Real change rarely comes from big promises, sudden motivation, or total life overhauls. More often, it’s built quietly, through small, consistent habits practiced with compassion, patience, and grace.

In this episode of Unplugged Therapy, therapist Stephanie Evans explores why so many well-intentioned habits fail and what research actually shows about creating change that lasts. Drawing from evidence-based principles like habit stacking, focusing on one habit at a time, realistic timelines for habit formation (often closer to months than weeks), and the surprisingly powerful practice of starting with just one minute, this conversation reframes growth in a way that feels achievable instead of overwhelming.

This episode is especially for those who:

• feel discouraged by self-help culture

• struggle with consistency and follow-through

• carry trauma, chronic stress, or emotional exhaustion

• want to grow without pushing their nervous system into burnout

• desire change that aligns with both mental health and faith

Rather than asking “How do I try harder?”, this episode invites a different question: What would growth look like if it were gentle, realistic, and sustainable? We talk about how trauma and stress impact habit formation, why shame actually blocks progress, and how small daily practices can support emotional healing, spiritual connection, and personal growth over time.

This isn’t about perfection, productivity, or becoming a “better” version of yourself overnight. It’s about building habits that work with your nervous system instead of against it, and allowing change to unfold in a way that honors your story, your season, and your capacity.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing at growth, this episode will remind you: you’re not broken, you just need a kinder framework.

Press play and discover how small steps, taken consistently, can lead to meaningful and lasting change.

New year. New goals. Same tired nervous system.

Every January, we’re told that this is the year we finally become more disciplined, more motivated, more productive, more healed. But what if the problem isn’t your willpower, what if it’s the pressure?

In this episode of Unplugged Therapy, therapist Stephanie Evans gently dismantles New Year goal culture and offers a radically different approach to growth, one rooted in nervous system awareness, mental health, faith, and compassion.

This conversation is for anyone who feels:

• emotionally exhausted

• behind in life

• disconnected from motivation

• overwhelmed by “shoulds”

• frustrated by goals that never seem to stick

We explore why motivation naturally fluctuates, how trauma and chronic stress impact follow-through, and why traditional goal-setting often fails people who are already doing their best just to get through the day. Instead of pushing harder, this episode invites you to slow down, listen inward, and pursue growth that is sustainable, realistic, and deeply human.

This is not about hustling, overachieving, or fixing yourself.

It’s about honoring your season.

It’s about progress without punishment.

It’s about growth that doesn’t abandon your mental health or your faith.

If you’re craving a grounded, honest, and grace-filled way to approach the new year — without shame, pressure, or burnout — this episode was made for you

Take a breath. Press play. You’re not behind.

Tags / Keywords

Realistic goal setting

Mental health and motivation

Trauma-informed therapy

New Year pressure

Burnout recovery

Nervous system regulation

Faith and mental health

Emotional exhaustion

Sustainable growth

Self-compassion

Healing journey

Getting your LPC-A license can feel overwhelming, confusing timelines, endless acronyms, and paperwork that no one explains clearly. In this episode, I walk you through exactly how to get your LPC-A, step by step, based on what I was told and what I personally did.

We talk about when you can take the NCE (yes, during your last semester if you’ve completed 75% of your program), how to set up your NBCC account, applying through the South Carolina LLR, uploading documents the right way, transcripts, name changes, CACREP vs. non-CACREP programs, and how starting early can seriously speed up the process.

I share practical tips, real talk, and a little humor , because licensure info can be dry, but it doesn’t have to be stressful. If you’re in grad school, close to graduating, or feeling stuck in the licensure process, this episode is for you.

Tags:

• LPC-A
• Licensed Professional Counselor Associate
• Counseling Licensure
• NCE Exam
• NBCC
• South Carolina LLR
• Counseling Graduate Students
• Therapist in Training
• Mental Health Licensure
• Counseling Careers
• Graduate School Counseling
• New Therapists
• Unplugged Therapy Podcast
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NBCC (National Board for Certified Counselors)

👉 https://www.nbcc.org

(Create your account, register for the NCE, and manage exam info)

South Carolina LLR – Board of Examiners for LPCs

👉 https://llr.sc.gov/professional-counselors

(Apply for your LPC-A, upload documents, and track your application)

Email transcript to Contact.Counselor@llr.sc.gov

This episode discusses grief and loss. Listener discretion is advised.

Episode: Grief During the Holidays, Holding Joy and Loss at the Same Time

The holidays can bring comfort, connection, and celebration, but for many people, they can also intensify grief. Family gatherings, old traditions, familiar music, and seasonal memories often stir emotions that feel heavier this time of year.

In this episode of Unplugged Therapy, we talk honestly about grief during the holidays, why it can feel more intense, and how to support yourself when emotions come in waves. Grief doesn’t follow a timeline, and it doesn’t disappear just because the season changes.

Drawing from therapeutic insight, lived experience, and reflections inspired by Joan Didion’s The Year of Magical Thinking, this conversation offers validation, psychoeducation, and practical tools to help you navigate the holidays with more compassion and less pressure.

In this episode, we explore:

Why grief often feels stronger during the holiday season

How memory, tradition, and the nervous system are connected

What it means to “lower expectations” when you’re grieving

Simple grounding tools for overwhelming moments

How to set boundaries and stay connected without emotional burnout

Why it’s okay to experience grief and moments of joy at the same time

Grief looks different for everyone, and however it shows up for you this season is valid.

If the holidays feel especially hard this year, you’re not alone. Support is available through local counseling resources, and the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7 for immediate support.

Listen now and give yourself permission to breathe through this season, one moment at a time.

Tags:

grief

holiday grief

grieving during the holidays

loss and grief

mental health podcast

therapy podcast

emotional healing

nervous system regulation

coping with loss

holiday stress

self-compassion

trauma-informed

Unplugged Therapy

healing conversations

Healing isn’t a straight line—and slow progress doesn’t mean you’re stuck. In this episode of Unplugged Therapy, Stephanie Evans explores the “in-between” moments of healing: when old triggers resurface, grace feels distant, and growth seems invisible. She shares personal stories, practical tools, and gentle reminders that even quiet, small steps count.

Want to go deeper? Sign up for Stephanie’s email list to get a free journal download packed with prompts and reflections to guide your healing journey: [your website/landing page link].

Take a deep breath. Slow healing is still healing—and you are exactly where you’re meant to be.

References / Recommended Reading:

·       Brown, B. (2021). Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience.Random House.

·       Germer, C. K., & Neff, K. D. (2019). Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals.Guilford Press.

·       Levine, P. A. (2010). In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness. North Atlantic Books.

·       Neff, K. D. (2011). Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. William Morrow.

·       Siegel, D. J. (1999). The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are.Guilford Press.

·       Tedeschi, R. G., & Calhoun, L. G. (2004). “Posttraumatic Growth: Conceptual Foundations and Empirical Evidence.” Psychological Inquiry, 15(1), 1–18.

Episode Keywords / Tags:

Healing journey, trauma recovery, nervous system, self-compassion, mindfulness, post-traumatic growth, emotional wellness, personal growth, mental health podcast, therapy tips

Take a deep breath and settle in for this bonus guided reflection, a companion to the Foundations of Trauma series. In this 10-minute episode, Stephanie invites you to reflect on what you’ve learned, remember your resilience, and reclaim the parts of yourself that are ready to heal.

Through mindful prompts, affirmations, and a moment of faith-centered encouragement, you’ll be guided to slow down, listen to your body, and anchor into peace.

You’ll Reflect On:

• What truths about trauma have stayed with you

• The strengths that helped you survive difficult seasons

• What parts of yourself you’re ready to reclaim

• How faith and grace weave through your healing

Listener Reflection Guide (available in show notes or PDF):

1. What new understanding do I have about trauma and my body?
2. Which trauma response (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) feels most familiar?
3. What relationships feel safe and supportive right now?
4. What does reclaiming my self look like in this season?
5. What truth about my worth do I want to carry forward?
6. Where have I seen God’s presence in my healing journey?

Daily Affirmations:

• My healing unfolds at the pace it needs to.

• I can hold pain and hope at the same time.

• My body is my ally, not my enemy.

• I am loved beyond my wounds.

• I am becoming whole.

Tags:

trauma healing, faith-based therapy, nervous system regulation, inner child, mindfulness, Christian therapy, self-worth, spiritual growth, emotional healing, mental health, guided meditation, resilience

Episode 5 of the Foundations of Trauma series brings the journey full circle — from understanding trauma’s impact on the body and relationships to rediscovering who you are beyond the pain.

Stephanie explores how trauma can fracture identity, creating feelings of disconnection, shame, and loss of self. Citing research from Frontiers in Psychology and the Journal of Traumatic Stress, she explains how the brain protects us through “self-fragmentation” and how rebuilding self-compassion is key to recovery.

Through faith-based reflection and gentle practice, listeners are guided to see themselves through a lens of grace rather than shame. Scripture from Isaiah 43:1 reminds us that identity is not defined by trauma but by the One who redeems and restores.

Stephanie offers practical ways to reconnect with your authentic self—listening inward, practicing compassion, reclaiming joy, and nurturing safe relationships. This episode closes the Foundations of Trauma series with a heartfelt message: you are not broken; you are becoming whole.

References for Show Notes

• Frewen, P. A., & Lanius, R. A. (2020). Healing the Traumatized Self: Consciousness, Neuroscience, Treatment.Frontiers in Psychology. Link
• van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin Books.
• Hoffart, A., Øktedalen, T., & Langkaas, T. F. (2019). Self-compassion is a powerful predictor of recovery from trauma. Journal of Traumatic Stress. Link
• The Holy Bible, Isaiah 43:1

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• trauma recovery

• healing identity

• self-compassion

• faith and trauma

• Christian mental health

• shame and worth

• trauma-informed faith

• body keeps the score

• reclaiming self after trauma

• nervous system healing

• emotional healing

• trauma education

• spiritual healing

• identity in Christ

• • post-traumatic growth

Episode 3 of the Foundations of Trauma series dives into one of the most misunderstood parts of trauma: that it doesn’t always come from catastrophic events. Stephanie explains the difference between “Big T” and “little t” trauma — from life-altering crises to the slow erosion of self-worth that can happen through criticism, neglect, or rejection.

With insights from the American Psychological Association and research like the ACE Study (Felitti et al., 1998), this episode shows how small, chronic stressors can rewire the nervous system and alter how we experience safety, trust, and identity.

From a faith perspective, Stephanie reminds us that God doesn’t rank pain — He gathers every tear, even the unseen ones. Through guided reflection and gentle questions, listeners are invited to honor their quiet wounds instead of minimizing them, and to begin seeing awareness as the doorway to healing.

Whether you’ve experienced overt trauma or subtle emotional wounding, this episode offers understanding, compassion, and hope — a reminder that your story matters, and your healing is sacred.

TAGS:

• trauma healing

• big T vs little t trauma

• emotional neglect

• faith and trauma

• nervous system healing

• ACE study

• Christian mental health

• developmental trauma

• emotional wounds

• trauma-informed faith

• understanding trauma

• body-mind connection

• religious trauma recovery

• chronic stress

• inner child healing

This episode continues our Foundations of Trauma series with a deep dive into how trauma lives in the body. Stephanie explains how the nervous system learns to protect us, sometimes by staying in constant alert or by shutting down entirely, and how those responses are not weakness, but evidence of survival.

You’ll learn about the brain’s key players in trauma, the amygdala, hippocampus, and prefrontal cortex, and how they shape memory, fear, and safety. Stephanie also brings faith into the conversation, reminding us that our bodies are “fearfully and wonderfully made,” even when they hold tension or fear.

Rather than offering coping strategies, this episode focuses on understanding and compassion. You’ll be guided to reflect on where your body might still be guarding and how to gently invite safety back in.

Tags:

• trauma healing
• body keeps the score
• nervous system regulation
• faith and trauma
• somatic awareness
• emotional healing
• trauma-informed faith
• Christian mental health
• trauma and the brain
• mind-body connection
• trauma education
• nervous system healing
• embodied faith
• religious trauma recovery
• understanding PTSD

Taking the NCE can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to! In this episode, I walk you through my personal experience preparing for and taking the National Counselor Exam. I spent three months preparing with books, practice questions, and careful review of counseling concepts.

I also share a tip that made test day less stressful: visiting the testing location a few weeks early to find it among 11 other businesses and asking a few questions beforehand. Plus, I discuss strategies for reading multiple-choice questions, pacing yourself, and approaching the exam with confidence.

Whether you’re just starting your NCE prep or looking for encouragement, this episode provides practical tips, research-backed insights, and a glimpse into my own journey as a counselor. Check the episode notes for links to the resources I used!

YouTube:

Dr. Pam

NCE Prep

Dr. Rosenthal

Books:

NCE Exam Prep Blue Book

Mometrix

Dr. Rosenthals Purple Book

Tags / Keywords:

• NCE exam tips
• National Counselor Exam
• counselor exam prep
• test day strategies
• multiple-choice test tips
• counseling student advice
• mental health career
• therapy education
• counselor licensure exam
• exam prep motivation
• study strategies for NCE
• distributed practice tips
• test anxiety help
• counseling psychology

Foundations of Trauma is a podcast about understanding what trauma really is, and how healing happens from the inside out. Hosted by Stephanie Evans, a therapist-in-training and survivor of high-control religion, this show explores the emotional, physical, and spiritual layers of trauma in a grounded, compassionate way.

Each episode blends clinical insight with real-life reflection and gentle faith integration, helping listeners redefine trauma, understand their nervous system, and reconnect with safety, self-worth, and grace.

This is a space for anyone who’s ever wondered, “Why can’t I just move on?” or “Why does my body still feel unsafe?”You’ll find warmth, understanding, and hope here, no quick fixes, no spiritual bypassing, just honest conversations about what it means to heal.

You’re not broken. You’re becoming whole.

In this deeply personal episode, I share my heart as I walk through what it’s been like to deconstruct the fear-based teachings of the IBLP and step into the true, freeing love of God. With vulnerability and Scripture, I invite listeners to begin healing from the lies of legalism and reconnect with the heart of the One True God.

Raised under IBLP? You're not alone. In this episode, Stephanie exposes 9 core lies taught by Bill Gothard—and replaces them with the freeing truth of Scripture. It’s time to break the silence, reclaim your voice, and rediscover a God who doesn’t control through fear, but heals through love.

Many of us were handed a version of God wrapped in fear, control, and shame—taught that obedience equals love and questioning equals rebellion. In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers of religious legalism to rediscover who God really is—apart from man-made rules and spiritual manipulation. We’ll talk about what legalism looks like, how it distorts faith, and why reclaiming God is an act of healing. This is a conversation for the deconstructing, the doubting, and the deeply hurt—those who still long for connection with God but need to shed the weight of toxic religion first. You’re not crazy. You’re not alone. Let’s talk about it.

Starting therapy can feel intimidating—especially if you don’t know what to expect. In this episode of Unplugged Therapy, we pull back the curtain on the first therapy session. From the moment you walk in (or log on) to the questions your therapist might ask, we talk through it all—honestly and without the jargon.

Whether you’ve never been to therapy or you’re returning after a break, this conversation is here to ease anxiety, answer common questions, and remind you: you don’t have to have it all figured out to begin.

We’ll cover:

• What the first session is (and isn’t)

• What therapists are really listening for

• How to know if it's a good fit

• And why you don’t need to share everything on day one

This episode is your reminder that therapy is for everyone—and taking that first step is something to be proud of.Thinking about starting therapy? In this episode, we walk through exactly what happens in a first session—no pressure, no clinical jargon. Just honest talk about what to expect, how to prepare, and why showing up is already a win.

What happens when obedience is valued more than honesty — and authority is never questioned?

In this episode, I’m sharing my personal journey of growing up in the teachings of the Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP), and how that environment slowly caused me to lose my voice. This isn’t about blaming anyone — it’s about shedding light on a system that framed silence as faithfulness and submission as spiritual maturity.

We’ll talk about IBLP’s “umbrella of authority” model, the ways it shaped identity (especially for girls), and how internalizing these beliefs made it hard to trust my own thoughts, emotions, and decisions. I’ll also share how I’m working to rebuild that trust, rediscover my voice, and hold on to a gentler, freer faith.

If you’ve ever felt like you had to shrink yourself to be “good enough,” this episode is for you.

Anxiety is loud—but you can turn the volume down.

In this honest, practical episode, we’re diving into the messy, everyday reality of anxiety. From harmless worry to full-on catastrophizing, this episode is your guide to understanding what’s happening in your brain—and how to respond with grace, not panic.

What you’ll learn:

• Why anxiety is actually normal—and when it becomes too much
• The different types of anxiety (and how to tell what you're experiencing)
• What it means to “catastrophize” and how to challenge those thoughts
• A simple, therapist-backed CBT tool called decatastrophizing
• Grounding and calming techniques you can use anytime anxiety shows up

This isn’t about “fixing” yourself—it’s about understanding your mind and supporting your body through the hard moments. You’re not alone, and you’re not broken. You’re human—and that’s more than enough.

If this episode resonates, don’t forget to follow, review, or share it with someone who could use a little calm today.

In Part Two of my journey out of IBLP, I dive into the emotional and spiritual toll of growing up in a system where fear and performance were mistaken for faith. I explore how the inner child is silenced in environments where feelings are labeled as sin, and how I’ve begun the tender work of reconnecting with that little girl inside—the one who was never allowed to just be. If you’ve struggled with shame, emotional disconnection, or still feel the weight of spiritual trauma, this episode is for you.

In this special episode, we open up about what it means to struggle with mental health and how to hold on when life feels heavy. Whether you’re facing depression, anxiety, emotional exhaustion, or simply need encouragement, this is a safe space for your heart to breathe.

We’ll talk through:

• How to recognize emotional distress and signs of struggle
• Simple but powerful ways to care for your mind, body, and spirit
• Where to find help when you feel stuck or in crisis
• Why your life has purpose, even when you can’t see it
• The unshakable hope found in Jesus

With prayer, Scripture, and gentle truth, this episode is here to remind you that you are not forgotten and you are not too far gone. There is help. There is healing. And there is hope.

Need support? Call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

Crisis Text Line | Text HOME to 741741 Free, 24/7

Find a local therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

In this deeply personal episode, I begin to unpack my story growing up in the IBLP (Institute in Basic Life Principles), founded by Bill Gothard. This isn’t just about a high-control religious group—it’s about how fear-based faith shaped every part of my life: from how I dressed, to how I thought, to how I viewed God. I share the silent pressures, the rigid rules, and how leaving the system didn’t immediately bring freedom—it brought questions, confusion, and the beginning of healing.