035 - Lessons Learned from 32 years of Parenting Six Children
55m | Sep 24, 2026In this episode, Allan and Nicole Blain share their 32 years of parenting experience, discussing what they did right, what they would do differently, and valuable lessons learned along the way. They explore topics like modeling faith, building relationships, and teaching responsibility to help parents raise impactful children.
Who are Allan & Nicole Blain?
We’re Allan and Nicole Blain — college sweethearts, now married 33 years, parents of six amazing grown kids, and co-leaders of a thriving, purpose-driven business and ministry. We met as student-athletes (she played volleyball and I played baseball), just 5 days after Nicole's 19th birthday. We were married one year later, five days after she turned 20, on September 12, 1992.
Key topics:
- Modeling a close relationship with Jesus
- Building children up with positive words
- Serving together as a family
- Teaching responsibility through chores
- Developing relationships with each child
- Parenting the heart, not just behavior
- Investing in relationships with other families
- Transitioning from dictator to coach
- Praying more and worrying less
- Parenting with grace and mercy
Chapters:
- 00:00 Introduction and overview of parenting lessons
- 04:38 Serving together as a family
- 08:12 Reflecting on parenting over 32 years
- 12:15 Fostering a love for reading and music
- 17:14 Doing outdoor activities and bonding as a family
- 19:35 Parenting the heart versus behavior
- 22:28 The importance of prayer in parenting
- 24:42 Building relationships with each child
- 26:03 Investing in relationships with other families
- 29:20 Transitioning from dictator to coach
- 31:13 Parenting each child's unique personality
- 34:30 Praying more for children and with them
- 37:55 What we got right in parenting
- 40:21 The importance of humility and apology
- 42:41 Not rescuing children from consequences
- 44:07 Parenting the child's heart
- 45:39 Final tips for parents
- 49:02 What we hope our children say about us
- 50:23 Leaving a legacy of character and faith
- 51:44 Impact of parenting on marriage and society
Keywords:
parenting, family, faith, relationship building, responsibility, parenting lessons, marriage, legacy, children, homeschooling
