033 - Don’t Get Married Until You’ve Asked These Questions
54m | Sep 10, 2026In this episode, Allan & Nicole Blain share a comprehensive list of questions to ask potential spouses, emphasizing the importance of intentional conversations before marriage. They discuss how these questions can help identify compatibility and align expectations, ultimately strengthening future relationships.
Who are Allan & Nicole Blain?
We’re Allan and Nicole Blain — college sweethearts, now married 33 years, parents of six amazing grown kids, and co-leaders of a thriving, purpose-driven business and ministry. We met as student-athletes (she played volleyball and I played baseball), just 5 days after Nicole's 19th birthday. We were married one year later, five days after she turned 20, on September 12, 1992.
Connect with us:
- Email us at: allan@allanblain.com
- Website https://AllanAndNicole.com
- Instagram @ImpactMarriagePodcast
- YouTube @ImpactMarriagePodcast
- TikTok @ImpactMarriagePodcast
- Order Allan's book "Life's Hard Succeed Anyway”
Key Topics:
- Importance of asking the right questions before marriage
- 12 categories of questions: marriage, faith, family, finances, sex, etc.
- The role of mentors and open communication in relationships
- Aligning values and expectations for a successful marriage
- The significance of spiritual and emotional compatibility
Chapters:
- 00:00 Introduction to the importance of premarital questions
- 02:24 The value of asking questions about future marriage expectations
- 06:13 When to ask these questions: before dating or during early dating
- 11:01 Key biblical principles on walking together in marriage
- 13:14 Sample questions about marriage and divorce
- 15:37 The significance of transparency in social media and passwords
- 19:04 Handling past relationships and conflict resolution
- 20:26 Questions about faith, spiritual gifts, and sin struggles
- 24:49 The role of mentors and spiritual growth in marriage
- 38:23 Questions about children, parenting, and family traditions
- 46:05 Discussions on sex, intimacy, and pornography in marriage
- 52:18 Final thoughts and encouragement for couples
Questions (12 categories):
Download PDF at AllanAndNicole.com/premarital-questions
Keywords:
marriage, dating questions, relationship advice, premarital counseling, spiritual compatibility, family planning, communication, marriage preparation
