's okay to let your life and the universe be in charge.

And, you're invited to join me in next month's Book Club where we're reading Byron Katie's amazing book, "I Need Your Love - Is That True?" How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead. Spaces are limited, so sign up today.

If you enjoyed this and want more info and some great freebies, you can find them here.

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When you stop fighting with reality, you win!

Today's message is a paraphrase of something Byron Katie says which is: “When you argue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.” and she's right you know. When we're arguing with reality, not only are we losing, but we're also missing out on the beauty of what really is happening and the fact that we can trust what is happening because there is a bigger force than us in charge here and we can trust that. Not only can we trust it, but we can also sink into the fact that no matter what is happening, it's okay because it's happening!

I'll let Katie tell us how this works: "The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want.

If you want reality to be different than it is, you might as well try to teach a cat to bark. You can try and try, and in the end, the cat will look up at you and say, "Meow." Wanting reality to be different than it is is hopeless. You can spend the rest of your life trying to teach a cat to bark.

And yet, if you pay attention, you'll notice that you think thoughts like these dozens of times a day. "People should be kinder." "Children should be well-behaved." "My neighbors should take better care of their lawn." "The line at the grocery store should move faster." "My husband (or wife) should agree with me." "I should be thinner (or prettier or more successful)." These thoughts are ways of wanting reality to be different than it is. If you think that this sounds depressing, you're right. All the stress that we feel is caused by arguing with what is."

If any of this resonates with you and you want to learn more, join me next month in my Wise Words from the Woods Book Club, where we'll be reading Katie's book: I Need Your Love - Is That True? and delving more into the freedom that is The Work of Byron Katie. Find info and some great freebies here.

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What if You Didn't Care if They Liked You?

It's okay if they don't like you and it's okay for you not to like them! Nobody needs to be liked... it's only a thought or belief that says that you do and guess what? Thoughts and beliefs can be changed!

If you want to know more about that, join me in next month's Wise Words from the Woods Book Club where we're reading I Need Your Love - Is That True? How to stop seeking love, approval, and appreciation and start finding them instead by Byron Katie. Click here to find info and also some great freebies for you!

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How about we just stop apologizing?

Just a few thoughts on why we do not need to apologize all the time. We can say thank you instead.

Do you think you need love, approval, and appreciation to be happy and that's making you unhappy? If so, join June's Book Club where we're reading Byron Katie's book, I Need Your Love - Is it True? It's eye-opening and heart-expanding and will help you see your life differently. Come read and discuss it with us! Spaces are limited, so join today! Click here for more info.

Also, be sure to grab your freebies on my website!

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