036 - Why Does My Spouse Get the Leftovers.

In this episode, Allan and Nicole Blain talk about a common challenge in marriage: giving your spouse whatever energy, attention, and affection you have left after work, kids, responsibilities, and everyday life. They share lessons from more than 30 years of marriage about intentionally prioritizing your relationship, making time for one another, and ensuring your spouse gets your best not just the leftovers.

Who are Allan & Nicole Blain?

We’re Allan and Nicole Blain — college sweethearts, now married years, parents of six amazing grown kids, and co-leaders of a thriving, purpose-driven business and ministry. We met as student-athletes (she played volleyball and I played baseball), just 5 days after Nicole's 19th birthday. We were married one year later, five days after she turned 20, on September 12, 1992.

Key topics:

- Prioritizing your spouse in the middle of a busy life

- Giving your spouse your best, not your leftovers

- Making intentional time for your marriage

- Balancing marriage, parenting, work, and responsibilities

- Building your spouse up with encouraging words

- Recognizing when your relationship is being neglected

- Scheduling time together when life gets busy

- Showing love through consistent everyday actions

- Protecting connection and intimacy in marriage

- Surrendering your relationship to God and trusting Him to lead your marriage

- Praying for your spouse and your relationship

- Choosing your spouse daily, even after decades together