Secret#30

Both parents must take time out in order to frame the rules that would operate within the family structure, and both parents should follow these rules too. That is the way of creating a sense of fairness among the children and preclude possibilities of favouritism.

Secret#29

Be careful when you discuss your children with others. You are putting up a glass for them to be seen through. With that glass, they can't see reality. If you colour their perspective green, they will see everything in a green haze, if it's black, they will see everything as black. Do not restrict your children's lives to a uni-colour zone, do not create an artificial identity for them.

Secret#28

Your children will become whatever you expect of them. Your responsibility is to make sure your expectations are positive, productive und useful to their lives. If you let them know that you expect them to be untidy, lazy and bad tempered, you will have untidy, lazy & bad tempered children. If you say that they helpful, friendly and smart, you will have helpful, friendly and smart children. Surely you know which children you'd prefer.

Secret#27

Get ready now to make a visit to an orphanage with your children. Spend some time with the children there. Make your children realise the gifts and blessings they have received in life. From this is born sensitivity to others, and a sense of deep humility both of which go on to make your children great human beings.

Secret#26

Teach your children to count their blessings, appreciate the many gifts that life and nature has bequeathed them. Once they start believing that they are 'gifted', it will bring about a sea of change in their world view.

Secret#25

Once you've become a parent, you'll need to define your priorities clearly to yourself. It will help you make tough choices choices confidently, and not tear you apart emotionally, every single day.

Secret#24

Having a fixed pattern in our humdrum lives lives often allows ennui and monotony to set in. So, as a parent, every now and then, you should break the pattern, giving your children a nice surprise or escape from everyday life. In the joyous moments of freedom, you can lay the foundation of a deep, lasting bond together.

Secret#23

The world is resounding with infinite possibilities. Indeed nothing is impossible. So let your children's dream be as colourful as possible, do not contain their exuberant wings. Teach them to dream big, and keep their faith too.

Secret#22

Appreciate your children's effort if you want the positive change in them to be long lasting.

Secret#21

Don't be anxiety ridden that your child displays childish behaviour- that is only natural. Enjoy these playful days in the morning sun to the fullest, as days later they may bring their own worries.

Secret#20

Demolish the myth the positive changes inevitably take a life time to come about! If your children suddenly exhibit a positive trait, don't assume that it is temporary. Make note of it, encourage them- and wait for the result- the change will be here to stay.

Secret#19

When you are on the 'Seven Day Mental Diet for Parents', you mustn't let any negative thought about parenthood come to you. if such a thought does manage to slip in, you must do the exercise all over again!

Secret#18

If you always run your life according yo the clock, there will be no variety in it, no spontaneity, nor excitement. Creativity will not flourish thus. Teach your children the ability to manage time, but don't let them be managed by time.

Secret#17

Observe the dynamics between your children and you. Are your reactions always on cue, do you always react in a manner they have learned to expect? Are you a toy in their hands? Then here's the solution- Break the Pattern! You will notice a marked improvement in their behavior.

Secret#16

Parents, you need to choose your identity depending on the need of the hour. So, be flexible in shifting between various positive parental ideals.

Secret#15

If you stand up for your rights, then your children will not have to be theoretically taught this quality. Remember parents, the best way, to teach is through example.

Secret#14

Parents, do understand that your teenaged children often turn to their friends with their feelings because in them they find a reflection of the immediacy of their intense emotions. However, that does not mean that they have no need for you anymore. It is time for you now to take them seriously, as young adults, while simultaneously forging a deeper bond by spending more time with them, to understand them as people.

Secret#13

Never disengage from active involvement in your children's lives, even as they are about to enter teenage years, never 'go into a coma'. Remember they need you more during these emotionally challenging years.

Secret#12

Ask Yourself:

Have you imprisoned your children in any way, pinned them down in your mind? Act upon and change that scenario immediately- Set your children free.

Secret#11

Choose to inspire your children through stories of someone they know about, someone close to their heart; relating to the hero makes a world of difference.