Forgiveness is not something we do to let someone else off the hook, it's something we do for ourselves to allow more love into our lives. We can still maintain boundaries and discernment of what we're not okay with while we forgive, while we stop continuing to poison ourselves with the stuck energy of a grudge.

In this episode:

• Preambles before we get to the point
• A Course in Miracles
• Forgiveness is a tool that transform poison into Light
• A personal example I felt regret for and the need for forgiveness
• Necessary and unnecessary suffering
• Grudges create walls between ourself and life / love
• Forgiveness as grace
• The paradox of unconditional love and things that aren't okay
• Resisting and accepting life
• A guided practice to actualize and experience forgiveness
• - Feel the effect in you of the thing you don't like
• - The mind opens to a wider understanding
• - Our pain around it sequences, digests, and releases
• - Love comes in and through us
• How a long, developmental view of life supports forgiveness 

Providing an encore to the last two episodes, we round out our deep dive into the spirituality of Phish by focusing on the profundity of playing with humor.

In this episode:

• The lineage of humility, humor, and light-heartedness of Phish and the sometimes heaviness of The Grateful Dead
• The cosmic joke of seriously mattering and simultaneously not mattering
• Vampire Weekend's Ezra Koenig on music critics' valuing serious art more than lighthearted art
• Grown ups standing still talking at each other
• Everything Everywhere All At Once

The living spiritual path I'm most connected to, present in and transcending many different traditions, is the path of leaning into life, leaning into the body, the challenges, the relationships, the experiences, the boring and mundane, and awakening the transcendent miracle of life in all things. The band Phish embodies this praxis through the ways they listen humbly to each other and the energy in the room of their concerts; through saying "yes, and" to whatever arises; and through playing with form and freedom to create a cohesive third force of engagement, a relational field in which all who listen to and participate in their music can connect with the paradoxical fullness of life. Their art also expresses a consciousness to these qualities, acknowledging the seriousness of life and the cosmic joke of it all simultaneously. At the core, Phish create a symbolic language I resonate with to connect to higher frequencies of life.

After last episode's introduction to the band, this episode uses the band as a springboard to focus more on these spiritual qualities. The episode goes a little "type 2" (Phish speak for when a jam completely leaves the song structure and starts making up new spontaneous compositions) and rambley exploratory, not unlike an exciting Phish jam. I hope you enjoy it, and use it to connect to the higher potential in yourself and your life.

• a preramble on interpreting life symbolically, finding the high teachings in any phenomena.
• connecting with a conversation you resonate with. I resonate with the conversation and sense of humor of Phish.
• how "yes, and" and improvising with life is a spiritual practice
• the animism of humble listening
• listening as respecting transpersonal experience and personal feelings, needs, and under the surface realities
• humility dissolves the ego
• grief rituals hold relational humility in recognition of a larger whole
• form and freedom, songs and jams, duality and non-duality, and the third creation behind the binaries
• honoring the transcendence of the mundane life experiences
• a quick encore to focus on safely leaning into the body to access the depth of your spirituality

Why 43 years of friendship, humor, intelligence, and creativity is so meaningful to so many. In this episode, I describe how being present (i.e. surrendering to the flow) is a key ingredient to spiritual experiences. The band Phish offers A LOT to be present with, in caring, inclusive, and endlessly playful ways. Among many insights and experiences, three of the core teachings I've learned from Phish are:

1. Listening humbly and responding powerfully,

2. Balancing form and freedom,

3. Saying "Yes, And" to whatever's happening.

This is the Spirituality of Phish.

In this episode:

• What is and isn't "spiritual"?
• Sustained Presence is a key aspect of spirituality and ceremony
• Containers you need to fit into, and containers that naturally fit all of you
• Phish is 4 friends - humble, kind, genuine, and inviting
• How dancing can widen and support listening and understanding what you're hearing
• The blended unity of difference
• Phish are master teachers of listening
• Music as presentation and music as participatory journey
• Humility in listening, and sharing the lead
• Balancing form and freedom, earth and sky
• The multi-meaninged abstract nature of Phish's lyrics
• Bringing your personal process into the music listening experience
• Phish's expertise at "Yes, And"
• Jamming awkward and any mood (I referenced them playing a song and mistakenly said it was Cannonball, meant to say it was Catapult)
• Tension and release
• Phish's career-long and ongoing evolution, musically and personally
• Ghosts of the Forest and Phish fans' widely varying opinions and criticisms of the band
• The full freedom of the open channel Phish creates
• Phish's psychically attuned light show
• The art of listening and responding simultaneously
• Listening to each band member and widening your awareness - teaching owl eyes practice to relax mental fixations
• Specific Phish listening recommendations
• "Hose" and channeling spiritual experience through music
• Letting the surreal lyrics and music work on you from the inside over time
• Growing presence and spiritual awareness by surrendering to the flow of whatever is happening
• Find and play your notes in the already present music of life

Most of Modern Western culture abhors, shuns, and deeply fears Death. But what if Death is holding the key to the full unblemished experience of Life, and by turning away from Death, we are limiting our ability to live as the full, complete, perfect beings we deep down know ourselves to be? Continuing the contemplation started in Episode 14: Death is Safe, this episode ventures, safely in our breathing bodies, to the doorway that honoring Death can lead us through. When we allow Death to sit at our table... or rather, when we recognize that Death is the one who prepared and is in fact the table, we can relax into more of the fullness and grandeur of life, here and now, than we may have ever thought possible when we tried to live without Death.

In this episode:

• Embracing and honoring death to fully embrace and honor life.
• A story of a compassionate chicken slaughter.
• The natural necessity of death in life.
• Death's portal into ahierarchical freedom.
• Duality, Binaries, and Masculine / Feminine Energies.
• Death as a feminine force.
• The purpose of life is to fully participate in life.
• The Western approach to hiding death and a more participatory approach to celebrating it.
• On loving through grief, and grieving as the most appropriate response to life.
• We're already living and loving through a field cleared and made by death.
• The Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King's teachings on death.
• Embracing the great battle of your time.
• Beyond binaries, good / bad, into pure engagement with the dance of life and death.

The essence of The Gene Keys path of wisdom, discussed in the last episode, is the art of Contemplation. This episode dives deeper into this central practice.

Contemplation is a spiritual practice that can easily integrate into modern lifestyles. It can help busy homemakers, parents, workers, and anyone access a deep wellspring of wisdom and dynamic truth by entering into relationship with the now in an open, curious, and playful way.

Contemplation is not just a new technique to try. You might hear about it listening with your left brain, listening for something to do. But contemplation is not something to do, it's a completely different way of experiencing, a way of engaging with reality that is fundamentally unlike our usual left brain way of living. It's living into a right brain, relational process of unfolding.

In this episode:

- Meditation as a monastic practice, and modern lifestyles collapsing meditation time

- Living spirituality that evolves with life and you

- Contemplation is not a technique but a way of being and becoming

- The three phases of contemplation:

- Pausing - dropping into the eternal essence of existence and Allowing life to be what it is

- Pivoting - engaging with what's arising in your life and Accepting the effect it has on you

- Merging - Embracing the unity and dance of yourself and your experiences

- Contemplation is a playful and dynamic living relationship with life that includes and transcends protocol

- How contemplation allows wisdom and insights to emerge over time

- Create your own contemplative practice

- Containers to hold your practices 

This episode provides an introduction, an overview, and key take ways from two systems of self awareness I've been connecting with: Human Design (the first 13 minutes) and The Gene Keys. These systems provide practical knowledge for your optimal functioning as a unique individual, and a path of inner awakening for your personal evolution.

Discussed in the episode:

• Human Design's mapping of the 64 archetypes of the I Ching along the Zodiac
• The reality of astrology (we are porous and affected by external realities)
• Key Human Design Takeaway: Every person's optimal functioning is unique and different, specific to each person's design
• Different decision making styles (Human Design "Authority")
• Similarities between Human Design and neurodivergent awareness
• How The Gene Keys branched off of Human Design
• Human Design as a more left brain path of knowledge, Gene Keys as a more right brain path of wisdom
• Working with the Gene Keys if you don't know your birth date, time, and location
• Key Gene Keys Takeaway: "Every shadow contains a Gift." - Softening into the gold of the stuck and suffering places
• How the Gene Keys relate to genetics
• Three frequencies of each Gene Key: the shadow, gift, and siddhi
• The Golden Path's three areas of focus: Purpose, Emotions, and Prosperity
• The technology and art of Contemplation as distinct from meditation and concentration
• Conversing with Living Teachings, and entering into Spiritual Paths like entering into different relationships
• Focusing on one spiritual tradition or synthesizing many
• Know Thy Self
• My biggest Gene Keys Takeaway: Trust in myself, life, in slowing down, and being.

Continuing the discussion on differing circumstances from the last episode, today we go deeper into our Kabbalistic contemplation of the common life force present in all people, things, and circumstances.

• Review of the 4 levels of reality through the metaphor of the Torah scroll
• The true nature of esoteric teachings and why they're secretive
• How perceiving and relating with the shared life force (the ink) makes it impossible to hate
• The difference between electric light and starlight
• What is natural?
• Seeing the same ink in both a tyrant and their victim(s)
• What we're doing here: Awareness becoming aware of itself
• Integrating dual and non-dual
• Chinese landscape paintings, and exercising restraint with the expressions of our ink

Coming in in a very weird mood, this episode is a real time process of living in a world of inequality and astronomically different situations. I also share an unplanned Kabbalistic teaching on 4 levels of interpreting the Torah Scroll and reality, which I learned from my teacher Zvi Ish-Shalom. It's not about finding a neat answer to inequality and living with differences, but about feeling our way through the complexity and multidimensionality at play in all our circumstances.

In this episode:

- The weirdness of all of us living together, all with different circumstances

- The 4 Layers of the Torah: Words, Letters, Ink, and Parchment

- The heartbreaking gift of Life in all circumstances

In this first episode of Season 2, I share my key insights from studying and practicing the KonMari method of tidying up a physical home as a spiritual practice.

Covered in this episode:

- A thanks to listeners and a technical note on my recording technique

- Overview of Marie Kondo and the KonMari method of tidying up your life

- Marie Kondo as a role model for living one's life authentically

- How to decide how much stuff you need, what to keep and what to throw away

- Possession as an honoring practice

- Sparking Joy, and living a life aligned with your personal and intuitive sense of Joy, aligned with your unique nature and life purpose

- Acknowledging and appreciating when things have served their purpose and are complete for you

- Discarding papers

- The dangers of too much good storeage

- How and where to store things you want to keep

- Living spaciously

- The Animism of living intentionally with freer energy in the material world

- The difference between daily cleaning and the tidying marathon

- The Click Point - what you need to be happy

Footnote: one thing I'd like to emphasize is that the point of tidying up is not to live with the least amount of things. The point is to live only with things that you love, to live a life of greater and greater Love, physically and beyond. And in that sense it's okay to keep sentimental things and other stuff; this process helps clarify what you really love now, in the current version of yourself.

In our 18th Episode Spectacular (!), join me in a living meditation. You don't have to be sitting still, but to get the full effect, you are warmly invited to listen, not just to me, but to the full energy of Life as it moves through you throughout this episode. Preceded by a short left-brain (rational) talk, we then drop into a direct right-brain (experiential) relationship with Life itself. Including some guidance and spontaneous teachings throughout, this episode speaks to:

• The Hebrew word for life (chai) and its relationship to the number 18.

• The typical podcast (and modern living) left-brain orientation and an invitation into a right-brain experience of living. (This is referencing the left and right hemispheres of the brain and their general functions.)

• Songs versus musical improvisation.

• Labeling what you're doing in categories (i.e. worrying, judging, reliving, planning... Appreciating, breathing, listening, etc.).

• Forgiveness - what it really is and does.

• Gratitude.

Thanks for listening to this show.

With infinite Love,

Dan

Listening to the radio sparked a contemplation on the side effects of having so many choices of on-demand experiences, namely the difficulty of staying present with what's happening.

• Sifting through and discarding genius
• The difficulty of being just fine
• Financial wealth and spiritual poverty
• True fulfillment will never come from an external impermanent thing
• Eternal satisfaction in the complete process of never-ending nows
• The addiction to seeking the perfect high
• Appreciating the normal any day

This episode is an invitation to take time throughout your life to pause your habitual activity and open to something else—the mystery of what's beyond our personal fixations. In pausing and listening, you can enter into a personal relationship with Life itself. In my experience, and in that of countless streams of wisdom, Life is unceasingly generous and intelligent; so give her a chance. Put down your phone, pick up the silence, and listen.

• Pausing
• How self-obsession plays out through our plans and agendas
• Not-doing and at first hearing the echoes of our recent inputs and ourselves
• Opening to something greater than yourself
• Living in relationship with Life itself
• Intellectually knowing about vs experientially knowing what actually is
• Connecting with Eternity, the Eternal Now.

This episode is a continuation of the threads explored in episodes 14 and 13.

• How recognizing the safety of Death enables greater trust with Life
• How Life's needs moved through me at a recent concert
• Dancing and standing still at general admission shows
• Dancing with the variety of life's needs expressed through different people at different times
• A prayer and a blessing for your Trusting this moment

From a narrow and constricted view of reality, death can be a scary end.

From a wider openness to all of existence, death is safe.

• Death will not kill us
• A song of birth and death

Beyond the techniques of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) (explored in the last episode), I find a deep spiritual connection to life that NVC can bring us into greater contact with. When we connect with our needs, we are connecting with the dynamic edge of life's evolution. In this episode, I contemplate some of the juiciest and most interesting aspects of the philosophy underpinning NVC.

• How blaming others disempowers us
• Reclaiming power and responsibility for our emotional states no matter the circumstances
• Recognizing alignment - working with right/wrong in a way that doesn't violently divide life
• How Spirit speaks through needs - yours and every other individuation of life

Nonviolent Communication (NVC), developed by Marshall Rosenberg, has been used to foster peace, reconciliation, understanding, empathy, and collaboration in settings from warzones to personal relationships. It's also an incredibly helpful framework to develop self-understanding when you're feeling disturbed by an inner or outer conflict. In this episode, I explain the simple 4-step process of NVC so you can begin using it to create more inner and outer peace in your life.

• How to build a stronger connection with someone when you're upset with them, rather than a larger divide
• How to speak in a conflict without making the other person defensive
• How to tune into and take responsibility for what's really happening under the surface for you in a challenging situation

This episode largely focuses on Western Medicine and is inspired by Gabor Mate's book The Myth of Normal. This episode is not about taking a black or white stance for or against any particular strategy of health, it's about being informed and thinking critically about the decisions you make for your health.

• How Western Medicine can be a force of oppression and colonization (especially through birth)
• Colonization as "one right way" and the Borg
• Bias in expertise
• Working with alternative medicine

A working theory on the spectrum of "normalcy" and "neurodiversity."

• What is normal?
• Neurodiversity as a way of acknowledging needs
• Highly sensitive people and highly numb people
• The difficulty and magic of life on the spectrum in the modern world
• Weird blessings on blessed weirdness

"The bad news is you're falling through the air, nothing to hang on to, no parachute.

The good news is, there's no ground."

- Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche.

In this episode:

- The Western tendency to solidify concepts

- All life as a verb

- Addressing anxiety about the past and the future through the Eternal Now