I'm back! Join me (TQ) as I make some clarifications about WHO the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! project is for, share some crip life updates, make a special invitation, and read aloud the Chapter 1 draft of Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! the book.

Links mentioned:

- Join the "Reclaim Our Time" workshop to welcome the Yang Fire Horse year on Feb 21 or Feb 28, 2026: https://rewilding.cc/reclaim26

- Get access to Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! chapter drafts: https://rewilding.cc/book

- Bazi reading for BIPOC by Daria: https://redrabbitastrology.com/

- Contribute to my dear friend Nara's fundraiser: tinyurl.com/disablednara

Support the book and podcast by pre-ordering Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! at https://rewilding.cc/book

CW: child physical abuse, brief mentions of s*icidal ideation, and SA. Please use the timestamps below to skip potentially triggering content.

In this episode:

00:40: I, TQ (they/them), introduce my identities, chronic illnesses, neurodivergences, and privileges as the host of Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC!

02:40: My AuDHD journey - starting with early difficulties with socialization, rigid behavior, and autistic burnout (CW: child physical abuse).

05:10: How being a public high school teacher led to my ADHD diagnosis

07:40: Why I continued to struggle after my ADHD diagnosis

09:35: The pros and cons of my autism evaluation and diagnosis experience

13:10: The AuDHD contradictions I experience - especially on top of other neurodivergences and chronic illnesess 

16:40: How physical disabilities, transness, queerness, and chronic illness overlap with my AuDHD traits (CW: brief mentions of s*icidal ideation)

21:30: The real violence and financial costs I’ve faced living in the multiple margins of queerness, being negatively racialized, and autistic (CW: SA)

23:40: Immigration as both a challenge and an access need 

25:40: Moving from self-care to collective care - what’s helped me most

30:30: Unabashed joy in echolalia and Special Interests

32:35: My message to other queer AuDHD folks who might feel like they’re “too much” for the people and environments they’re in

34:15: What I urgently want therapists, healthcare professionals, Singaporean policymakers, and Singaporean teachers to know about serving multiply-marginalized autistic people of color 

35:40: What the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! book covers and how you can support us at https://rewilding.cc/book - which is also how you can join my free newsletter, hire me for peer support, and participate in our community events.

Access the full transcript in our upcoming Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! book by pre-ordering a copy at https:///rewilding.cc/book

#autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity

CW: Brief mentions of psychiatric abuse, plus descriptions of overt racism, ableism, genocide and s**cide by self-immolation. Please listen with care and use the timestamps to skip triggering content.

Help us sustain the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! project by pre-ordering a copy of your book at https://rewilding.cc/book

In this episode:

00:30: Meet the Supernova system (they/them), a genderfluid, ace-spec, non-binary deafBlind Indigenous Kashmiri AuDHDer

02:30: Supernova talks about their complex journey of multiple diagnoses — including an ultra-rare disease diagnosis — at a young age. CW: brief mentions of psychiatric abuse.

07:00: What it’s like to have Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), be deafBlind, and navigate medium support needs

11:04: Supernova introduces their Special Interest in equestrianism - plus their ancestral ties to horses in Pakistan.

14:40: They talk about all the systemic barriers they face in the equestrian industry, including racism, ableism, and financial barriers

23:40: Supernova’s powerful message about claiming space as disabled BIPOC folks

28:40 How they navigate neurodivergence, high pressure, and performance at horse shows as a disabled Indigenous Kashmiri person

31:20: What Supernova urgently wants you to know about witnessing the Kashmir genocide in real-time. CW: mentions of s**cide and self-immolation.

35:10: Learn more about their experiences as “Patient Zero” with early-diagnosed JOAG (Juvenile Open Angle Glaucoma) - and how you can support them in finding a cure

36:40: How you can support Supernova through mutual aid and reposting their content on JOAG, Kashmir, and deafBlind life at https://www.instagram.com/angry_autist/

- Read Supernova’s posts about the Genocide of the Chitral, Pahtan, and Kashmir peoples:

Part 1: https://www.instagram.com/p/DHJzF9jydEx/

Part 2: https://www.instagram.com/p/DHM9uhVxtMi/

Part 3: https://www.instagram.com/p/DHNCnbpRoZx/

Part 4: https://www.instagram.com/p/DHPwF_QM0L9/ 

- Read Supernova’s post about JOAG: https://www.instagram.com/p/DIzErB_xn3T/ 

Access the full transcript in our upcoming Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! book by pre-ordering a copy at https:///rewilding.cc/book

#autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity

-Hire Kaishawna to speak at your event: https://www.instagram.com/kaishawna_music/

-Send Kaishawna mutual aid @ Venmo: Kai_Music85; Paypal: kaish470; CashApp: $KaishawnaFleming

-Help us sustain the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! project by pre-ordering a copy of our book at https://rewilding.cc/book

In this episode:

00:37: Meet Kaishawna (they/them), a 24-year-old Black medium to high support needs autistic deafBlind trans college student

01:06: How their hearing loss and perceived gender delayed their autism diagnosis till adulthood

01:48: How Blackness affects how Kaishawna’s multiple disabilities are perceived

02:17: What helps them navigate college as a multiply-disabled student

02:42: What it’s like living with fluctuating medium to high support needs

03:39: The difficulties that Kaishawna faces in receiving adequate accommodations for their multiple disabilities in college

05:14: The two biggest Special Interests that bring them joy

06:15: What it’s like to be Deaf and still sensitive to loud noises

06:47: What Kaishawna wants queer AuDHD BIPOC and the world to know - especially about Black and Brown disabled voices

07:54: How you can support Kaishawna through mutual aid and the educational services they offer as a Black deafBlind autistic college student

Access the full transcript in our upcoming Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! book by pre-ordering a copy at https:///rewilding.cc/book

#autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity

-Follow Kantu/the Galaxy System, hire them for art commissions, and contribute to their mutual aid at https://www.instagram.com/angry_autist/

-Help us sustain the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! project by pre-ordering a copy of your book at https://rewilding.cc/book

In this episode:

00:25: Meet Kantu (all pronouns/they/them), a Bolivian-Dominican, genderqueer lesbian AuDHDer, and all their intersecting identities, disabilities, and chronic illnesses.

01:46: Their autism and ADHD diagnoses journey, and why they don’t really identify with early or late-diagnosed labels

04:00: What it’s like when their ADHD and autism pull them in opposite directions — plus how they overlap with major depressive disorder and dissociative identity disorder

07:00: Why growing up in Bolivian-Dominican communities that normalized their neurodivergent traits while still being conservative about queerness

10:22: The challenges and beauty of being “all of the above” — queer, disabled, neurodivergent, and racialized

13:05: Kantu shares how neurodivergence makes their workplace in the music industry more fun

15:18: How white-dominated neurodivergent spaces ignore intersectionality while profiting from representation

17:51: What “medium support needs” looks like at work and at home for Kantu

20:11: How crochet, composing, and performing music drive her lifelong joys and Special Interests

21:59: Why newly-diagnosed, questioning AuDHD folks shouldn’t fear the word “disability”

23:20: Kantu shares their workplace accommodations and encourages others to ask for what they need without guilt

26:35: “The dream model of psychiatric care” — a shoutout to their healthcare team and the self-advocacy it takes to seek autonomy-centered, transparent, and collaborative healthcare

29:23: Kantu’s closing message about autonomy for all healthcare professionals and policymakers

30:12: How to support Kantu’s content and art commissions

Access the full transcript in our upcoming Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! book by pre-ordering a copy at https:///rewilding.cc/book

#autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity

- Support Lakan Ubaya’s traditional medicine practice at https://www.the-atang.site/

- The BIPOC autistic evaluator he mentioned - the link no longer works sadly: https://www.breakingbarrierstogetherllc.org/

Help us sustain this project by contributing to our fundraiser: https://rewilding.cc/book

In this episode:

00:42: Lakan Ubaya Nagsalad (he/it) introduces his Tagalog and Chinoy ancestry and the interconnectedness of his gender, queerness, and neurodivergence

01:33: How Lakan Ubaya’s couple’s therapy session led to an unexpected realization — and why it was difficult for it to see itself in the diagnostic criteria at first

05:35: The gift of being evaluated by an autistic BIPOC therapist

07:13: How an AuDHD diagnosis transformed his relationships and career

09:05: How Lakan Ubaya’s traditional Chinese medicine training influence his views on neurodivergence, autism, ADHD, and other common co-occurring health conditions

15:08: How whiteness, colonialism, and capitalism shape our views of neurodivergence

18:45: Lakan Ubaya’s gender identity journey — and looking beyond whitewashed, colonial concepts of gender

22:42: How traditional healers in the Philippines exist beyond colonial concepts of the gender binary and neurotypicality — and why seeking pre-colonial “authenticity” is a myth

26:59: “People just assume that I don’t struggle mentally as much as I actually do” — all the tools and scaffolds it relies on to survive

28:54: The financial, career, emotional, and energetic costs of being a multiply-disabled queer autigender Asian American person in a capitalist society

32:15: Food as a nonverbal, somatic way for Lakan Ubaya’s bicultural and possibly neurodivergent family members to communicate

33:42: We gushed about mooncake, Mid-Autumn Festival, and why some Asian autistics prefer it to Lunar New Year

35:28: “We have kindred spirits around us all the time” — on connecting with other autistic BIPOC and ancestral practices

38:19: How to support Lakan Ubaya’s practice in traditional medicine

Access the transcript for this episode by supporting us at: https://rewilding.cc/book

#autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity

Hire Charlotte! https://www.charlottehunter.ca/

Support the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! project by pre-ordering a copy of the book: https://rewilding.cc/book 

00:43: Charlotte introduces her Métis, Two-Spirit, neurodivergent background

02:02: How working as a lawyer and moving back to her childhood home when the Covid pandemic began kickstarted her journeys into seeking an autism diagnosis and gender-affirming care

08:56: Charlotte unpacks neurodivergence and Two-Spirit identity in the maternal side of her family

11:35: How ADHD and other diagnoses didn’t explain everything for her before her autism diagnosis

14:13: How she sees gender-diverse and neurodivergent people in Métis culture express themselves as Two-Spirit

16:23: The difficulties she faced in unlearning internalized racism and ableism to access social assistance

18:51: The nuances of growing up with male-presenting, white-presenting privilege

20:11: Everything that Charlotte’s tried to helped and didn’t help her navigate the challenges of being AuDHD

24:48: On the challenges of self-advocacy at the doctor’s office with multiple health conditions

26:20: What brings Charlotte most joy in her forties with her family, community, nature, and ancestral reconnection

29:53: Charlotte’s biggest advice for newly-identified/diagnosed folks

33:43: The biggest thing she wants therapists and healthcare providers to know — especially about their hiring practices — in order to better support queer AuDHD BIPOC

37:06: How you can support Charlotte’s work in the Two-Spirit Council, Métis Nation of Ontario, and more

Access the transcript in our upcoming book by pre-ordering here: https://rewilding.cc/book 

#autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity

Support Kristen at:

- https://theblackurbanist.com (where you can pre-order the Defying Gentrification Playbook!)

- https://theblackurbanist.substack.com/

- @blackurbanist and @kristpattern on socials

Help fund and sustain the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! book and podcast at https://rewilding.cc/book 

Citations:

- Sabrina Strings, Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia

- “That is how I learned that if I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive.” Quote from Audre Lorde, (1982) “Learning from the 60s.”: https://blackpast.org/african-american-history/1982-audre-lorde-learning-60s/ 

In this episode:

00:54: Kristen (she/they) introduces all her intersections as a 39-year-old disabled Black feminist urbanist, North Carolinan, AuDHDer, and non-binary pansexual person facing the civil rights pullback right now

06:32: How she struggled to recognize her AuDHD as a Black Southerner until seeing her friend’s struggles with access and ableism and her partner’s own ADHD diagnosis

10:33: The obstacles Kristen faced in obtaining an AuDHD diagnosis due to systemic barriers in US healthcare and health insurance

14:44: Why Kristen believes an early diagnosis can become an extra layer of discrimination for Black American kids — and how both the freedom and structure of the college environment helped her thrive

17:34: When she noticed her first moments of autistic burnout and meltdown and how she connected them to her possibly autistic father’s misdiagnosis of bipolar disorder

18:49: How Kristen’s conservative, religious upbringing shaped the ways in which she viewed social and communication difficulties, mental health, and therapy in college

20:22: Their rough transition to the workplace with high stakes and arbitrary rules — and why they want to run their own business instead, especially in the still ongoing Covid pandemic

26:49: “Sometimes as Black folks, we don’t even get to get through the door [of the clinic]”

27:58: “ Everybody doesn't need to be working as much” — are we showing ourselves enough grace and empathy and honoring ourselves?

31:04: How can we work towards balancing everyone’s access needs?

32:31: The no. 1 thing Kristen would say to her younger self and other queer AuDHD BIPOC to hold onto who you are and feel seen

37:21: If we had a more neurodivergent-friendly world, would we have to resort to hating someone else to get what we need?

38:48: Kristen’s support needs wishlist and how you can support all of their creative work — including their upcoming book, “The Defying Gentrification Playbook”

Access the transcript in our upcoming book by pre-ordering here: https://rewilding.cc/book 

#autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity

Connect with Nadeen: https://bio.site/nadeenezzy

Support the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! project by pre-ordering a copy of the book: https://rewilding.cc/book 

Meet Nadeen, gay Mexican-Lebanese AuDHDer and creative strategist. In this conversation, we talk about: 

01:08: The struggles of growing up undiagnosed, out of place, being told you’re too much all the time, and misunderstood during verbal shutdowns

02:28: Learning the hard way how masking can look a lot like ‘being agreeable.’

03:39: How TikTok helped her discover her AuDHD and how women & BIPOC constantly fly under the autism radar.

06:00: Dating across neurotype and race, and surface-level friendships and relationships

07:00: Navigating AuDHD with an Lebanese dad who escaped war and a Mexican mom who didn’t recognize her neurodivergence

09:20: Why she thrives best as a freelancer and not in an office setting - plus the accommodations she can provide herself at home

15:06: How scripting helps her with client interactions on Zoom calls

17:16: What brings her the greatest joy — and why it IS possible for autistic people to get tattoos

22:50: Her journey from growing up with internalized homophobia to her marriage with her wife

26:20: Her advice to her younger self and queer BIPOC learning we’re AuDHD

29:12: why being perceived online feels safer than at a concert.

31:03: The biggest thing Nadeen wants the world and the government to know.

Access the transcript in our upcoming book by pre-ordering here: https://rewilding.cc/book 

#autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity

Head here now to pre-order your copy of Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! eBook which includes interviews with Kaligirwa and other multiply-marginalized AuDHDers of color.

- Follow & support Kaligirwa’s work

- Read Kaligirwa’s Substack

- Check out Kaligirwa’s post on the models of disability

- Note: the ICD-10 still includes Asperger's syndrome, but the ICD-11 does not

- Academic with vision loss Annika Konrad coined the term "access fatigue"

You can use the timestamps below with content warnings marked to skip potentially triggering content.

Meet Rwandan-Canadian AuDHDer Kaligirwa (@blackspectrumscholar, all pronouns) from Quebec, Canada! We talk about:

00:01:01: How she was diagnosed with ADHD in early high school — and why many of his challenges weren’t addressed by medication alone

00:03:00: Their confusion of going through interpersonal challenges and long assessment waitlists without realizing they were autism-related or receiving adequate support [CW: psychiatric hospitalization]

00:09:10: What it’s like to have moderate support needs split across the 2 categories in the DSM-5’s scale of support needs.

00:11:16: What online autistic spaces don’t talk about enough re: getting accommodations and support services

00:13:30: Kali explains what “Access fatigue” is — and how it wears out disabled people fighting for support

00:15:00: The biggest stressors and injustices they face as a Black agender AuDHDer who is read as a woman.

00:18:23: Who gets seen as — and excluded from — “the norm” in AuDHD, and how is it reinforced by white supremacy and Global North bias?

00:25:00: Kali unpacks the myth of autistics having “a strong sense of justice” and ties it to how marginalized communities were policed for their reactions to the C.K. unaliving in Sep 2025.

00:29:36: What brings Kali most joy in different areas of his daily life

00:31:00: Why she always discloses their AuDHD status in all settings

00:34:25: Kali’s nuanced message to late-diagnosed/identified queer AuDHD BIPOC

00:36:00: What they want policymakers and organizations to know about the models of disability they rely on

00:37:00: How to support and uplift Kaligirwa’s advocacy and educational work!

Support the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! project at https://rewilding.cc/book

#autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity

Take care of yourself. CW: colonial boarding-school legacy, anti-Blackness, assimilation, ableism, medical gatekeeping, chronic pain, medical gaslighting, suicide, psychiatric incarceration, ableist abuse and harassment. 

You can use the timestamps below with content warnings marked to skip potentially triggering content. 

- Follow Riz https://linktr.ee/RCarthins

- Help Riz get their wheelchair accessible van! https://chuffed.org/project/rizwav

- Support the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! project at https://rewilding.cc/book 

In this episode:

- 00:01:18: Meet Riz, an Afro-Indigenous, trans, Two-Spirit, radical yarn artist, wheelchair user, and mutual-aid organizer, who weaves fiber art into disability justice and collective care.

- 00:02:37: Learn how boarding school functioned as an assimilation machine for Indigenous and negatively-racialized kids like Riz. [CW: colonial boarding-school legacy, anti-Blackness, assimilation]

- 00:05:10: How perfectionism became a mask for Riz in elite, classist white institutions

- 00:08:00: How Riz got their college to pay for ADHD testing - and why their insurance later claimed they couldn’t cover ADHD anymore. [CW: ableism, medical gatekeeping]

- 00:09:14: Discover how Riz’s ADHD diagnosis opened the door to understanding autism and why bullying didn’t always register as bullying.

- 00:13:10: Learn how the athletic excellence expected of Black students came at the expense of Riz’s pain and chronic illness. [CW: chronic pain, medical gaslighting]

- 00:16:20: How institutional “care” became PR management when a classmate in crisis was expelled to protect the school’s image. [CW: suicide]

- 00:19:40: How speaking to campus counselors led to Riz’s unexpected psychiatric incarceration and a forced gap year from college. [CW: psychiatric incarceration]

- 00:22:03: How Riz navigated ADHD medication shortages and the inequities of medical access for disabled folks.

- 00:25:00: How Riz’s time in Cameroon and Tanzania revealed that “lateness” is a colonial construct — and how it reshaped their understanding of urgency and presence.

- 00:28:16: Why accommodations aren’t always guaranteed in grad school, especially when you’re up against abusive professors [CW: ableist abuse and harassment]

- 00:32:41: Learn how joy, fiber-arts therapy, and community care sustain Riz.

Support the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! project at https://rewilding.cc/book 

#autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity

Action beats performative allyship. Be the reason Queer AuDHD BIPOC feel seen - chip in at https://rewilding.cc/book to back our stories, pay guests, and grow mutual aid.

Follow Janella at diversity_in_neurodiversity on IG, TikTok, YouTube: https://linktr.ee/diversityinneurodiversity

00:01:03: Meet Filipino-Korean AuDHDer Janella of “Diversity in Neurodiversity” and learn what her platform does differently for autistic and ADHD folks of color.

00:02:09: Follow Janella’s late-diagnosis path from a friend of color’s revelation to her own suspicions — and what finally pushed her to seek answers.

00:03:26: How an LAX sensory overload moment that reframed everything, and how one incident can catalyze a search for language and self-understanding.

00:05:17: Peek inside the diagnostic assessment maze (referrals, waitlists, criteria) and hear Janella’s mindset shift that made the waiting period unexpectedly useful.

00:09:33: How Asian cultural expectations can complicate family input on childhood traits, and why that tension didn’t derail Janella’s diagnosis.

00:11:22: Learn how a simultaneous AuDHD diagnosis landed for Janella — and why accepting one part felt easier for her than the other at first.

00:21:33: How gender roles, sensory needs, and queerness intersected across Janella’s life — and why naming difference opened up confidence instead of closing doors.

00:26:37: What thriving at work with accommodations can look like for an autistic person managing people daily, and why structure plus novelty turned out to be a strength.

00:42:00: What Janella wants newly diagnosed or questioning BIPOC listeners to know about mapping identities, spotting strengths, and finding your people.

#autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity

Welcome to Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! - a book and podcast to help late-diagnosed/identified Autistic and ADHD 2SLGBTQIA+ people of color feel seen, supported, and less alone while living in multiple margins.

Support our project at rewilding.cc/book - funds go toward our interviewees, the Autistic People of Color Mutual Aid Fund, and my disabled friend Nara, a mother of 2 living with multiple sclerosis and pancreatic cancer.

00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast

00:48 Meet the Host: TQ's Background

02:13 Challenges of Finding Representation

06:13 Creating a Living Archive

06:43 Who This Podcast is For

08:36 The Bigger Picture: Systemic Barriers

14:04 Support and Funding for the Project

16:11 Conclusion and Call to Action

Resources

- generative somatics by Spenta Kandawalla and Staci K. Haines https://generativesomatics.org/